ok u guys i have to ask u something. my dr who is about 50 has been flirting with me for about 3 mo. at 1st i thought it was all in my mind because who wants to admit that their dr is doing this right?anyways,he is flirting and saying things that a guy who wants to get to know you better would say! i am starting to develope a crush on him, he is not the type of guy that i normally would even look at but he is always complimenting me on how nice i look and he called me at home once about stuff that really had nothing to do with my visit. its so obvious that he is flirting, and he wears a wedding ring!!! what do you think his motives are? isn't that unethical for him to do this? i dont feel taken advantage of or even really offended by his behavior, but i do want to know why a married 50 year old dr would even go that route with me a 22 year old young woman? what do u guys think? i flirted back at my last appointment( i know, i know) and he was really happy and excited but now im nervous
2006-06-17 20:23:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
God, whatever type of flirting is that, it is still UNETHICAL
considering his AGE and PROFESSION.
you are NOT attracted to him, you just like the ATTENTION he is giving to you!
go find another doctor, it's not too late.
2006-06-19 19:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by cyberjake2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Flirting is flirting - it can be taken a lot of different ways. It could be viewed as unethical - or simply friendly, depending on who was looking at it. What would be unethical would be him asking you out on a date or suggesting to you he would like some type of relationship. If he is wearing a wedding band it's clear he's married, which means you should stop the flirting and keep everything doctor/patient only. Obviously if he is flirting with you perhaps he is hoping something comes of it - but sinve he's married it would probably be a sex thing, and certainly nothing of substance since he couldn't have a real relationship with you.
You don't want to be the other woman - and it would be very immoral of you to break up a marriage or contribute to him cheating on his wife. If you feel nervous about this situation then maybe you should stop seeing him as your physician and get a new doctor.
2006-06-17 20:33:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others...Flirting is flirting...HOWEVER!!! Depending on what kind of doctor he is to you, you may want to reconsider where you're going. If its your eye doctor...who cares. If its the gynocologist, maybe wanna think about running away? I obviously don't have a gynocologist being that I'm a guy, but when my doctor tells me to turn my head and cough, he's got about 3 seconds to do his job or else he's getting a swift kick in the junk :)
2006-06-30 21:49:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men around his age go through an identity crisis. Many of them still love their wives without question but see the change that is taking place when they look in the mirror. It scares them and they wonder if they are still attractive to the opposite sex. Most women go through the same thing. This is the reason why so many men and women have affairs about this age. Usually a little younger for women. If he's a nice guy, tell him so. Tell him you'd snag him if you were closer to the same age and he wasn't married. You know, build his ego a little bit to help him through this stage. But never, never lead him on to think you'll do anything with him.
2006-06-17 20:45:06 · answer #4 · answered by oldman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no u need to stop right there. he is married, ur doctor, and hella old. i know ppl are saying flirting is fine but thats where it all begins. flirting. before u know he'll have u on your back during an examination! talk to him & let him know that u dont think this is very unethical & apologize for letting it go further than it should have.
dont flirt anymore. change doctors & dont answer his call. i know u like him but what kind of relationship do u think u two will have? hes married. tell him to go home & bang his wife.
2006-06-17 20:37:04 · answer #5 · answered by Jam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, sweetie, what do YOU think his motives are? doesnt sound very healthy to me... he's 50, you're 22? THAT'S why he'd go that route!!! c'mon, a hot lil lady, compared to his wife of god knows how long? i'm sure it may be flattering, but i think it's a big ol' red flag... YOU DONT WANT TO CREATE A MESS, if he's truly into you, and obviously not tickled pink over his current situation, he'll divorce his wife, and pursue you the rite way. other wise, he's very much a grown man, and knows that he is not behaving adult-like, let along professional. and, besides, do you know for a fact that he doesnt do this to all his attractive, young patients?
2006-06-17 20:56:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's just casual flirting then I don't see a problem. Flirting keeps a girl young. However, if it goes beyond that then there's definitely a problem there.
2006-06-17 20:28:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very unethical because he is violating and not respecting his patient, and he seems to be too old for you. What kind of doctor is he anyway? I think you should find another doctor cause this one sounds like a sicko who isn't getting it from his wife and is letting out his horny urges on you.
2006-06-17 20:29:23 · answer #8 · answered by Divalicious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's of course unethical for his career and his marriage.
He sounds like he wants a young little fling.
Think about it though - on how far you want it to go - it's pretty low to mess with a married man.
2006-06-17 20:57:53 · answer #9 · answered by Miss. Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's unethical for him to flirt with you.
2006-06-17 20:39:45 · answer #10 · answered by jerkygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋