This is a time when I have to be honest. I have a personality disorder that causes me to act out in way that may scare people. It has affected my ex-girlfriend, and my best friend. I have since sought treatment for the condition and was wondering how I can make things between my best friend and I? I sent her an anonymous text message that scared her and she found out that I did it. It was that which caused me to seek treatment for this condition. I admited to it and have started treatment for this. When I told her I was getting this treated she did not believe me and cut me out of her life. Should I even bother with her? How will i ever make things right between us?
2006-06-17 18:15:45 · 11 answers · asked by Rob K 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you could somehow prove to her that you are getting treatment, I would suggest that. But if she still doesn't believe you, I'd say to let it go and see if she comes around. There are relationships that you can't really push, and if she cares enough and wants to be supportive she will, there isn't much you can do outside that.
2006-06-17 18:24:58 · answer #1 · answered by lostandconfused 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Give her some space. Wait a few days then have a third party or mutual friend talk to her on your behalf. Show her some proof that you have a problem and are trying to get better. Apologize and tell her that you will stay away until she is comfortable being around you. Do what you say and if she can never be right with you again then accept that, continue to get help and move on. If she does let you back let her set the pace.
2006-06-17 18:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*snaps* for realizing that you needed help and that your problem was larger than yourself.
If your bff didn't understand what was going on it was probably really scary for her. I think that someone other than yourself should try to talk with her about it (possibly the person that has been helping you...like a doctor) and tell her how you have changed. She might need to hear it from someone else.
If she is still acting cold, then perhaps you should find a new best friend that accepts you. If this does happen, send her a little handwritten note that says "I'm sorry that things didn't work out with us, but I wanted you to know that I value your friendship and I wanted to thank you for making me realize that I needed help."
don't attempt anything after that.
good luck!
2006-06-17 18:21:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can say to u is that now matter what she says to u just belevie in ur self u now that u have this condition, and even if she dont belevie u... give it time if she cares for u she well talk to u agian, but if not then u know that she was not a true friend.
2006-06-17 18:21:04 · answer #4 · answered by Patricia T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is your best friend and she cuts you off, then she is NOT really your best friend, NOT even your friend.
What's your disorder? How did your psychotherapy go? Your doctor should be able to give you a clinical way to deal with things. I cannot give you an answer without knowing what happened. It is dangerous to give advice without the proper facts.
Good luck!
2006-06-17 18:20:29 · answer #5 · answered by Jivan S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget her. someone who cannot be with you during your toughest times aint really worth it.
n try meditation.
n yea......our relationship with others reflects our relationship with ourselves.
get this thing deep into your head.
until n unless you are in peace with yourself.....you are not gonna have a fulfilling relationship.
all the best. i truly appreciate the fact that you addressed your problem and are facing it. thats almost the battle won. just a matter of time.
its been a good eye opener isnt it? 4get the lady n move on dude.
2006-06-17 18:25:25 · answer #6 · answered by . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Erm what is the condition?Anyways apparently the SMS must hv shockd her bak,the only tink u can do is show her that you are improving&mayb give her sometime to 4gt abt the incident
2006-06-17 18:18:10 · answer #7 · answered by pop_princess0520 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now u should just continue with treatment. She may come around, and may not. If she doesnt, then it wasnt ment to be
2006-06-17 18:19:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey Rob anjali here work out this disorder for yourself not for your x or best buddy.cant u see they don't care.first stop thinking that u scare people.speak less.try meditation.try helping old people.get a pet for yourself.trust me it will work
2006-06-17 18:46:39 · answer #9 · answered by ANJALI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need an arbitrator. Someone who can sit down and explain to her what happen to you. If she still does not want to be around you anymore, accept it and move on.
Hope you are feeling better!
2006-06-17 18:19:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋