ok, me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year and a half. we love each other so much. we just got out of high school...we went to 2 diff. schools so we used to only be able to see each other 2 times a week. now that we're out of school, we see each other every day. i seem to get annoyed with him easier now.
is this normal in relationships? to get annoyed after being with someone for so long?
does it mean i'm falling out of love? helP!
2006-06-17 15:09:45 · 7 answers · asked by vagirl098765 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
some things that annoy me: he'll ignore me if something is on tv that's good...i thought i saw him check a girl out today...little stuff like that...but the good stuff outweighs the bad, definitly.
2006-06-17 15:18:19 · update #1
GOD YES. It is normal. I get annoyed at my husband all the time, but I love him like crazy. My advice would be to take some time a part (a few days maybe) and see how much you miss him...
2006-06-17 15:15:46 · answer #1 · answered by Boom Boom! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your defination of love. And please don't be afraid to fall out of it. Often there is a reason we fall out of it. Over the years I have found my heart to fall for men who need to be taken care of. I can't begine to tell you what that has brought to my life.
If you want to love smart, then don't love blindly. I am not sure who started that love is blind and love conquers all crap. It is a fairy tale believe me. There is nothing better than being in love and nothing worse than losing love, or what we precieve as love. In order to truely love we must know what we need in life, this is NOT a selfish sort of need but an honest matter of fact list of what we need. Too often we over look fatal flaws that in the end doom our sense of love. Specifically concerning you and your boyfriend.....it just might of been too romantic to be seperated by time and miles. Now that you see each other more often you might be seeing things more cleaerly. Nothing wrong with that.
One mistake people make in life is to hang on to what we precieve as love and at all costs. When in the long run the cost is way too high. Stop and think about those annoying things. When I was young I figured once the man married me he would love me so much that those things would disappear. Let me tell you from a life time of experience.....those annoying things,if not resolved, become bigger each year. Love your self enough to know what you can and can't deal with. Mostly don't fear the loss of love- it is in a full cycle, it will come to you again. It is a huge lesson to learn about knowing what sort of love you need. And please get rid of those unhealthy expectations you carry with you from your parents relationship. Make sure you don't love or marry the negative parent in your life so your subconsciousness thinks geesh I couldn't fix my parents, but I can love this person enough to fix........
2006-06-17 22:27:17 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it doesn't mean you're falling out of love. it means you are seeing more of his quirks and personality traits that you didn't see on those biweekly visits. i have lived with my boyfriend for 2 years. he does things on a daily basis that make me want to climb a wall. i do however want to point out that you are young. (i don't forget how it is so don't take that as an insult of any type). i dated my highchool boyfriend for 4 years. at the end of the relationship, even the way he tied his shoes annoyed me. in our case, we had to break up. it will only get worse. ask your mom and grandma. they'll tell you. men will irritate you until you die. can't live with them, can't live without them.
i am curious though as to what things specifically irritate you. that would give me more of an idea to offer advice on.
good luck! :)
2006-06-17 22:15:56 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes familiarity (being with a person too much) breeds contempt. Are you falling out of love? I don't know, but maybe you are seeing things in each other that you don't really like.
2006-06-17 22:13:27 · answer #4 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its normal to get easily annoyed with him. It just shows that you do not want to see him so much. Sometimes its because of him being bored, so he tries to annoy you, or now that you see him more, your seeing a sde of him that you do not like. Your not falling out of love, your just getting to know him more better than you want.
2006-06-17 22:16:24 · answer #5 · answered by dis_smirf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are getting a little tired of him it sounds like but you may still love him, try only seeing him 3 times a week or 4 and spending some time with your friends instead
2006-06-17 22:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by lyjana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't mean you don't love him. It just means that you were totally blinded by love in the beginning and after spending some time apart you've started to notice his little habits that drive you up the wall.
2006-06-17 22:16:52 · answer #7 · answered by Ammie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋