Why do men hate paying child support? Isn't it their responsibility as a parent.?

Answer 1

I don't think that all dont like it but those who dont pay are a$$ holes. That's probably part of the reason that the parents are not together anymore. More good guys stay in relationships. I love to spend money on my kid.

Answer 2

Not all men do. My ex and I split up over ten years ago. In all that time I have not missed a single payment. It used to burn me up in the early years when I KNEW that my payments were going straight up her nose. I understood that there was nothing I could do about it and never fought it because I figured that the extra money she got from me would pay for that and our child's needs would still be met. She has (thankfully) gotten over that nonsense and our son benefits from my monthly payments. I have always acknowledged my responsiblity as a father and do not resent the payments that I must make every month. I have always been on "friendly" terms with my ex and maybe that is why it is easier for me, but I think that any "real" man would not have a problem with paying child support.

Answer 3

I don't think it has anything to do with the child or the fact they need to help pay. I think they hate seeing their ex using the money for themselves or some living a better lifestyle because of the child support rather than them. Some of these men pay 500-600 a month.

Answer 4

As a parent myself there are two things I don't like about it;

I would rather spend the money direct so I know that my child is benefitting from the money I give rather that keeping the mother stocked up on cigarettes as thats probably where it goes

If the mother can't afford to support the child but the father can, maybe the father should have custody.

Also I would like to add that non resident mothers just as likely to refuse to pay child support as non-resident fathers

Answer 5

Of course it's their responsibility as a parent. And to the truth I feel they should pay for more than just support. I got lucky. My sons father pays support plus buys him tons of other stuff. I takes two to pay for a growing child.

Answer 6

You are watching too much TV. Naturally, the media only gives you the bad. I have been gladly paying child support for 16years. Each year I have increased the amount I pay. This I have done of my own free will and without a single request from my ex-wife or any court orders. I have also established accounts to pay for my three childrens education as well as to provide spending money for them during their time in school. No I am not rich. I have worked very hard for many years to see that my children have the chances in life that they deserve. It was in no way their fault that their mother and I just fell out of love. We parted on very good terms and still communicate on what the children are doning. I see my childres as much as possible. However, I have worked outside the US for most of the last 15years and only get back about two times a year. During those visits my ex is very considerate in letting me spend as much time as possible with the children. She has even offered for me to stay in her spare bedroom but I choose to rent a motel. I don't want it to appear to her neighbors that she is doing anything unacceptable. So you see all DADS are not a$$ holes as many of you think. Incidentally, my oldest daughter now has a masters degree in education is a very seccessful high school principal.

Answer 7

Not all men are like that. Not only men have to pay child support, some women have to pay too.....I did for 16 yrs. I was the "absent" parent and YES it was my responsibility. Some people don't like to face their responsibilities......they just want to have fun.

Answer 8

I'm not in that situation as i have no children, but i think, or have heard guys talking about the fact that the money doesn't get spent on the child. i think the father believes that the payment goes into the mothers pocket and is spent in other areas rather than childcare. Although, the payment need not be directly spent on the child.. as it can or should contribute to shelter, food and such.. the payment should supplement the child's living expenses.

Answer 9

I don't think its that they hate paying the child, they just hate seeing a part of their pay check running away from them. I know I feel bad everytime I see how much tax is taken out of my pay!

Also, they could just be mad at the fact that they know that they messed up somewhere and now has to pay a monetery value for that mistake.

Answer 10

Honestly I have no idea, but u are not alone. i have been trying to get my sons father to pay for a year. The crazy thing is he payed for 11 years and then quit. Said that it is my husbands responsibility now. But I have been married for 11 years. And now all the sudden it's his responsibility. I wish I knew why they didn't, but i wonder if any one does. At least your not alone. good luck with it.