Do you think that it's right that a womans life with you should be bought with a simple diamond ring?

Question

I mean does it really seem equal to you? She expects a diamond engagement ring in order for her to marry you.

Answer 1

I'm not sure it has anything to do with the ring itself. When I asked my wife to marry me, I didn't have a ring, nor could I afford one. My bank account was cleaned out by my now ex-wife, and I was still trying to get back on my feet. Now, she has a ring, but it is an emerald instead of a diamond because we wanted something different, and emerald is our birthstone.

Now to the question of a woman's life being bought and paid for. I never expected to be the owner of my wife's life, and she will be the first to tell you that she remains her own person. When love is involved in a marriage, the things that are done for your spouse is out of love, not obligation.

My wife does so many things for me, especially since I am in the military. The only reason I can fathom that she does it is out of love. Do you do things for your spouse because of the stone that is on your hand, or do you do it because you know it will make him happy.

I know in my case, I do what I do our of love for my wife. The ring on her hand is only a symbol of the love we share. It is no different than the wedding band I wear. Would we cease to be together if we didn't have our rings? Certainly not. You cannot buy love. Love is earned.

Answer 2

Engagement rings are a societal norm. It is symbolic, not literal. If she really loves you, though, you can work something out. When my husband and I decided we wanted to get married, we had no money. So we pooled our money together and went to a jewelry store going out of business, and I got my ring for $250. To me, it was worth it because my guy was worth far more than a stupid diamond. It is more important to some girls, though, and you should respect that. Because it is a norm, girls grow up expecting it, and if you have the money, why wouldn't you WANT to give her the very best?

Answer 3

Well, my wife and I dated for 3 years, got married at age 18, been married for 32 years. I had to pay for her wedding ring on layaway for 2 years! Looking back over the past 35 years, that ring was the best investment I ever made. She is a strong, type-A person, I call her "Sarah Connor" (from the Terminator movies). She will tell anyone that the ring did NOT buy her.

PS How did you get your little image of yourself full on the page? Mine is only my shoulders and head.

Answer 4

No. A woman's life with you is bought with everything leading up to the moment you give her that 'simple diamond ring'. It is a material possession, but its to symbolize the love leading up to that point, to remind you of it. It's not a 'simple diamond ring', and you don't buy a woman's life with you through a ring. You buy the woman's life with you with all the ways you cherish her before she says yes and accepts it.

Answer 5

Well to me you are reading to much into this, the ring is just a symbol of your love and there are many people who don't get rings or can't afford rings so they substitute the ring for something else. Whether a man gives a woman a ring or vice versa it is not buying them it's simply just a symbol of their love for that person and it goes back centuries and people look at it as a tradition in America.

Answer 6

Surely the ring is merely a symbol of the love the man wants to convey when he asks the question? I'm sure if the man in question simply said, 'right, here's the ring, you're mine now' the reply would be a swift kick in the nether region along with some expletives but presented correctly, ie on one knee (sorry, old school romance or nothing for me) with a question along the lines of 'want to be a part of my life' the ring would be a pleasant thing to recieve......

Answer 7

I don't think that no body's life should be bought with anything especially with money or materialistic things like that simple diamond ring. I think that being faithful,being honest and mainly trustworthy would be some of the key es to hold your heart. one thing I would like to say is that we are not A property neither A thing. We are somebody, A person, somebody with feelings, somebody with heart ,living life. We need love and support, someone to hold us, someone to talk to and something most someone we can trust.

Answer 8

I think that marriage is all just a bunch of traditions. We follow the steps but I'm not sure the traditional meanings initailly intented are always still there. Rings are just one of the pieces that goes with this tradition passed down for centuries. Someone started up the tradition billions of years ago for whatever meaning or value they placed on such a tradition.... guess it's still going strong cuz girls like pretty things, haha

good luck

Answer 9

The ring is symbolic of a mans love for a woman. If a woman complains that it's too cheap, (and I'm talking wal*mart jewlry that's like $100.00) then she has lost her mind. My ring only cost $100.00 from wal*mart and it's the best d*** thing I've ever gotten, because my boyfriend picked it out for me. He gave me that ring as a symbol of his love and commitment, not because I like bling. Believe me the whole wedding thing has gotten out of control. It's just a symbol, not a lifestyle, but some woman get carrried away because to them, it's gonna be the best day of their lives. they take pride in the love they've found and some more than others show that they've found love in unique and outstanding ways, but come on!!!!!!!!!! It's just a symbol, the love is what really matters.

Answer 10

If a man didn't make much money and it took him months to work at it to pay it off and then the couple ends up breaking up it wasn't considered by the man to be such a simple thing when he ends up out all that money because she feels she deserves the ring