When I first told that I was a lesbain none of my friends or parents freaked out because I thought the already new by the way I used to act around the girls and guys.When I was with the guys it was as if I was one of them...I don't know why...but when I was with the girls there was realiy nothing to do at all be watch and listen.I still need someone to help me out here....Help......
2006-06-17 14:28:05 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It is better to be hated for who you are than loved for who you are not. Be honest. Be proud.
2006-06-26 07:08:01 · answer #1 · answered by Just Jess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend is a lesbian and she hasn't been able to tell her family yet. She has been dating a girl from a few towns over for about a year. They met through their church. The problem is that my friends family would never let her see her girlfriend again. When she turns 18 in the fall she is going to move in with her girlfriend and then tell her family the truth.
I think if her family would actually look at the way they act and try not to be in denial they would have realized a long time ago what was going on, they just don't want to accept it. So we are letting them live in their fantasy world.
2006-06-17 22:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best analogy of all of this is really what you do when your doors are closed is nobodies business! I would have never told my family a thing! Let them all keep making accusations and guessing. Why say a word? I don't think my preference should be the public business or even my family for that matter. What someone else does is very good for them but that is the way i see it.
2006-06-17 21:35:44 · answer #3 · answered by soniaatcalifornia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accepting yourself as you are, is most important. Often times, those closest to us are first to know. Being lesbian is not a bad thing, just the way you were created.Get comfortable with yourself and the rest will follow.
2006-06-28 19:22:23 · answer #4 · answered by DK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have personally been out 24 years and know no other way to live. If you respect yourself, others will respect you. Coming out today is much easier than in the past however live how you are comfortable. But remember, no one can love you for who you are if they don't really know you!
2006-06-29 07:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by phaz7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel like you. I feel like a guy when I hanging out with my guy friends and when I with my female friends I just listen to them talking. I feel more myself hanging out with guys. I don't think I'm a lesbian though but I have a hard time in relationships with men though. Never content and woman do turn me on. It's kind of weird.
2006-07-01 18:03:38 · answer #6 · answered by applecheeks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those close to me know. I generally don't "come out" at work... I keep my work life and personal life seperate.... Mainly because I could lose my job if people were close minded and not accepting. I don't "hide" who I am, I talk about my "roommate" and everyone knows I've never been married and I don't have kids. If they were to ask, I'd be honest.
2006-07-01 08:15:38 · answer #7 · answered by ckm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how ppl carry themselves another person could see it before you can...understand me...And by you telling your peoples about who you are and them not acting all crazy, that's just showing how loving and caring they are...But at the same time if you feel that is who you are then by all means be it b/c you came in this world by yourself & your'e going to leave by yourself you dont owe anybody anything...
2006-06-28 22:04:57 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally I'm scared. the people I've lived around and go to school with i think would hate me and laugh at me it is really hard to be lesbian in my community.
when i get older though and i have a car and dont need these people ill tell them and then ill leave so they cant laugh. i hate it when people laugh at me and i dont need people to know so they can make fun of me even more. so im keeping it to myself until i know ill never need them again
2006-06-26 15:58:30 · answer #9 · answered by Sassy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just don't feel that comfortable with themselves. Which is fine. It's a personal choice to come out and should not be rushed.
2006-07-01 03:04:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I need just jess to tell me where that quote came from. I believe it or not found it on a bumper sticker and absolutely love it. What quote you may ask. It is better to be hated for who you are then loved for who you are not. I just love that quote. and to answer your question, you basically have to follow your heart and YOUR convictions. I don't believe in labels myself so therefore i do not call myself anything. I just live my life and let others live theirs.
2006-06-29 10:26:17 · answer #11 · answered by icu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋