It's hard for me to be at a cook out or party or anywhere that there is a group of people. Even some relatives. I always feel like I'm the ugliest and maybe dumbest one there and that everyone is looking at me with disgust. It's horrible. I hate going out anywhere anymore. Even stores. Help!
2006-06-17 20:50:01 · 16 answers · asked by LeAnne 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Take comfort in knowing that the only people who would think bad thoughts about you or laugh at you behind your back are people who are psychologically under-developed and immature. People who feel good about themselves look for what's good in others.
Instead of dwelling on your own fears of rejection, why not look for things that you really like in others instead....and compliment them...if not with words then in your own head. In other words try replacing YOUR negative thinking about others with nice thoughts about them instead. Maybe your obsession with others thinking bad thoughts about you -- is a projection? Aren't you the one thinking that people are mean and nasty inside? Maybe you're doing exactly what you're afraid they're doing. Try finding good things to think about others instead -- and soon you won't be thinking those bad thoughts about them anymore! And this will help open up your heart and make you more 'attractive' to talk to and approach and be friendly with. People can most likely sense that your heart is hardened and distrustful. Smile and relate with the Light inside people -- and your own Light will break out of the shell you're keeping it locked up inside.
2006-06-17 21:16:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 2⤋
I have the same types of thoughts and feelings when I am on my way into a manic swing of my bipolar disorder.. if you feel this is affecting your life to the point that you believe hiding in your room and locking the door is the only escape you have from the pressures of the society as you know it.. perhap consider getting a referral to a mental health specialist..
yoga and meditation work wonders for self-esteem related social anxiety issues.. do everything you can to avoid taking the first prescription that comes your way. Natural alternatives and lifestyle changes might make the difference for you.
Good Luck :)
2006-06-18 04:39:49 · answer #2 · answered by lost_but_not_hopeless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, people do not think that way. It's probably what you think. You are probably very self conscious maybe because you have gained weight or something.
I'm saying this because I felt the same way when I gained 50 lbs and felt that all people hated me and that I looked so ugly. But in truth, I was the only one who was feeling that way. People may comment to you that you should lose weight or that you have gained weight (or whatever the case maybe in your situation), but try to stay positive and get the negative thoughts out of your mind.
People respond to what they see and hear. If you tell them that you are ugly and fat, they'll believe you and start treating you that way. If you say nothing and enjoy life with them as if nothing happened, they will treat you normal. Stop imagining/guessing what they will say/think because it'll drive you crazy... and they probably laugh about some joke not you.
Hope you do this.
2006-06-18 04:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by Lolita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are really insecure about yourself. I am wondering about how you where treated as a child? did someone close to you seem to critisize you alot? there are a few reasons why you might feel that way. You have to have confidence in your self. I have found out that people in high school thought I was cool and that i didn't take no crap off of anyone. I felt very picked on in school. I felt a little like you do now. but i have realized that everyone feels the same things that i do at different times. we are all human, we all have feelings. the thing is that not everyone is a beauty model. someone that you think is very pretty, might think of themselfs as not attractive. I know i is in you to get passed it. just realize that if you accept people around you, they will accept you.
2006-06-18 04:05:56 · answer #4 · answered by alicope76 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you have low self esteem... you are projecting your negative feelings about yourself into the minds of others. Just because you feel ugly/dumb etc it doesn't make it true. In reality it is simply a thought that exists in your head not someone else's.
The funny thing is that the thoughts you are having are really quite self absorbed. After all, don't you think the people at the store have better things to think about than 'how you look' or your level of intelligence? They would see hundreds of people everyday, their heads would explode if they thought like that about every customer!!
Try to think positive things about yourself. Say (or write down) at least one positive thing about yourself everyday and eventually your feelings will change! I am sure you are a beautiful person with a lot of potential...
2006-06-18 09:37:51 · answer #5 · answered by amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't think that people r thinking bad thoughts about you. First of all just think that you are good at heart, no one else can bother you, if other person thinks tht u r not good then its the problem of other person, because u know yourself tht u r good at heart and no other person can know you better than yourself. If anyone has any prejudice or misconception about you than its not your problem.Its his/her problem. Good looks are not everything, what really counts is your good nature and the fact that how good r u at heart for others and for urself.
Next time you go out, just think that "nobody bothers me", Be yourself and enjoy the life.
2006-06-18 04:09:34 · answer #6 · answered by ritz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simple. It's the spotlight effect. We all think that everybody is thinking and talking about us way more than they actually are. In reality, the people around you are likely feeling the same way you do. So just relax.
2006-06-18 09:57:24 · answer #7 · answered by The!AcademyIs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Social Anxiety and a very low self esteem mixed possibly with some type of depression it sounds like to me.
Consult your physician first... and tell him how you feel. Most likely he/she will put you on some type of anti-depressant or it's possible refer you to a psychiatrist for counseling.
2006-06-18 03:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by theroyalone69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You too? You have poor low self esteem. I take a natural supplement designed to reduce stress. It helps, and is better than un-natural meds doctors prescribe.
2006-06-18 03:55:00 · answer #9 · answered by scavenger_meat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact your insurance provider to see what mental health services they provide. If you don't have insurance contact you counties Behavioral Health department. In some counties they are linked in with Human Services.
2006-06-18 16:29:03 · answer #10 · answered by SAMANTHA B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋