Why do young people have sex than regret it?

Question

I know alot of people my age(20) or younger that have had sex already. Than they say they regret losing thier virginity. Why is it they want to have sex so badly at a young age, than regret doing it. You only can lose your virginity once. I still a virgin and feel like I shouldn't be since nobody else around me my age is still a virgin. I feel like it right to wait til I get married to have sex, but I than think of wishing I could have sex right now with any girl that is willing to do so with me.

Answer 1

I think each person should make that decision based on their beliefs. Personally I didn't wait till I was married and I don't regret that decision. But I did wait till I was with someone I loved and trusted, which made it special all the same. I also thought about the pro's and con's and made a considered decision, not just jump straight into bed with the first guy that asked.

I realise that it must be hard for you sometimes when everyone around you is doing it, but if this is your belief then I think that is very important, and your future wife will love and respect you even more for that decision.

Please don't just marry a girlfriend because you want to have sex sooner. My sister has a group of friends of the same belief as you and a lot of them got married soon after they met, and are now breaking up. Take plenty of time to get to know the girl and go through some tough things together first to be sure that you really can spend the rest of your lives together.

Maybe you should keep quiet about being a virgin so that people around you don't try to pressure you.

GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

Many people regret it because they had sex for the wrong reasons. Others are happy with the fact that they did not remain virgins until in their twenties. Don't feel as though you shouldn't be a virgin just because many of the people you know are not; there are probably more virgins than you are aware of around your age and older. Shame that people are embarrassed of being a virgin at your age, but it's the way it is, so many people who are don't bring it up in everyday conversation. If you feel it is right to wait until you are married, then honor your beliefs and wait. You can always change your mind down the road, but do so because you have chosen to do so based upon your own beliefs, not because you felt as through there were something wrong with you because you are a virgin. Respect others for their decisions, and respect yourself even more for yours. Only you will know when it is the right time. Remember that it will say a lot about you and how you honor your beliefs to the woman you chose to be your first, whether it be your wife or someone else.

Answer 3

Don't be pressured to have sex just because all your friends aren't virgins anymore. AREN"T YOU LISTENING TO THEM ANYWAY, THEY SAY THAT THEY REGRET IT, WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO LOST IT FOR A PERSON YOU MIGHT NOT END UP BEING WITH IN THE LONG HAUL? People want sex, it's known, but turning down the temptaion is more of a satisfying feeling, when you are waiting for that one special person in your life.

Answer 4

I know what you are trying to say, but let's save the word "virgin" for girls, OK? It means something there. With a man, it means "inexperienced," and can take on a variety of implications. In fact, the word "sex" has different meanings for different people. To a biologist, it is pretty specific to reproductive functions. To a gay person, it is something that, by definition, is non-reproductive. To someone who is trying to avoid stepping over some taboo line, it can get pretty technical, and to no good purpose.

What is significant is where you are inside your own mind. Have you never had sex because there are no accommodating females, or because you are honoring a code of values that limits what you consider to be sex to marriage? If so, then what is "petting," in your lexicon? Do you know there are people who consider they have had sex because they have had their clothes off with another person, and have experienced orgasm, when in fact all they did was no more than they might have done alone? There are also people who have had a lot of sex without ever getting their clothes all the way off! And there are people who have had sex without orgasm, and orgasm without sex.

So, where is your head? Do you feel it is wrong unless you are married? Then be very cautious, don't be left alone with a girl, and don't talk about your beliefs casually, lest you be sufficiently humiliated by accusations of cowardice to give in to someone else's standards.

Or do you, like many religious people, feel that if you have sex, even under extreme conditions, that you are thereby obligated to marry the girl? In Victorian times, you would have been obligated if you had been alone with her over night, whether or not you laid a hand on her. If a girl succeeds in seducing you, don't take that as your guilt, or not only your guilt.

But then, I speak as an outsider to such concepts: to me sex is something to do when you feel it is right, and she feels it is right, and there is no one else who has any right to tell you no.

Answer 5

I think young people have sex because they are being influenced by friends or boyfriends. They feel like,well since their friends are doing it, it wouldn't hurt if they do it too. They don't want to feel left out. They end up regreting it because they have grown to realise that most persons doesn't want non-virgin.

Answer 6

Fight it. You'll have a better gift for your wife if you wait. Sex is a gift to the one you marry, and if you give it to someone else before that special person you're ruining that gift. Sex is like a box of chocolate, and everytime you give sex to another woman you are giving her a piece of chocolate from the box. So when you get married and the box has pieces missing, it's kinda embarrassing don't ya think? Wait until your married so that you'll give your wife a full, perefct gift.

Answer 7

a lot of girls i know lost their virginity and thought they could handle the emotions that are involved. but everyone of them has regretted losing it because the guy they lost it to didn't love them as much as the girls did and it broke their hearts.

guys that i know lost it because of the social pressure to. there are a lot of virgins out there still, and every time i meet a virgin i say congrats to them.

Answer 8

i think we want to have sex when we are young because of our hormones and the process of going through pubery and growing up, and i think most regret their first time because they didnt have sex with someone they cared about, in my case i gave my virginity to someone who didnt give me theirs and deceived me into believeing they were a virgin

Answer 9

wait.
In the long run its worth it and can't you see that if people are regretting it, then its not such a good idea?
I know I'm waiting until marriage and nothing will change my mind.

Answer 10

they get lost in the moment but then they get pregnant and they wish they have waited because they have to take care of a kid