Am I naive to think it is ok to leave my husband at a party?

Question

Not kid friendly after dark for kids, so I brought them home. He will get a ride. It has always been this way and I am starting to wonder...

Answer 1

I have learned to always trust my little inner voice.
It never lies to me.
You know it sometimes is possible to do a little investigating.
The best way is to find someone at the party who does not like your husband and get friendly with them. Then hopefully, very discreetly you might ask them a few questions about what went on at the party after you left.
I don't know your husband or the relationship you have with him.
But like I said the inner voice never lies.
And I am a really good detective when I want to know something.

Answer 2

You have done the right thing by the children who need your care, under the circumstances, more than your husband.
But the crux of your problem is whether you are naive to think that it is ok to leave your husband at a party. Here, do you mean whether it is safe for you or for him, when you leave him at a party? Or, do you mean if it is sensible on your part, considering possibilities of what might be termed misdemeanour on his part?
Whatever be the case, as long as your relationship with your husband is based on reciprocal honesty and understanding, there are no grounds for concern or worry. Still, if something not entirely to your liking does happen, it points to the existence of that possibility. Whether you should anticipate such a possibility and take measures is a question of conscience and personal belief, and the answer has to be yours and yours only.

Answer 3

You both need to agree that 'as a family' all need to saytheir goodbyes and leave at the same time!

You'll only start getting suspicious of him if this is the way it goes constantly...

therefore, ask him, who will be keeping the bed warm at the end of the night?
His wife, or his friends?

Another point, tell him he's needed at home. What if, (hopefully not) something happened to one child, and they couldn't be attended to in time, or you need to rush them to the hospital? That extra supervision would be a great asset OR he would feel guilty for the rest of his life if anything happened to his family.

You are a family unit, and that's how it needs to be.

He married you and had children because he was ready for the next step, right?

Answer 4

You did the responsible thing. If your husband won't go when you are ready, or need to go, bloody well leave him there if he can get a ride with someone else. Have a chat with him about it later. Don't be nasty about it or anything, just discuss it rationally. If he's anything of a good husband, he'll want to come along home with you when you're ready to go home.

Answer 5

Well, If he hasnt given you any reason in the past to doubt his integrity, than no you have nothing to worry about. Now if he has done something in the past to question his integrity, than your not exactly Naive, just you have a lot of faith. A faith is a good thing in a relationship. Just don't repeatdly question him after he has given you answer, to his actions at the party. You are going to have to believe him, unless ofcourse, again, he has infringed his integrity in the past.
Otherwise, put your mind at ease

Answer 6

Do you have reason to doubt him? If not i wouldn't worry about it. Would you want to stay there and let him take the kids home? If so ask him to switch at the next party. Or lure him home for your own party!

Answer 7

What you should wonder, is why can't he take the kids home and you stay at the party every once in a while.

Answer 8

If you don't trust him enough to leave him at a party without you, should he even be your husband?

Answer 9

do you really trust him? Has he given you any reason to susupect he might do something?

Answer 10

that all depends on how faithfull your husband is to you,,,even then,,theres a lot of temptation out there ????????