i am a wife with bipolar, i am simply trying to make sure that what my husband puts up with from me and my illness, does not outwiegh the happiness and pleasure i bring him... i love giving my husband bjs because it is easy for me to know that he is pleased. i know when i go through my rough times he is surely as miserable as i am, i want him to be happy and satisfied with me, maybe its my way of trying to compesate him for what he puts up with, i dont know...i was just wanting some guys opinions, if you loved a girl with mental/emotional problems, would it be easier to go through the hard times if sex was always available, kinky, open minded and from what i can tell from his responses, good?
2006-06-17 20:37:09 · 9 answers · asked by Rose 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i like to do this for him, in no way do i feel he is taking advantage of me, in fact i get dissapointed when he turns me down...sometimes i'm to demanding, its one of my favorite ways of letting him know how much i care about him, and enjoy being with him, and i honestly enjoy his happiness on all levels, when hes not in a good mood, i'm not likely to be either, not because hes a jerk when hes in a bad mood, but because i enjoy his company more when hes in a good mood....
2006-06-17 21:07:42 · update #1
AND i like knowing that when my husband leaves for work, he is leaving the best i have to offer awaiting his return...
and yet i'm still insecure....go figure!
2006-06-17 21:13:15 · update #2
First of all.. congratulations on finding the secret to make a marriage work to begin with.. I am also bipolar and had no suck luck with mine :) ... bad times are an unfortunate part of the affliction.. if a daily BJ is the answer for what connects you.. and you are open to the idea of finding some level of connection through the act.. why not?
If either of you are ever uncomfortable with it on a good day or bad.. then figure out a different way.. relationships are all about compromise and communication.
As long as you are not putting yourself in a position to feel used and or taken advantage of regretful of making yourself available to him in a sexual sense... do what makes you both happy.
same goes for him.. if he feels like he is taking advantage of you sexually.. and just goes along with it .. with no respect for your feelings.. I would consider that some form of abuse of the relationship. Sex should make you both feel loved. It should be a connection on an emotional level as well as physical..
Whatever works for you as a couple.. enjoy it
2006-06-17 20:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by lost_but_not_hopeless 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are so up and down with your moods, why don't you take medication? and if you do, you might want to have it checked. I have been stable on meds for 8 years and my family doesn't have to go through anymore bad times..
But son't blame your wanting to blow your husband so much on bipolar..you make people with BP sound slutty.
2006-06-17 23:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by Mommadog 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will find it one day that the routine bjs does not excite him anymore. Humans like surprises. Change in environment, style etc would keep the excitement rolling... Don't do the same thing over and over again. It will get outdated.
2006-06-17 22:48:27 · answer #3 · answered by OnTheTreadmill 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok yes oral is nice but just giving him oral because your feel guilty means you are now only swallowing --but swallowing your self-worth and pride. If you do that enough you wind up being a bitter hateful person.. Do not give out of guilt give out of love--there is a difference
2006-06-17 20:54:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes,yes you are doing the right thing and he probally does love it every day I know I would without a doubt.
but do you swallow or not that is the question.
2006-06-17 20:56:55 · answer #5 · answered by roughgar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a chick, I'd have to say all men would love a chick as sexually open minded as you.
2006-06-17 21:02:50 · answer #6 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want a bipolar girlfriend that thinks like you...
2006-06-17 20:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YEA A GOOD BJ EVERYDAY IS ALWAYS GOOD. DO YOU SWALLOW?
2006-06-17 20:41:07 · answer #8 · answered by BIG DICK 69 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do all bi polar chics swallow?
2006-06-17 22:44:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋