2006-06-17 18:34:49 · 11 answers · asked by sssoulchild 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes, he may not pay child support but the child is still a part of him and later in life, you may get the blame for keeping the child away from his/her father. let the child see how the other parent is.
2006-06-17 18:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by mustbekiddin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there any separation agreement or divorce papers? If so, then there would be who has what rights in there. If this child is one born out of a more casual relationship, there may be no in law rights on seeing the child, but if child support is an issue to you, you should pursue this in court. If you don't want to go that route, have you asked for child support? If you have and he said no, is he just being mean or is he in a low paying job and doesn't have the money? Is he a student for instance? On a more human level here, this child has two biological parents. A mother, and a father. Just because the father is not supportive to you, it would be wise to think twice about denying the child the chance to see its father. If nothing else, you may have a very angry child later on, if they realize the only reason you didn't let them know their father was because of money. Just a thought.
2006-06-18 01:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by dreamcatweaver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on a lot of things. Other than being a poor mate for you, is he a descent role model for your child. When you say never, does that mean 7mos or 12 years? Has the child had to do without because of his failure to pay? I can tell you that other than your complaining about it, kids could care less about the money? Is he able to pay? If not how long has he been unable to pay? Does he want to turn over a new leaf or just drop in on the child's life then leave as quickly as he came?
Bottom line: If the kid is still a kid and dad wants to turn over a new leaf you need to keep the money matters between you and him, not the child. A child is not property nor are they a bargaining chip, they are a person that will always have an underlying resentment for you if you are the only thing standing in the way of that empty hole in their heart being filled.
P.S. Even if you don't work and the taxpayers support your child, no one threatens to deprive you of seeing your child
2006-06-18 02:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by leprecaun18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Let your child make their own decisions about their father. It isn't right for you to use the child's presence as a lever against the father. There are ways to get your child support through various lawyers and websites. You shouldn't stand in the way of the child/father relationship over money. Sorry.
2006-06-18 01:39:55 · answer #4 · answered by spookykid313 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don't think it's wrong because if he really cared he would have been concerned about the child and would have made sure to pay child support.
But you don't want to keep the father away from his child, so you make sure that if he wants to see the child, he pays child support. And also make sure you are present at all times.
I say that because some kids grow to resent their mothers from keeping their father away (even if it was the best thing to do).
2006-06-18 01:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too many variables. How long's it been, since he saw child last?
Age of child? Questions are in regard to child's protection.
If he/she doesnt know/remember the man, what's the point?
What he's grown a heart over the years? I say pay up, if he chooses to visit.
Been there, done that. 4 children, and he never paid either.
Once they became adults, he became the 'adoring' parent who looked to his 'abandoned' children for financial assistance.
There are some men, ya just gotta love..........NOT!
2006-06-18 01:43:41 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it wrong to stop a child from having two parents?
It is a childs right to have two parents, not a fathers priveledge he must pay for.
2006-06-18 01:42:12 · answer #7 · answered by idontknow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No ,if he does not care about the child enough to support it ,the child doesn't need to know him.
2006-06-18 01:38:46 · answer #8 · answered by Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The children are the ones losing out here wouldn't it be??? He may be a jerk in not paying up. But don't let the children suffer.
2006-06-18 01:46:43 · answer #9 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. He doesn't have the right to be recognize as a father. until he gets to understand the meaning of it (and do it) then maybe then he can have a second chance..
2006-06-18 01:43:08 · answer #10 · answered by o0o_tomkat_o0o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋