I'm leaving for college in the fall and I recently found out who my roommate would be. I was excited and was trying to learn about her so that way I wouldn't end up offending her. I'm very open about my sexuality. I'm a lesbian. I'm in a relationship and when I'm single, I only flirt with people I know are like that. It saves me a lot of time and effort and keeps me under the hate radar most of the time.
My question is, should I be offended that this girl is changing on the basis of my sexuality even though I made it clear that she wasn't on my list of eligible people?
2006-06-17 19:48:53 · 20 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Lesbians are violent macho motorcycle-fixing fist-fighting vagina hunters desperate enough to have a U-Haul hitched to their car at all times to help their byotch move in at a moment's notice...
...at least that's what LOTS of str8 girls think.
And offense? Hell yes-- but you might as well get ready for a lifetime of stupid people who barely have time to be distracted from their double-mocha-freeky-latte rather than experience things and people that might involve something slighty different from themselves.
Move on -- and find someone more tolerant, because, is it REALLY worth your time to convert some idiot's opinion in your first semester? Save your time for studying and hangin with your tolerant/accepting friends-- unless you fit the stereotype above...
Good Luck :)
2006-06-17 19:57:44 · answer #1 · answered by fitpro11 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Kudos for you....I think it is great that you tried to learn about her, it's unfortunate that she didn't extend the same courtesy. That being said, you're better off. Its obvious that she has a different belief system. Hopefully college will be an eye-opening experience. Don't be offended...be proud that you handled this situation more maturely than she did. And keep your fingers crossed that someday she will be as secure and open minded as you are!
2006-06-18 02:57:51 · answer #2 · answered by mudhoney998 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just aren't comfortable with the gay/lesbian/bisexual/transgender community. You just need to accept that, even today, there are those out there who won't be comfortable with you because of your choice. It may or may not be her fault - maybe she was raised in a church that strictly forbids contact with a lesbian, maybe she's just choosing to avoid you because she's afraid of things she doesn't understand. To answer your question, you shouldn't be offended, but if you feel that way regardless it's your right and you shouldn't be ashamed of that.
2006-06-18 02:54:50 · answer #3 · answered by senormooquacka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that her decision to switch roommates reflects more on her than you. Some people are not comfortable with that and I think if she knows that's not something she could deal with, its better to switch now. There really isn't a way to know exactly what her reasons were and what she was thinking. I would say no, don't be offended by it. Unless she was rude to you about it, this was her own personal decision.
2006-06-18 02:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by NJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would personally be a bit offended...but you have to keep in mind, that you don't know what background she comes from. She may be from a very conservative family, or she may just be uncomfortable and is thinking of herself. It may seem selfish, but what would you rather have...a roommate who was uncomfortable and standoffish or someone who is much more free with her beliefs...you could end up having a lot more fun this year with your NEW roommate...!!!
2006-06-18 02:56:11 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffany C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try not to be offended by this girls actions, maybe she was brought up to be prejudiced, or just isnt comfortable around lesbians. I think it is cool that you are open about yourself, and you should just find a roommate who will be comfortable with you.
2006-06-18 02:51:26 · answer #6 · answered by Chelie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be offended, you done the right thing by letting her know beforehand and it's obviously something she's too small minded to cope with. Maybe she was afraid it would 'rub off on her' and she'd change! Don't worry about it....
2006-06-18 02:53:14 · answer #7 · answered by darkness_returns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lesbians are cool im a Lesbian i like Females (I'm A Male)
2006-06-18 02:51:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should be offended...I would be...but I also wouldn't let it get to me...she is obviously immature...and is not open to experience...just be you don't let anyone judge you...if you are comfortable walking in your shoes...then make sure they are the right size...
2006-06-18 02:51:18 · answer #9 · answered by j_nelle_03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ignore her i personally think that she is just bi-curious and can't stand to be around people that are like that because she is afraid that she is gonna turn out to be a lesbian. and she is just in-denial basically. i have experienced with a lot of people like that and tell me why they all turned out to be gay or a lesbian! some crazy ****!
2006-06-18 03:08:22 · answer #10 · answered by YOU DON'T KNO ME!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋