Brian (29 year's old) and Dan (53 year's old) is my two boyfriends. Both of them wants to marry me and have children with me. Dan lives around 2 miles from me and Brian lives about 700 miles from me but he is going to move to where I am in July. Dan is married with Josh (20 year's old) and Nikki (17 year's old). I am Josh's friend. Why am I messing around with Dan? Both Brian and Dan don't know abojut each other... What should i do?
Dan wants to get a divorced and marry me
I been dating Brian since i was 16
I been dating dan since sept. 3, 2005
and i been having sex with them
so what should i do?
2006-06-17 14:58:55 · 22 answers · asked by Ginny C & Hobie D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are playing a dangerous game. First you have to think about how you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot.
Dan is married with 2 kids, one being one of your friends. How much would your friend respect you if he found out that you could possibly destroy his family?
Secondly, if Dan divorced his wife and married you, had children with you, who is to say he would not divorce you and marry someone else.
You have another young man who is 700 miles away true enough but is up and leaving his comfort zone to come and be with you.
I hope also that you have been protecting yourself having sex with both of these men. I would hate for you to become pregnant and not know who the father could be. It could be ugly.
Use your senses sweetie.
Good luck.
2006-06-17 15:07:20 · answer #1 · answered by mrsharris_hardy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what do you want to do? Everyone's going to comment on messing around w/Dan since he is married in here.. If Dan were free, would you want him? Do you like them both equally? Which one do you think about the most? I'm guessing you are more Bryan's age. I kind of lean towards hanging w/him. I know it's attractive (the sex is good) w/Dan, the older guy. Older men.. sheesh! boy, the older ones especially.. got a line of **** a mile long. (Trust me.. I know.. I'm 53/F.) Can YOU move then? I kind of lean towards this thinking.. move away from that Dan guy. See IF he is serious enough about you to finally file for a divorce and follow you! I hope you don't have to stay living where you are right now.. (kinda weird talking to/being pals w/one of Dan's kids I bet..) good luck...... later (melancholia)
2006-06-17 22:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cut all your ties with dan he is married and most married men just say whatever they feel you will want to hear so they can keep you around, i doubt he is gonna divorce his wife but even so if he does who is to say that he will not do the same thing to you in the long run....i think you have a better mate in brian, atleast he is single and is willing to put effort into having a real relationship with you. plus dan is sorta old and if you get married to someone you atleast want to know that they are not gonna die on you....brian is the much better choice since youre both young and can build your relationship and lives together in the right way...
2006-06-17 22:06:47 · answer #3 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit dan today, poor josh poor nikki, imagine josh's mother's feelings! dan may be convincing but he is bad news. afterwards, think and evaluate Brian, and if necessary quit brian in three months if you don't like him enough to ask him to move here and change all his life just yet. it is best if you start anew, and make sure go with someone one at a time. and when you quit Dan you probably will find someone your age and nearby and one you will even want to leave brian for.
2006-06-17 22:10:00 · answer #4 · answered by OnceAlive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go with Brian.Because for the rest of your life you will be thinking"I wonder what my life would be like if I'd gone with Brian?"And trust me you will be thinking the same for Dan.But Dan is MARRIED and you and him need to understand that he made a commitment when he got married and he should stick to it.So...my vote is for BRIAN!
2006-06-17 22:09:29 · answer #5 · answered by Nohemy A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump both men. Your not ready for a relationship with any one right now. As a young women (even If you decide to be horish) you must have boundaries specially when it comes to a married man. If he leave his wife for you he will leave you for another. Your no longer a challenge. Then the person you cheated on is eventually going to cheat on you because whats done in the dark come to the light in many shape and forms. Dump them both and start with a clean slate. Give your self time to heal before you start a new relationship.
2006-06-17 22:10:13 · answer #6 · answered by butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to say but married men always say they want a divorce but they never get one.they say they stay for the kids or he feels bad for his wife.dan just wants to feel needed by someone like yourself,but if i where you i would wait on thinking about marrying him untill he gets a divorce.also, which one do you truley love.....if your really in love with dan then you will wait for him to get a divorce.or if your in love with the other one then you will go with him and leave dan alone. if you wait for dan give him a time limit...dont wait forever.......he may just be toying with your heart!!! the best of luck for you!!!
2006-06-17 22:14:13 · answer #7 · answered by tinkerbell85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, GROW UP. You're going to break up a marriage and a few lives at the same time. It's time you kept your pants on. Forget about having babies with either of them because they will find out about each other and you will lose them both (and I wouldn't blame either one). You are acting like a s*ut and certainly have that mentality. Think about what you are doing to yourself and them. You are cheapening yourself and setting them and yourself up for BIG failures in life. THINK, WOMAN, THINK!
2006-06-17 22:12:04 · answer #8 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be ashamed of your self that i one of the most slutty things i have ever heard of. but in this case if it was me i would go for the guy that is more around your age i think brian was the one. and dump the ond guy dan
2006-06-17 22:01:38 · answer #9 · answered by courtney5839 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to be alone. Sounds like you have no idea what you want, so I don't think you should marry either one of them.
You need to take a break and reassess what you want in life.
If you're not being faithful to either one of them...it sounds like neither man has what it takes to keep you interested long term. I mean are you going to cheat on him when you get married?
Sounds to me like you definately don't need to get married if you are cheating before the marriage. =/
Good Luck!
2006-06-17 22:01:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋