My 7 yr old swore at a waitress for ignoring us. She got the manager and we got kicked out....?

Question

Why does everyone get mad at me for allowing my kids to swear when they express themselves? Really- do these words actually HURT? She needed to know that she shouldn't be taking her bad day out on us, right? Shouldn't she have been fired?

Answer 1

my kids know all the good cuss words. last time we went into DENNY'S, the waitress was too slow. she hopped right to it when two of my kids hopped on the table and started screaming....HEY, YOU STUPID SLOW FAT ****ING SLOW BI@TCH......WE'RE HUNGRY...GET THE **** HERE NOW!!! oh...poo-poo...the manager tried kicking us out too....the police were involved, and i took it to court and won. now we eat there for free every friday....STICK TO YOUR GUNS!!!! JUST SCREAM DISCRIMINATION next time they try to kick you out!!!

Answer 2

I think others might get a bit upset, because some of us don't use or appreciate hearing that type of language. The words don't necessarily "hurt" in the sense that you are trying to say, but not everyone goes out to eat to listen to some little brat curse. And actually to be honest, if you're just letting them "express themselves" as you claim, you should probably teach them the proper words to do it with some class. It takes a much bigger person to tell someone off with the correct language then to use a bunch of words that anyone could say.

And on top of that, a waitress is supposed to visit the table often, but maybe since you let your kids say what they want, you perhaps let them behave as they wish too. And coming from a waitress, if I had a table like this, I'd probably assume they were not of the best class, and think I was going to get a horrible tip anyway, so I'd ignore them too.

I would have done the same thing she did, and let my manager know that I had a disrespectful table that I wasn't going to deal with either. We aren't paid enough to deal with you and your bratty little kids. Take it to McDonalds, or better yet, stay at home until you and your kids learn some manners.

Answer 3

Ummmmm, you're the one who's wrong here. Maybe it's acceptable in YOUR family to swear but in the real world, and with most families, it's considered ABUSIVE behavior and will not be tolerated. Why would you think just because YOU accept it that everyone should? There are still people on this earth that have manners and respect for others. If you were a good parent you'd teach your child to express themselves in non offensive ways, to respect the people around them. I am a waitress, and no way would I have stood there and taken verbal abuse from somebody's punk kid, I'd have had my manager throw you all out in the street too! Maybe ya'll should eat at home or get take out/drive through until you can behave yourselves eating out and respect the people around you. I doubt the waitress was having a bad day until you all showed up! Seriously, get some help guy!

Answer 4

Right on to NIK's answer! I too am a waitress and I think she did a good job on summing up what I was thinking. If I heard some little kid, or even an adult swearing and complaining excessively, why would I want to go back to your table any more than I have to?! Think about it. Um, I pretty much know that I'm gonna get stiffed or get a shitty $2 tip off of people like you and your family.......and if that's the case, you can keep your measley two dollars cuz looking at you guys isn't worth any money anyway......I have customers who I would rather give my time and attention to. The customers that respect me.
And as for getting fired, luckily I have a boss who is awesome and totally appreciates the good work I do for the restaraunt. He would never fire me. It's our word against your disrespectful words.

Answer 5

In my opinion, a seven year old shouldn't be swearing. S/He should treat everyone with respect, right? He can still express his feelings if he would like to, but without using swear words. As far as allowing your kids to swear when they need to express themselves, don't you think there are more appropriate/acceptable ways they could be doing so? I know if I heard a child swearing up a storm about something I would think they were a disrespectful brat. If the child were instead expressing their feelings about the same topic, only in a more approriate way, I would most likely be more apt to listen to their side of the situation and be more willing to help them, instead of just being annoyed that they are trash talking and I don't really care what they are saying.

Answer 6

You mean your 7 year old was abusive to an adult? Children need to have rules. No child of 7, should even be saying cuss words around YOU, let alone to another adult. It is bad manners and rude. What you do in Your house is your business, But allowing that abuse is not accepted in polite society...

Why YOU the adult did NOT handle the situation is Beyond me. Your child does your talking..

That was an adult situation..

You should not (NO MATTER HOW OLD YOU ARE) BE RUDE AND DISRESPECTFUL to another human..

It is NOT OK for you to cuss other people..

If you had a problem with the wait staff you should have asked to speak to management and dealt with it in an adult manner.. No one should be screaming at the waitress let a lone a child.. If she was no good the place to go would be the boss..

You and your child were completely out of line>>>> It is never OK to be abusive...........

Answer 7

No, I think that you need to teach your child some manners! No matter what a waitress has done or not done, there is no reason that she would have to take lip from a 7 year old!

You really need to get a clue and join the rest of the civilized world. She shouldn't have been fired, and you SHOULD have been kicked out. If I were you, I'd be ashamed!

Answer 8

uhmm nope. you shouldn't allow your kids to be so rude. there is more of a classy way to do things and fix issues. there is no need to swear. you could have talked to the manager..if there was a legitimate issue. but also remember if you are rude than they are going to give a damn if you are happy..

you got kicked out b/c any restuarant has the right to refuse service to anyone they want..and that means rude customers. and esp ones who use explicit langugae, b/c it is a family restaurant. so they were right on in kicking you out.. i would have walked out with my head held low if i were you..

as for these word really hurting..that's by each individual basis. it does to some people and not to others.. i swear like a sailor so it doesn't offend me none, but you know it is going to offend some people..and your kids should be taught (if you are really set on letting them swear at 7 years old) when it's appropriate and when it's not..and to another, complete, stranger who is serving you..it's not appropriate. esp in rude context.. as for your kids expressing themselves by swearing..don't you want to offer them a way better to express themselves. people sound ignorant when the only word they can fling is f that and f(#$& that s(#&( and stuff. it doesn't really work, and isn't really impressive..they can learn to swear so many years down the road..but this is when they are in their prime learning to learn so many more important things.

Answer 9

she prob didn't have much of a problem with the swear word itself but the treatment she was getting. I'm a waitress and I have other customers complaining about that kind of stuff. We have to report it, so that the customers complaining will have a better experience and come back. its all about how to get the most money. Yeah she shouldn't have ignored you but it might have been other things consuming her time, she prob wasn't doing it on purpose. Your child should be able to express themselves but they should also know respect(besides you shouldn't mess with people who work with food..you never know if they are the type to do something to it)

Answer 10

You are the parent. You need to set a good example for your child. Allowing your child to be disrespectful in that way is not the answer. You should have spoken to the manager about the waitress and handled it yourself. Is this the way you want your child to treat you or your family when she is unhappy? That is no way to communicate. Especially a 7 year old. It is not about the words being hurtful, its about having respect. You should do your child a favor and teach him/her manners.

Answer 11

It was a good thing that you got kicked out. I sure would not want to set and listen to a 7 year old spit out words like that. You should be ashamed. It is parents like you, who allow their kids to get away with such bad behavior, who then wonder why society is crumbling. These kids will then become the next generation of haters, racists, and the like. You should not be a parent.