i am in love?

Question

i am 15 (i know a lot of people think love cant happen this young) my girlfriend is 18 we want kids (2 boys and 2 girls hopefully) should we wait and how long

the legal age is 18 im 15 shes 18 and i truly utterly LOVE this woman we LOVE each other and want to have kids i need advice

its not lust i've felt that this is real

i have a job she OWNS her own buisness we have talked about it and she would rather me stay home and care 4 the kids

thank all of u for ur opnions the bad and good but, you are the only life line i have about this kind of talk and there would not be all this pressure on me if my mom had'nt had me at 16 and when i talked to her she said, "I had a good time and 2 wonderful kids sence then and everything is fine for me" everything isnt fine my father walked out on me when i was 3 and wont have anything to do with me now. tnks everyone

Answer 1

i was 14 when i fell in love,so i can relate to you. we were together 5 years and have only just broken up,but we are still in love with each other. don't let anyone tell you how you feel, you must make those descisions yourself! you can only understand if you've been ther your self, but even then each experience is different! love is great, but it bloody well hurts when its taken away from you,so be aware of that and just enjoy it while you feel it and don't worrie about what others think!!
we split up coz he felt he needed some quality time with the lads as he never did that,he's still in love and so am i and it hurts to do it,but if you don't enjoy your youth then you may end up regreting it later on. so don't rush into babies,just take things slowly and enjoy each other first,coz when babies come along,her attention will be on them not you and it will not be as fun! good luck. :)
ps:its not lust its love, do what you feel is right, but please think of the kids,they need a family and if you can not support them, then its not fare on them. i'm not saying don't do it, i'm just saying wait a while!

Answer 2

I think you can love that young. People can love at all ages, that is not the question. The question is, what will you be giving up making such rash decisions at such a young age? You really need to contemplate the WHAT IF's.
What if you have a baby and it doesn't work out? Be honest with yourself, you cannot support a child.

What if you have a baby and her business fails and you a 15 year old barely able to work and certainly not able to make more than minimum wage (a little less than 6 bucks an hour) has to work?

What if she stops loving you because she decides she wants someone more mature?

What if you decide to do something with your life and she does not want to follow you?

What if, what if?

There are so many things you need to severely think about before deciding to have kids and get married. It isn't fair to your children to have a father that could quite possibly be their brother. And I can assure you as a woman that she will change in time. Women want security, they want the man they are with to help provide that security.

I can tell you right now, you aren't ready. Don't do it to her, don't do it to you and don't, please don't drag children into this.

I have no doubt you love her, but I am certain you are not ready for the steps you speak of.

Goodluck!

Answer 3

First of all, I wish you two all the best. Love in blossom is perhaps the best feeling in the world. Many go their whole lives without finding it.

It is nice that you two are planning a future together. This shows a great level of commitment on both sides. However, for legal reasons, I would seriously consider waiting on a more intimate relationship until you both are of consentual age. Because your girlfriend is an adult in the eyes of the law, she could be held accountable should your sexual relationship be discovered (pregnancy is kind of a dead giveaway). I am sure that you would not want the woman you love to face the full force of the law for a sexual relationship with what the law considers a minor. If you truly love her, wait to consummate your relationship. If you have done so already, wait until you are both legally adults to start talking about a family together. Believe me, as a new mother, babies are a lot more work than I could ever have imagined.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Do people really need to tell you? I mean for god's sake you are freaking 15! You should clearly know by now that this is not the age to be thinking about starting a family. So hold the **** up and wait at least till you are financially secure... then **** around as much as you want. Start a baseball team with the young ones hahaha.

Answer 5

Sure you can be in love at age 15! That's the good news, here's the bad: You probably aren't. I know the feelings you're going through, many of us do! With your age differences, you're about 15 years apart, at least mentally in that department. It's just the way we're programmed. Hang out with the guys for another 10 years. And if another chick comes along, have FUN! But don't be talkin' no kids, kid. You're too young. Enjoy what you have with this older woman, but please don't do the nasty! It just isn't right... Not now anyway. Wait, you'll be happy you did.

Answer 6

Okay, I think it's sweet you have this vision, but really, you are very young and I cannot stress the importance of 'finding yourself'.

I never understood this concept but I did from the age of about 20 onwards (I am 23 now). As you get older and experience different people and different situations, you kind of become aware of who you are and what you really want in life.

Now as for your girlfriend, she's still really young too and it's beyond me why she is allowing a child (which is what you are) to entertain these thoughts.

But at the end of the day, it's your decision but I have to say that planning your life at such a young age is pretty naive.

Good luck to you though, please don't take this response as a dig at you, it's just my honest opinion.

Answer 7

Have you got a job? Where you going to live? Who's going to pay the rent? Buy diapers, baby food, clothes for the kids who's gonna drive you to work, your not old enough to drive. And her being 18 is considered an adult your a minor. Yes You need to wait a long time.

Answer 8

I would wait until you finish high school at least. It is really hard to raise a child no less 4. I have 3 my first one at 16. I am now 28 and I finally just finished college, but if you are confident go for it.

Answer 9

Okay, now I believe that yes, you can be in love at 15. But planning kids at that age, that's unbelievable and you have to wait! Also, I think it's very unfair of your older girlfriend even to be discussing it with you. I would wait until you're in your twenties at least and I would put money on the fact that it won't be with the same girl... sorry hun.

Answer 10

I would wait to have kids. dont listen to what anyone says just listen to your heart. I was just in 8th grade when i thought i was in love with my boyfriend but it didnt work out so well. Now im 19 and took it slow we have been together now for almost 4 years. my advice to you is to take it slow. just give it time... and dont factor age... i know exactly how you feel..... i sure can relate....do factor in school/work and extras because the both of you have to do what is best for eachother and not keep eachother from achieving goals. If you both are sure of what u want go for it just make sure u have your lives established first.