Thanks for all the great answers to my previous question "If he doesn't know if he loves me does that mean he doesn't?". Now for the second part. If he doesn't know if he still loves me after 9 years of marriage, how do I act? I am a very affectionat person by nature and still love him. He says to be myself, but how do I keep throwing myself at someone who doesn't know if they love me? How do I control my displays of affection if this is the proper thing to do so as not to put him on the spot while he is deciding? I am a very open person and not good at hiding my feelings!
2006-06-17 19:51:46 · 8 answers · asked by Jill M 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok, hun take a deep breath. I know inside you want to scream and cry and smack him around a little bit. I would agree to take a breather. Sit him down and say is to exactly what you're feeling and ask him what's eating at him? Is there someone else? Do we need to improve something in our marriage? If he seems as if he doesnt want to talk about it. Tell him ok maybe we both need a breather, and when I say this please don't take it the wrong way. Pack a bag, and let him know maybe both of you need some time to think. Go to a friend's house or a family member stay there for awhile. Maybe the time apart will help the marriage. USUALLY, the fact of knowing your presence isn't exsist in the house will either make him see what he'd be missing if he decides to end the marriage or he would say this just isn't working. Either way he'll come around or wont.
2006-06-17 20:52:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him a little breathing room. Just because you're married doesn't mean you have to be joined at the hip. Space can give him time to reminisce about all the good times and how lucky he is to have you say "yes" when he got down on one knee and asked "You wanna?.
2006-06-18 02:57:18 · answer #2 · answered by David 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should act by getting a divorce! You deserve someone who wants you as much as you want them! Don't settle for less. And while you may think you're in love, it is probably dependency. Good luck hon.
2006-06-18 02:55:45 · answer #3 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's "not sure" then it means he's no longer in love with you. Make it easier on both of you, and just tell him you want a divorce. Find someone who'll be sure that they're still in love with you, not someone who needs to think about it.
2006-06-18 03:56:50 · answer #4 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
basically yes.....after 9 years....oh come on! Decide on it baby....go away
2006-06-18 02:57:20 · answer #5 · answered by Romel G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jus ask n if he says not consult a friend
2006-06-18 02:55:00 · answer #6 · answered by wei beng 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he loves you not....leave ...seek happiness.
2006-06-18 03:07:14 · answer #7 · answered by Big Daddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honny........................ he's gay.
2006-06-18 02:54:35 · answer #8 · answered by micahs3g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋