i have been with my bf for 19 yrs, we seperated a few times but now we are back together, and it's going better than ever.
but when we last seperated i met this guy online who has seen me trough thick and thin and i fell madly inlove with him, he as been the best of friend in every way possible, i really long to be with him but yet again i am satisfied with my relationship with my bf,,,what do i do, i long to be with my online lover more than anything.
2006-06-17 19:07:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
this online guy, we have known each other pretty much intimatly, we know alot about each other and known each other for a year now, we have been very open and honest about all things, and we see each other on cam...good or bad times we are there for each other
2006-06-17 19:51:05 · update #1
oh yes...we do plan to meet one day, should i go?
2006-06-17 20:54:54 · update #2
Wow, that's a difficult one. Have you ever met the online person in person? The danger with falling in love with someone online is that they may not be who you think they are. It could be also, that the person you don't know intimately will always seem better because you don't know all their little annoying peculiarities. On the other hand, you have this on and off again long term relationship. The fact that it isn't a stable relationship tells me that there are issues that come up, you break up, issues get worked out (or not, maybe you guys just get lonely), you're back together, the sun is shining until...and back into that again. Look into your own heart. What is it that is so alluring in the online person? It is real? Is it sustainable? Does he snore in their sleep? Is he a morning person? Does he take cream in his coffee? Sugar? What is his mother's middle name? (lol, now I'm wracking my brain on that question). You get my drift. You may want to talk this out with a neutral person like a counsellor to help you with this. Maybe the answer right now is no answer, leave it as is and the next time long time bf leaves, see about the online one. Just a thought.
2006-06-17 19:20:19 · answer #1 · answered by dreamcatweaver 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What's new may be an exciting fling, or it may be the real thing. After 19 years, it sounds like a blase relationship that needs either a commitment toward maturity or a decision of separating for mutual maturation. If you're not ready for such, the next relationship may be poorly grounded. However, maybe the new friendship gives much more opportunity to not take each other for granted and thus to grow in new ways. Go for what's real.
2006-06-17 19:26:06 · answer #2 · answered by Cordelia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already have your answer.
For whatever reason, this online love has given you something you obviously felt your boyfriend could not provide. Simply being satisfied and staying around for that reason is unfair to both you and your boyfriend, no matter how long you have been together.
If you really and truly want to be with the other man, then go and be with him, don't pretend to have a relationship with the guy you are with now.
Good Luck to you.
2006-06-17 19:17:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe he became crying pretend tears the completed time. he's thoroughly no longer serious about the relationship and he's squandering worthwhile emotions on him. do not provide your coronary heart away to an insecure, chilly-hearted human being like that. He appears like he's in simple terms toying with you. He appears like he in simple terms needs to comprehend how far he can bypass into breaking you down until eventually you eventually say you've had sufficient. i don't believe of he's the right one for you, sweetie. there are a good number of worthier adult males available that you need to settle on, yet heavily no longer this one you're speaking about. over the years, you'll ignore about him. do not difficulty. you need to love him even if it doesn't propose that you won't be able to positioned that love onto somebody else more effective worth. better of success.
2016-11-14 22:22:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your bf and to your heart. Do you think your online lover will be as good to you? Be careful because the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.
2006-06-17 19:11:39 · answer #5 · answered by Katherine M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weigh the pluses and minuses of a relationship with each one, then make a decision, act on it, and live with it. Bear in mind that you are only able to see a part of the person in the on-line relationship.
2006-06-17 19:13:31 · answer #6 · answered by Curious1usa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ook you`ve tried with this man for 19yrs.Do you honestly believe things will work this time? you cant wait for ever and life is too short to miss out on something and you might regret it!!!you may still love him but is there passion? Are you still INlove with him???
2006-06-17 19:15:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I serioulsy doubt that your online b/f is all you think him to be. Swim only in known waters my friend.
2006-06-17 19:14:35 · answer #8 · answered by itwasntme_x2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can all live happily ever after.....
Make up your mind......IOW, $hit or get off the pot.
Have you ever MET your online lover?
2006-06-17 19:11:59 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's not worth losing what you have now
2006-06-17 19:14:55 · answer #10 · answered by Altima Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋