i told him that i wasnt having sex before my 15th bday and thats only two months away. i already promised i would have sex with him after my 15th if i felt ready and im feelin ready now i just wanna wait. can people give me advice on sex.
2006-06-17 21:21:56 · 21 answers · asked by ani 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body
15? Is that even the age of consent where you live? It may be the case that having sex with you is a crime called statutory rape in your locale. This means that your bf would be committing a felony for which he could go to prison!
I don't know about this promise about after your fifteenth birthday, either. If your mom knew, she'd probably throw a fit. I'm not your mom, I don't even know you, but I feel like throwing a fit anyway!
If he really loves you, he'll wait until you're 18, at least!
2006-06-17 21:30:26 · answer #1 · answered by Beckee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First things first, others are right. If you are asking this question, you are obviously not ready. If you were ready, you'd be able to do it without asking. It'd be a personal choice. So I would say no matter what you promised, it's not worth it since you probably really DON'T want to do this.
Second, this guy obviously is pushing you to have sex, am I wrong? The fact that you have to keep giving him a time when you will be ready gives me the impression that he is pressing this part of the relationship on you. I know it sounds kind of stupid now, but trust me, those kind of relationships suck, you'll only get hurt if you do this just because of him, you will find other guys that won't confuse you to the point of asking on a message board what to do. If you want to wait, WAIT. Sex is for YOU the first time around, so PLEASE, stick to your values. And if for some reason you think you truly are ready (I really wish you wouldn't) make sure you use protection and read how to do it properly and don't let your boyfriend talk you into ANYTHING you don't want to do.
I suggest you visit this website:
http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/girls/virginity.html
Think twice - every decision you make with your body is YOUR decision.
2006-06-17 21:34:15 · answer #2 · answered by TelleyJade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you have to promise your boyfriend that you will have sex with him after your 15th birthday...Hun here is the biggest thing that your over looking..It sounds like in a way your boyfriend is pressuring you to do it. Don't ever do anything that you don't wanna do..because honestly sex should be a very small part of a relationship. Ask yourself this...Will he stay with you if you don't have sex with him? If not then he doesnt really love you. And also ask yourself this....wouldn't it be nicer to have sex with someone who doesnt pressure you and it happens because you both love each other. I think you should really really evaluate your situation before you rush anything because im telling you this from a guys persepctive...Men at his age only care about one thing...and some day your gonna look back on your life and feel like you wasted something special...
2006-06-17 21:27:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex when I was 15 -- for very similar reasons as you -- was the worst mistake of my life. I lost myself completely and wound up suffering so needlessly. No matter how ready you believe you are, trust me your life will be so much smoother and effortless if you wait as long as humanly possible! If you can't honestly say you are ready to have a child with your bf as father then you are not ready! And birth control doesn't guarantee anything. I got pregnant on my period using a condom -- but thankfully I was ready for motherhood. Don't throw away your beautiful and precious virginity out of obligation! Save it and know that you are so worth the wait -- however long that is!!
2006-06-17 21:35:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do itt.... in the first place, you're a minor and you can't deal with the consequences of a std and/or a pregnancy; in the second place, even if you were 25 and you were asking this it is a signal that you're not ready to have sex yet.
2006-06-17 21:25:18 · answer #5 · answered by ma_isa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world would you want to go and do something like that? Something like that shouldn't be done so hastily. Think about what you are doing and what it will do to you. Tell this guy to forget it. You don't owe him anything. Do you have anyone to talk to about this besides asking strangers on this forum? If so, please confide in them. Find someone you trust. If whatever is said here doesn't matter and you go through with it, at LEAST make sure protection is used !!! I hope you don't rush this.. You have your whole life ahead of you.
2006-06-17 21:33:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
having sex when you are 15 you might have a baby at 2 day before your 17 bday
2006-06-17 21:27:33 · answer #7 · answered by Dutchkid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you should give in to your urge. if my daughter was 14 and thinking about having sex i would probably get angry with her. you are far to young to have sex anyway in my mind. even if you feel preasured cause of your friends u should respect yourself and wait. sex is not a bonus in life but a privelage one must not take litely. now its your choice and your body just be carefull of your decision cause if you do go through with it you cant take it back. i hope this helps you in some way. be careful and smarter than what your working with.
2006-06-17 21:39:43 · answer #8 · answered by s_crakler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first sex isn't all that. yah its nice but to many responsibilities... i am 27 and had sex when i was 15. i wish i would have waited longer. i just had my 2nd baby and if you spent 1 day you would realize sex is for adults and even then its alot of stress.. what happens if the condom breaks r u going to kill your baby w/abortion, when you were women enuf to lay down and have sex????? kids r alot of work and you don't think hes going to stay with you to get married or do you want hella partners in this day in age your playing russian roullette with your life... thats YOUR body do what YOU think is right cuz after you feel cheap and he leaves you cant take your virginity back. goodluck and don't let him pressure you...................................
2006-06-17 21:31:33 · answer #9 · answered by christa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie sweetie sweetie, you're tooo too young! The VERY FACT that you're asking this question tells us you're having doubts, so dont do it. and DEFINTELY dont do it just because you made a promise to this guy! believe me if he leaves you just because you change your mind then he is NOT worth your time!!!!! and you deserve better! and if you're too scared to change your mind cos of what he might thing, then he is obviously not an approachable guy and he is then pressuring you into doing it (even though you promised) you have a right to change your mind!!!!!!!!! all the best PS THERE IS MORE CHANCE THAT YOU'LL REGRET DOING IT THAN THERE IS A CHANGE YOU'LL REGRET NOT DOING IT, if that makes sense!
2006-06-17 21:28:50 · answer #10 · answered by supagrrrl84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋