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Question

what and how would u feel if u found out ur husband is having an affair? The sad things is that u found out through his email .About the little little detail they did and how much they enjoyed each session. well u forgive him and willing to have a baby for him ? If yes , why? do u think he will change? Can u forgive and forget? Please enlighten me. thanks

Answer 1

I agree with incan princess ...

The problem is really YOU !!

Firstly ..you go snopping around his things . you have no respect for other peoples privacy... dont you have a job or something to do instead??

Were you thinking that you where helping a realtionship by doing so ??

Next ,you put out this question up on Yahoo answers and lable it for ladies only.

I am married too .. do you know that i too know many things. My wife is beside me write now ..

we both agree that you need to change your attitude towards things and your relationship. Show some respect towards your husband. Its probably your behavior that lead him to do what he is doing ... in the first place !!

And yes .. for gods sakes .. dont bring a baby into this world - then go for a divorce. Poor child ...

Disappointed with you !

Answer 2

Whatever you do, don't bring a baby into an unstable marriage. Also, if this was a real-life affair (as opposed to cyber-sex), you should schedule yourself some STD tests.

As for forgiveness, you should look at the situation as a whole and decide if you truly believe he's sorry and won't do it again. Counseling for both of you is a good idea here. If your marriage is failing enough that you're snooping in his email, though, you probably already know the answer to whether or not you two have a future together.

Answer 3

I will be totally hurt..

In relationship, there is no reason to cheat..It is a matter of love and trust...If one cheated you, it means he never care nor respect you. But there are times, things can be straighten out, specially if someone knows how to forgive..and another one knows how to realize things and change for the better..But how if someone never changed and keep repeating things again? How you will be able to trust again?

In your case, do not blame or make self pity for yourself..Always think that you did your best..but nothing happen.. Be grateful that you able to know him earlier, not when you and him has already have a child..That will be a difficult part..

Talk to him once and for all, and straight things out..Always remember that its not the end of the world..You could always have the second chance to find a better one when you least unexpected. God always has the reason for everything.. He will not give something that you are not able to handle with...

Listen to your mind not to your heart. Sometimes heart can make someone foolish. Yes you will be happy but just temporarily..Just do the right thing always..Smile and move on..

But dont forget to forgive..

Just think what is best.. Goodluck..

Answer 4

Well first of all I wouldn't be having a baby with a man that was cheating on me and just because you have a baby for him doesn't mean he's gonna stop cheating. Most of the time if you take them back they'll keep doing it cause they feel you would just keep taking them back. And then if you do have a baby for him it's just gonna hurt you worse that he cheated on you after you did that for him and then you'll have you and your baby to think about. Girl if he's cheating on you now what makes you think he's gonna stop if you have a baby for him? And for forgiveness and all that, I believe you can forgive but you'll never forget what he did and everytime you look at him and your with him sexually all your gonna picture is him being with that person and trust me it ruins the relationship because the trust is gone.

Answer 5

You know, that is not an easy question to answer.... Why would you go and have a baby once you know they're a cheater? That's just crazy. You can forgive and forget somethings, but I think it depends on the situation and the people. Once you know for a fact that someone did something like that, it is harder to forgive and forget. Good luck.

Answer 6

In a christian way , Its better to forgive and forget. Once you forgive it is more easy to move on . Discuss with your husband how deep is his relationship with the girl and ask him if he is willing to end up the relationship. Take it one step at a time.
Communication in a relationship is very important , try to ask yourself too , is there something lacking in your relationship that your husband needs to have an extra marital affair?
In these scenario, it is better that you need to be wise in your decesion wether to have a child with him . This responsibility is bear by both person , Father & Mother....Goodluck ...

Answer 7

I would sort these issues out with some serious counseling. These are issues that time will tell, but I believe in giving my marriage everything b/4 I bail out, which to me includes marital counseling when appropriate.

Also, make sure you go to a good counselor. I have gone to marriage counselors b/4 and the quality really does vary.

Answer 8

NO. The fact is he was caught and then sorry no way would I have a child to him and stay with him no way no way. Even if he did change the damage is done. You can still forgive the person but don't have to be with him any more

Answer 9

Why forgive him. If a u gonna do it , can he forgive ? On what ground he is seeking forgiveness? Day u got married is the day both commitment are set. Self induldging for the sake of one self is selfish! ask him to @#$!% OFF to that woman

Answer 10

WHY would i be reading HIS e-mail?!

Why does a wife feel the need to do that to begin with? For me that's the real issue! I have never been tempted to even open any regular mail that is addressed to my husband.

There was already an existing problem if a wife feels she needs to be "checking up" on her husband!