Lately when me and my gf are together we have loads of moments of awkward silence.And I hate it because I have th efeeling that she is getting bored and annoyed and some day might leave me.
What can I do to avoid those silences? I know almost everything about her, so I can't ask much because I already know the answer.
2006-06-17 20:42:58 · 19 answers · asked by MauroDiogo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
OK, cuddle with her. when you cuddle there is no need for words. and if you have something to say, then you can say it.
2006-06-17 20:44:52 · answer #1 · answered by theswarm666x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people--not just women--prefer silence. You may be making the choice to consider the silence awkward.
You didn't say if there was a time that the two of you spoke more freely and often. Is that the case? If so, that was likely because it was the beginning of the relationship, when the two of you were discovering each other.
I've been married for nearly eight years to a man I dated for nearly four years before that. Silence is a wonderful thing. It can be because she's at peace.
Now, if you really are concerned, you're asking the wrong folks. There's only one person who can answer your question, and that's your girl. Don't go into the conversation assuming all these bad things that you have in mind. The next time a silence comes up, ask her what's on her mind. If she blows it off, tell her that you've been noticing more and more of the silent moments, and you wondered if there's something she's pondering. Ask if you can help her in some way.
But, do be prepared. If properly provoked, it may open the floodgates, and you might receive an answer that you're not ready for.
2006-06-18 04:00:26 · answer #2 · answered by Ancespiration 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you have more of a problem with the silences than your girlfriend does, has she told you she is bored with you? it seems you might be making quick assumptions about the way you think your girlfriend is feeling. Sometimes silences are not such a bad thing, but if you really feel awkward with the silence just hold your girlfriends hands, and look deep into her eyes, and tell her how much she means to you, sometimes it's the little gestures that speak volumes, the one thing you don't want to do is keep talking for the sake of talking, this would definitely become boring break the silence with humour, this could also work.
2006-06-18 05:05:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are u scared of saying the wrong thing? u may find your pressuring yourself to break the silence resulting in the situation getting more awkward u shudnt feel the need 2 play the role of entertainer actions speak louder than words anyway so try a playful nudge or teaseful playfight or mayb u need 2 go and do something spontaneous and fun as relationships can come to a standstill as they get too predictible and routine u jus need 2 discover the fun u used 2 have and ignite that spark uve both let simmer in the background for 2 long
2006-06-18 03:55:16 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like u two have just started dating. so u cant possibly know everything about her. my guy & i have been together for a while an we almost never have akward silences! when ur comfortable with the person, the words just seem to flow out smoothly. when my bf are together we just mostly talk about stuff going on in our lives. friends, family, or something funny. dont worry this phase with ur gf will pass soon.
o & when my bf and i first started dating, we had akward silences like that. but what we did to avoid them, was to just hold each other! we just hugged & for some reason the words just flowed out smoothly....so maybe try holding her....
good luck 2 u!
2006-06-18 03:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by Jam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with silence as long as it is comfortable silence. My guy and I could spend hours together in the same room and not need to say anything at all and we would never feel uncomfortable.
There must be an underlying issue to make these silences awkward. Perhaps your girl may not be uncomfortable after all and you're just stressing coz you feel like you should constantly verbally entertain her??
2006-06-18 03:47:15 · answer #6 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rule #1: NEVER assume you know about everything about her.. and even if you know the answers, well, maybe those answers are the problem and you may have something to do with them.
Rule #2: Don't "avoid" these moments... next time it happens ask her straightly what the hell is going on.. you deserve to know the truth, and/or if she doesn't want to be with you anymore, she should tell you now, and not wait any longer to hurt you even more... sorry, but you must face reality even when it isn't pretty.
2006-06-18 03:50:07 · answer #7 · answered by ma_isa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, this is a sign that maybe you two have been together long enough for you two to be comfortable just being around each other or maybe the thrill is gone. whatever the case you need to spice up the relationship and do something different.
2006-06-18 03:47:02 · answer #8 · answered by Erica j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your being neurotic. Stop worrying about the silence. Just chill, ask her about her day, talk about a movie, music, philosophy whatever. Theres nothing wrong with silence just cuddle.
2006-06-18 03:46:48 · answer #9 · answered by firefly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do more things with her. not just watch tv, get active. take a road trip to a beautiful park. go to a museum. art gallery opening. taking sailing classes together. etc... doing novel things together keeps the relationship young and the love strong, and conversation will be full and interesting (try it, you'll see)
2006-06-18 03:46:38 · answer #10 · answered by curious kitty 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
''Silence is golden''
Enjoy it.
If you feel a little awkward,look into her eyes and smile.
Makes a lot of difference and is much better than getting physical ...
2006-06-18 04:38:01 · answer #11 · answered by Emma Woodhouse 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋