i've cheated on him with guys on different occassions.. and he always forgived me and loved me SOO much, its unbelievable..
he treats me like a princess... and hes soo amazing to me..
and just yesterday.. i felt this tremendous guilt.. because recently..i found out he has disturbing images every day...and i know thats because of frusteration he's not lettin out..
i cant show him my feelings.. i cant show him i love him.. it's like something is blockin me..what do i do?
2006-06-17 15:43:59 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
disturbing images- literally..
like random thoughts that are violent.disgusting.. etc..
he's got symptoms of ocd..
but im not sure he really has it..
and yeah why would i leave a guy whos amazing to me, loves me so much, cares for me like no other, and to top it all off...so god damn hot?
2006-06-17 15:51:34 · update #1
oh and yeah...we've broken up...gotten back together.. broken up again..and gotten back together...
we took many breaks.. and even when he didnt have to say sorry.. he would..for MY mistakes..
2006-06-17 15:53:18 · update #2
Glad you can admit you're no good to him or any other good guys out there. Break up with him, coz you're obviously not in love with him and you don't truly appreciate him, and it'll be better for him in the long run. As for you, I 'm not sure if you could ever find true love only because you may cheat on the next guy you're with. I can only assume that you need a lot of attention, and ONE guy can't fully satisfy you. Do him a favor, leave him...he doesn't deserve you. Give him a chance to find someone who will love him and appreciate him. If you're having seconds thoughts about being a whore, then hopefully it will be the last time he will forgive you. For him not to move on from all this suggests that he has some sort of low self-esteem, AND you sleeping around just adds more to that. Stop making him miserable, he deserves more than you. Stop making yourself miserable by "feeling guilt". If you truly feel this, you wouldn't have cheated on him again and again and again. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Good luck on finding the right guy, coz the next guy may not be as a doormat like this current one. OR the next one will cheat on you too. So take your pick, karma's a b**ch. And as you've heard it, what goes around, comes around. Also, I hope you didn't transfer any STDs to your so-called boyfriend(don't tell me he's just a friend). You only have yourself to blame.
2006-06-17 16:07:03 · answer #1 · answered by M 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Counseling is a possibility. If you're sincere about feeling bad, then you will also want to stop cheating and focus on what you have and not what you don't have. Is it worth losing him over the one night stands, because more than likely you're just a fill in for the real person in these other guys lives. Occasionally they just need a little extra and there you are. Don't allow this to go on. You will not get anywhere with your man if you constantly living this way. Remember, key words are: if you do love him and don't want to lose him over this then I recommend you stop asap and don't turn back. It sounds like you have someone that sincerely cares, and believe me these others consider you only as a relief.
2006-06-17 15:53:57 · answer #2 · answered by ddy'sgrl77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r the ultimate SCCCCCUMBAGGGGGGG!!!!!! didn't i see u floating in my toilet after i took a dump? Even though i flush a million times, u always manage to still be floating in my toilet.....how do u do it?!?!?! Oh, and by the way, where the hell did u learn English? "Forgived"?! DAMN!, you're stupid!!! I bet i could guess everything about u because you're such a simplistic, feeble-minded, pea-brain chump. You're the kind of girl who is a dime-a-dozen, but you're probably too damn stupid to even understand what that phrase means. Leave your boyfriend so he can have a happy future without wasting his time and energy on your WORTHLESS, maggot-ridden azzzzzzzzzz. If u REALLY love him, you'd do it! Then, u can be the skank ho that u really are and not have to have such "tremendous guilt", as u put it. Douchebagggggggg!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-17 15:53:58 · answer #3 · answered by Bonethuggg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave him. If you cant stop cheating on him you are just being unfair by staying with him. If you can't be the woman he deserves, then let him go so he can find her. I think you feel guilty because you love him and know that you don't deserve him.. But you're trying to hold on cause you know noone will ever love you or be so good to you again.
Im not trying to insult you, but my advice is that you need to really look at yourself and realize how wrong you have been (like really, really, realize) and forgive yourself in order to accept his forgiveness.. If you can't become that person he deserves, then let him go....
2006-06-17 15:50:18 · answer #4 · answered by sososad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're worse than a prostitute. Here's a guy who most women would kill for by your description and he somehow fell into your clutches.
"Hes soo amazing to me". You hypocritical *****. It's women like you who give decent women everywhere a bad rep.
The thing that is blocking you is that you don't love him. He is a meal ticket and when he is working for you you're being unfaithful.
I feel sorry for the poor foll. Because he is too stupid and you're too much of a blood sucking leach to go to your married boyfriends.
Don't even bother shooting me off an e-mail. I don't respond to gutter trash. No challenge you know!
2006-06-17 15:51:34 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what you mean that he has "disturbing images" -- but anyway, you should leave him. This is not a heathly relationship and he needs someone else, and you need to mature some before being in a relationship. Not trying to be mean, but cheating is a sign of immaturity (at any age).
2006-06-17 15:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by alter_tygo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO YOU LOVE HIM? If you truly do, you must do everything in your power to show him that what you did was a big mistake and it won't happen again. Talk to him and comfort him, tell him everything is going to be alright. Make him feel that he is your world and you truly care about him.
He is truly have a hard time trusting you and it's killing him inside. He does love you. If you don't love him, let him go he deserves better. Remember actions speak louder than words, don't play with his emotions and feelings.
2006-06-17 15:58:38 · answer #7 · answered by Carlitos 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~You know, you really should learn to love.. because one day you are going to love someone so much and you are going to get yours. Payback is a ***** and I truly believe in karma. Bad karma will come back and bite you in the butt. I've been cheated on once by my b/f, I forgave him and he has never done it again... but I still have trust issues and get these images in my head of him and her. It is really hurtful. I hope he sees the light and finds someone who will treat him the way he deserves. No offense to you.~
2006-06-17 15:51:56 · answer #8 · answered by Cupid 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice hun is.....That u2 need to get away for a couple of days somewhere where no one will see or talk to u2...And work it out...i had that problem a few yrs back we went to the beach...rented a nice little cabin to some champagne and had a great time after talking ...GL 2 ya hun
2006-06-17 15:48:30 · answer #9 · answered by maddog277 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL, I'm a guy. If that is your reall pic. Then I have to tell you, WHY! THINK ABOUT THIS! I was in a band, and i got chicks like you. very nice!!!! SO that means YOU have to get the BEST for YOU. you SEE!!! THEN YOU DON'T EVEN HAVE TO TRY. like I was in the band, they came to me!
Now it's different! So try to keep your youth,cause when you get old. you might be alone. or find someone that you love, trust them and let them know that you trust them, they in turn, might trust you!!! But to tell you the truth this 1 is over!!!!(sounds to me).Get a fresh start!
2006-06-17 16:06:15 · answer #10 · answered by dowagiac.michigan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋