Does it spoil them? Should they take long walks without being picked up? At what age should I stop picking them up?
2006-06-17 18:55:56 · 22 answers · asked by D Block 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Physically picking them up. Oh yeah, I'm talking about 2-3 year olds.
2006-06-17 18:59:35 · update #1
Stay as close to your kids as long as you can.
Do not give them everything they want.
Send them to their room instead of rasing your voice or swattiing them.
My kids are grown. That's my best advice.
2006-06-17 19:00:28 · answer #1 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree w/ many above. I'm sure at 2 or 3 there are many times when they don't want to be held as well, at least my 3 year old has his times. BUT, I pick him up if he wants me to & I'm physically capable. He won't be small enough to hold like that forever, and I don't want to miss any time I have w/ him. I don't think loving them is spoiling at all.
As for long walks, they're little legs get tired faster than ours (walking a mile would be 2x as long for them). If it's too hard to carry them, maybe take a stroller so they can sit when they become too tired, or even have them take their tricycle while you walk (some kids don't get as tired on a bike as w/ walking). Just be sure you are helping them to get enough excersize running around in the yard, park or play groups etc...
2006-06-17 19:15:13 · answer #2 · answered by melonamc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babies need to feel secure, pick him up often. Picking up a baby does not spoil them, but when it´s bedtime, set very strict rules. Don´t pick him up everytime he cries. Check to see he is dry and not hungry or injured, and then leave him in his crib. During the day go for it.. hug and cuddle all you want..I will not take long for him to realize that night time is different from daytime with regards to being picked up. Okay..didn´t see the age.. well at this age, I would bend over, give them a little hug, perhaps pick them up for a bit, and once happy down he goes again.. 2 and 3 year olds are still very young.. and they can´t move as quick as Ma and Pa.
2006-06-17 19:01:37 · answer #3 · answered by oneblondepilgrim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick them up!! It won't spoil them. Be realistic...they are small - on long walks, let them start on their own, but understand that their little legs get tired...their little hearts are pumpin' away. Ya gotta give them a rest. And give comfort when comfort is do..And always make your lap available for sitting. They are young ONCE. And the best thing you can do for a child is let them know they are loved, cared for and protected. All of those things can be found in your arms! Soon enough they won't be able to be held or they won't want you to and all you'll have is the memory of their sweet-smelling cheek against yours...
2006-06-17 19:05:56 · answer #4 · answered by taraleighsg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he/she is fine for the first part of the walk, it is okay to pick them up (those little legs poop out quick!) Both of mine are larger than their age, so I have to stop picking them up after 35#, so I always have a stroller for the younger, and daddy takes up the other!
It won't spoil them....in fact it builds trust, and the more they trust their parents, the more independant/confident they will be (and I was accused of spoiling my first.....he LOVES it when I am gone!)
2006-06-17 19:19:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
pick up your child when they need it; love never spoiled anybody; long walks are relative - how old are they and when do they show signs of being tired? when they're tired - pick them up; as for what age should you stop - i guess when they are too heavy for you to pick up - then just rest for awhile until they are ready to move again
2006-06-17 19:01:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You *can't* spoil a child by giving them *yourself*. You spoil a child by giving them *things*.
If you let your child eat whatever she/he wants, you can spoil her/him. If you buy her/him every toy in the store, that is spoiling. If she/he is allowed to touch fragile objects because you don't want to say "no", that also leads to spoiling.
Giving your child "too many" hugs or kisses, helping her/him get to sleep because she/he can't fall asleep alone, carrying her/him when she/he doesn't want to walk is love, not spoiling. You may not always be able to give your child whatever she/he needs, but doing so whenever you can (even if it *is* all the time) won't harm her/him!!
2006-06-17 19:35:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Picking up a kid of 2 to 3 years is fun...but its for some time say for 15 to 20 mins...it pains when your hands start paining and when still kid keeps crying to pick up and not ready to walk...well i would say for a kid of 2 to 3 years...its too early to walk them as their legs are very delicate...i would suggest to make them walk for few mins if they want to...otherwise picking them is a best option....best luck!!!
2006-06-17 19:11:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should stop right away. I have a friend that has a 3 year old and the child cant go anywhere without being in his moms arms. You should teach the child independence and walking on his/her own is a great start!
-Lorah
2006-06-17 18:59:14 · answer #9 · answered by babie_gurl781 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick the kid up. When they are 7 or 8 and off in school they won't want to be held or carried anymore. They out grow it on their own, and eventually it just isn't practical anymore
2006-06-17 19:02:15 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't spoil them it show's them that you care enough to pay attention to them instead of making them walk I wouldn't pick them up after walking five feet but if they are tired there is no harm.
2006-06-17 18:58:32 · answer #11 · answered by Aves 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋