This is a little embarrassing to ask....[please, girls only answer this!]?

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ok, personally, i think im VERY ugly. i wear makeup, but i dont think i need any blush because my cheeks are already kind of rosy... And i have freckles too...but you cant really see them...My hair is ridiculous! It is VERY puffy. And it stops at my shoulders. That isnt very good because it makes my hair look like a triangle. [ugh] And, people think im a little weird...I have no idea why..Well, except one other thing that im not ready to go public with yet. And everyone keeps calling my birthmark a hickie! I mean come on! Its one of those red circle birthmarks.It really hurts. And my parents are always telling me to do stuff. I mean the only free time i have is when i go to sleep. And i have never had a boyfriend before. AND i barely have any friends and everyone talks bad about me. And to top all that i dont feel right with my religion. [I am a christian].Any advice?

thankyou everyone! i couldnt possibly choose who helped me most, you all helped me SO much!

Answer 1

...remember how the ugly duckling grows into the swan? I'm sure that this is the case for you. I was the same way..a late bloomer. Just do well at school, and get decent grades and continue on to college. You will find your place. Same goes for religion...when you take a comparative religions course, it gives you an overall spectrum of all religions...this may point you in the right direction. You may consider the books by SARK...they are helpful for giving budding women inspiration.

Answer 2

dump the blush
get mousse for the hair/get a haircut
coverup for the birthmark
pump up the mascara too, lashes are good

I am really sorry you feel this way. Ive been through this before too.

Talk to your parents and tell them how you feel. They need to know.

Good thing is its summer.

This is the time of year that you can fix anything. Whether its a nasty fuckup or bad rep its easy to fix in the summer.

Ask your friends and family to be blunt. It hurts but it helps.

Make a BANG in the fall and keep friends close.

Get more sleep, you sound tired, poor thing.

I have never had a bf either. But Im fifteen.

The main reason I WANT to be single is....

Well, I screwed up last summer. I liked a guy, he liked me back. I was so close...until someone else came into the picture.
This guy was two years older than me (I was 14 he was 16) and I was a wreck in the fall. I was breaking down on the inside and I hated myself.
I call those my dark days.

But then I realized that if I dont feel confident about myself, then I SHOULDNT have a boyfriend, because I wouldnt be able to provide the emotional support he needs.
Guys are attracted to the strong, not the weak.
Its been almost a year since then and Ive heard people say that guys say Im hot, sexy, etc.
But I still have to make my goals and actually FIND someone.

Its not when a girl becomes hot when guys start to notice her, its her personality that keeps them coming back.

Who wants a hot partner thats racist? I mean come on.

As Reese Witherspoon commented in Legally Blonde....

Dont fight it. CHANGE it!

Hope that helps and good luck.

Answer 3

I wish you had given your age. If you think your hair is ridiculous because it is so puffy, have it thinned. That's easy. There is a make -up available at most department stores that covers birthmarks. It may be too expensive for you at this time. Just use a concealer before putting on your makeup and carry it with you for touch-ups during the day. Are you gay? Is that the other thing? Not feeling right about your religion? Darling, you don't feel right about anything in your life or yourself right now, To feel right about your religion and Christianity you must first really understand it. If everyone talks bad about you and thinks you are weird, you must be doing something to cause it. I think you are in grave need for counseling immediately. You obviously need to change your behavior. Until you do and feel comfortable with and like yourself, no one else will either. All this must come before you develop relationships with the opposite sex.

Answer 4

If your hair is puffy it sound like you're tiring to go against your hair type (curly probably) My hair was always puffy because I tried to make it straight and the triangle thing is all to familiar. Stupid stylist always try to talk you into layers AND THAT
MAKES IT WORST it's also so ugly. They are so use to straight hair they treat it all the same and IT IS NOT. It's amazing what a difference hair makes. Try washing your hair brushing it in the shower (Don't pile it up on you head and don't let you're hair stylist do it either) Only brush your hair when wet, gently squeeze out the extra water, apply mousse while it's still wet and brush through. Than let it air dry and don't brash it while it's dry or even almost dry that's when it gets puffy.

All through high school I wore my hair in a bun for a few minutes of straight hair that quickly went puffy, but now people actually stop me on the street to say how much they like my hair and who did it(they think I curl it or make it wavy) I say God did it. All that time I was fighting against what I had. I think I would have been much more popular in High School with the hair I have now, it definitely would have made me more confident.

Oh yeah the longer you let your hair grow the better the weight stops a lot of the frzziness, or puffiness. I always prayed for long hair when I was straighening it, but I was making it shorter by brushing it dry, damaging it and the shorter it was the BIGGER it was.

Answer 5

First of all you shouldn't worry about what other people think of you and then dont give up on your religion if you are a cristian then you should keep with your faith. Talk to your preacher about your feelings they can be very helpful. One other thing if you are bothered by your birthmark and your rose cheeks I would suggest getting this makeup that is called sheer cover it is great for all the problems you have talked about, and if your hair style bothers you go and have it cut, not shorter but you could have layers or something done that could make you feel better about it, look in magazines for hairstyles you like and take a picture with you when you go to have your hair styled they can help you. Good Luck and God Bless
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Answer 6

All i can say is b who u r, cuz when you pretend to b what everyone else wants then that will make you more miserable
with your self. Just do some soul searching and everything will fall into place . As for your religion, do what you feel in your heart, you don't need to tell anyone how u feel , you can keep it to yourself. If you didn't want to keep it to your self then you shouldn't. let the world know. Your family should love you no matter what right? ( I am a agnostic, and am very proud of it. I'm not sure whats out there if anything. So like I said B who you are and everything will fall into place!!

Good Luck!!

Answer 7

Ok, first off, we paint ourselves worse than people perceive us in our own minds. There is no way that you are as ugly as you think that you are. Go get your hair shaped at a salon to feel better about your hair. Some of the most interesting people that I have ever met have been wierd, and I have been known to be a little, hum, off kilter myself, but I don't care. I just surround myself with crazier people than I am. Good news about your birthmark, first, you can have it lightened or removed, second, if it looks like a hickey, just tell people that being crazy drives the men wild and you can't keep them off of you. your parents are going to tell you to do stuff, because that is their job, they are your parents. You won't be at home forever, it only feels that way, so try not to let it get you down. Don't think that boys are the be all end all of defining yourself. I got involved with a guy when I was young, and I thought that he loved me. I wasted 8 years with him and never got to go to College ( I wanted to study Art in Europe, he didn't want me to go) I barely have any friends, too...that's alright with me because I have the best few crazy friends that anyone could ask for. I wonder why you don't feel right about being a Christian? Jesus was always the first one to reach out to the crazy people (the Tax collectors and the sinners of society) and tell then that they are just great in his eyes, so much so that he died for them. I think that you should join a youth group, and get more involved. You'll make friends that will be a positive influance in your life. Keep your chin up. The teenage years only last for a decade. Adult hood lasts for a lifetime after that, then the real headache starts!!!! Good luck to you my friend and God bless you.

Answer 8

Ok, i have some advice for you. I'm not going to be one of those people that say, be happy the way you are, because honestly sometimes it just gets annoying, so i'll tell you what you could do to be a little bit prettier. Ok, first of all, get a haircut and make sure to get layers. Ask your haircutter. She/he might have some good advice for haircuts that would look great on you. Also, pluck your eyebrows regurlary, use foundation over your face, DON'T ever have a unobrow (ewww), and shave your legs. For that you could also ask your doctor about Benziclin. It's a face lotion that totally takes care of pimples and blackheads, which btw, suck. Sit down with your parents and talk to them about you having some of your own free time. If people think you're wierd, stand up to them and ask them what the hell. Just force yourself to talk to more people and not be so shy. This will definetely earn you more friends. If you need anymore help, my e-mail is [e-mail]. Hope this helps!

Answer 9

1st, you need to really look at your self. Is there something you like about you? ( B-Honest.)
How ever you feel about you, will reflect on others. I'm sure your hair isn't the problem, nor your face, much less your B-mark. It is probably your attitude about your self. Oh yeah! People get very tired of complainers...
Parents will be parents, and remember it won't be for ever.
Now. religion must be something you feel not something that is pushed to you. Maybe start with, do you believe there is a higher power? If so pray the serenity prayer. Take care. ; )

Answer 10

for frizzy or naturally curly hair, try Redken Ringlet to soften the curls but not make them "crunchy" also you could put layers in your hair to prevent the triangle-look. try some make up on the birthmark, one that is used to cover tattoos. Freckles are cute, don't do anything with those. Don't look down on yourself, Even the popular girls have some things that they are not totally confident about. As far as religion, talk to God about it and you will get an answer. He will not let you down. If you feel insecure about your outward appearance, he will help you through it. Depend on him...