heres the story...we've been dating almost three months. he's divorced for two years, with a 5 yr old girl. he chose to end the marriage becuase they constantly fought, (tried counselling and all) and it never worked. she told him to leave a bunch of times, and he finally did. Ever since we've been dating, she is making child access much harder for him and also getting on his case for dating me. he says he would never go back to her, and i trust that. he says ive been acting like im upset lately, so ive decided to tell him that this is on my mind. i want him to know i want to continue our relationship, but i also think we need to come up with a solution on dealing with her drama. is this a good idea to discuss this with him??
2006-06-17 21:27:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can relate. First off, make your boyfriend get a lawyer to defend his rights and make sure the childs rights to him are met. That way she can't use the child against him, for her guilt purposes or manipulation. He doesn't want to look back and have crap over his head that he should sort out now and be done with. I think that alone will put an end to having to deal with the ex only for about the child reasons. Then have a talk with confidence about the ex situation. She is trying to make him miserable and if putting trouble in your relationship is a way she will use it. Don't sound jealous or too upset, just concerned and caring about what you two have now. Let him understand that being with him also means you are part of this equation and your feelings matter, Then afterwards have a great (you know what I mean girl) evening with him so he doesn't forget that working things out with you ALWAYS will pay off. GOOD LUCK!
2006-06-17 22:40:57 · answer #1 · answered by D.T. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex husbands wife is making my life a nightmare. i know where you are coming from.
if you dont talk to him about it and bottle it up, it will spill out sooner or later. i know why she is doing that about making access to his child harder, it's because she is jealous. she might not want him back, but yet she dosent want to see him happy with you either.
i just pray that she doesnt try to bring the child in on this by trying to brainwash that little girl. my ex husband has done this to me and i have been in court over 3 time in the last year because of it. it gets alot funner on down the road.
but, yes, definatley talk to him about it.
2006-06-17 22:10:23 · answer #2 · answered by Tracey E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, discuss it, but you need to think long and hard about how much you are willing to put up with . 3 months isn't very long to already be putting up with someone's serious family drama, you might consider getting out before things escalate any further. Tell him to look you up when he gets this situation straightened out.
2006-06-17 21:47:39 · answer #3 · answered by mamabunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you do need to talk to him about what is bothering you. He needs to know he's not a mind reader. Holding it in will only cuz problems between the two of you.
2006-06-17 22:55:34 · answer #4 · answered by brighteyes62301 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, he is allowing this behavior, He needs to tell her to stop, contact his lawyer for time with his kid. The ex needs to grow up and move on.
2006-06-17 21:49:48 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to discuss this with him immediately! I'm tellign you you are sitting on a time bomb
2006-06-17 22:43:21 · answer #6 · answered by o2la 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-06-17 21:33:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋