is it normal for a 21yr old to have no idea what he wants to do with his life?

Answer 1

Completely - I have ten years on you and I still don't know!

Answer 2

no worries

people around who seem to know what they want are probably affecting you too.

Letting yourself go with the flow isn't the easiest thing either.

Finding a different inspiration in the middle of college education may seem to be yet another problem, but all these are never catastrophic.

World wouldn't be so colorful if we were all equally conscious equally determined etc.

Being undecided and having no special interest in this or that field must be making you feel quite anxious and may even cause you to question your social identity.

You may find out that many rich people quit school and many other successful people haven't reach success with school grades but by learning how to teach themselves and using other sources to learn and pursue their dreams.

Neither moneymaking nor a diploma is the essence of life yet they seem to be good motivators. Though it is hard to accept the idea to be different from most and damage your "image" so to speak, it might be a great lesson on how to deal with time and life.

While it may seem like you are "losing" years, the lesson is to be able to prevent your academic problems ruining your everyday life.
The challenge here is to understand how YOU don't have to be controlled by this academic "passage" and you are not what you earn or have earned but also what you have gone through.

Thus learning how to deal with problems without totally collapsing

I wish you good luck and patience wherever necessary

cheers :)

Answer 3

Yes. Are you a student? If not, taking some classes is a good idea. If you are soon to graduate, then maybe getting into the work world will help clarify what you like and what you are good at. Even taking some temp jobs can help you focus. Don't settle for low paying menial work if a little bit of school could make a huge difference in your future.

Answer 4

Absolutely. Don't get to hung up about it. Try a few things on for size and just coast a bit. You're still young. Just, relax, at the end of the day, it's not that important. Just... don't be lazy. Be confident. Give things a go. Developing integrity and honour are what will see you through in the long run. Hang in there, it will come to you...as long as you keep working on it.

Be happy with what you have but always striving for more :)

Answer 5

Yes - but take it from someone who knows - it's not a good thing in this society. You will certainly be left behind and there is little way to rise up when you are down. I'd say, if you really have no clue, pick something tolerable that you can support yourself with and go as far as you can with it. If you do have something in mind but parents, friends or society thinks differently, stick to your guns and go for it. The worst thing in life is to be stuck or obligated by things other people percieve as important that you do not no matter how much you care about them.

Answer 6

Every society seems to have it's own fundamental prerequisites for preparing it's young people to enter into adulthood. Unfortunately, a lot of times, somebody forgets to ask the kid!
For myself, I've changed careers 3 times. Music Teacher (hated teaching!)---Professional Muscian (didn't pay the bills with 3 kids) --- Registered Nurse (loved it...but became ill).
Now I just try to make the most of my life and live passionately in whatever I do.
At 21 you will see the world and how you fit in it one way. I believe somewhere down the line as you grow and change and you experience more of life, you want to try different things....do something else...maybe do a geographical change. I went from California to Boston (but couldn't stand the double parking--- it's nuts! LOL!).
Give yourself time for your brain to mature and open up all those areas of interest to you. Aloha!

Answer 7

Yeah, I graduated from college at 22 and worked in a bike/snowboard shop and later at a resort for a few years. Basically I just subsisted, rode with my friends, went to Europe and screwed around until I figured out what I wanted to do with my life.

Go do something with your life before you tie yourself to a career. If you're lucky, you'll find a worthwhile career along the way.

Answer 8

Yes...in fact an unfortunately many people never find out the answer their whole lives, but mainly because they gave up too early. Life is the grand adventure when you pursue it with curiosity, fascination and passion. Don't settle for anything that doesn't satisfy you. The purpose of life is feeling good....Abraham.

Answer 9

Oh yes! Thats why we have junior colleges, to help us determine what we want to do. As long as you are trying to figure out what you want to do right now, and your not messing around doing nothing than yes, this is totaly normal. Just take some classes at a j/c and try to determine what it is that you want to do. Once you figure that out, get busy and work hard to acheive your dreams. I wish you well!

Answer 10

I don't think anyone really knows 100% what they want to do with their life.
They may choose a profession and be sucessful with it, but it may not be exactly what they want to do 10 years down the line.

It would be lovely to have your life all mapped out, but plans get broken and situations happen which can make it impossible.

I shouldn't worry too much. Just encourage him with whatever he eventually choses, but don't allow him to just dream his life away, that would be a terrible waste.

Answer 11

That's completely normal. I don't know of too many 21 yr olds who know exactly what they want to do with their lives. You've got time to figure it out and who says you will ever figure it out. I've known people over 40 who still didn't know, lol so don't start worrying too much about it yet.