Iam a male, I have very few friends if any, spend my weekends alone and I ponder the past alot. I used to have a group a friends that where like my brothers, some events happened and i pretty much have not talked to them in over 2 years. I graduate from college in a year they graduated this semester. I feel alone and I am wondering why I seem to be so uptight now and never was this way back then. Honestly though it cant be healthy to have no friends. I think im in that boat. Any advice!!! Sometimes I shy away from trying to meet new people, thinking that im screwed up and noone would want to be my friend... help
2006-06-17 19:46:21 · 6 answers · asked by Financial Guru 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
I dont have money for a psychiatrist
2006-06-17 19:55:00 · update #1
talk to a doctor, it sounds like you have some unresolved issues from the past, and maybe social anxiety disorder
2006-06-17 19:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by sassymaccat 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are not the only one who has feelings like this and although it may not seem re-assuring, you are not alone in that boat. You are not a freak, you are not abnormal, and by the sounds of it you are not at all screwed up. You are just human and experiencing human feelings. It's ok to just be human. Don't be too hard on yourself - as is often the tendancy. It is good that you are seeking the opinions of others in asking this question. You have asked a very well structured question - clearly illustrating that you are a very intellegent person.
It will help you if you can talk to people and activly try to get more interaction with other people. Don't be too worried though if things don't happen as quickly as you would like. I dont believe one has to be scared of being alone. It's just more enjoyable to have good friends. That doesn't mean it is not possible to be happy on your own. This is just one aspect of a holistically healthy life.
There are a lot of good books you can read but sometimes difficult to select the really good ones from all the rest. I would like to recommend you read some of John Bradshaw's books - read the reviews on "Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing your Inner Child" http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0553353896/002-2542496-2995255?v=glance&n=283155 This is a book that I personally highly recommend as being life changing and very insiteful. This book will help you deal with issues from your past.
Good luck with your journey of self discoverey and growth. I have a feeling that you will make good progress. You can also benifit by talking a professional - this will help you clarify your own thinking and deal with possible issues you have from the past.
2006-06-18 04:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by Engineering_rules 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are caught up in our culture. It is a culture where we spend more time looking at television and playing with a computer than we do with spending time with people. Before TV and Computers, people actually were out there trying to meet people. To have a friend you must be a friend. It is very true, that being alone is very much a part of not being involved with others. I would suggest that you participate in some activity that would put you into situations that would allow you to meet people. Also, I would advise you to contact your old aquaintances and resume your friendship with them, one by one. Be a friend, be involved and you will succeed. Be positive.
2006-06-24 20:14:48 · answer #3 · answered by bertojame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are depressed. You need to be medicated. Nothing tobe ashamed about. Instead of a shrink try a regular doctor first
2006-06-25 00:36:05 · answer #4 · answered by eddie9551 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see a psychiatrist. It helps Ask about Zoloft, it helps.
2006-06-18 02:51:02 · answer #5 · answered by jessec 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I HAVE LOST FRIENDS TOO IT SUCKS I KNOW BUT YOU NEED TO MOVE ON AND TRY TO BE SOCIABLE
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2006-06-18 06:03:55 · answer #6 · answered by daniel l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋