I am a divorced mother of 2, and have lots of friends, but I am so terribly lonely. It has been this way for a long time, even prior to my divorce, my ex never spent any time with me and the children doing family things.
2006-06-17 13:27:01 · 24 answers · asked by rosesbeautifullove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Finds things to do that interest you, keep active. There are a lot of things you can do by yourself and enjoy doing it.
2006-06-17 14:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by dynsapp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a single mother and I was at one time in your position. There are a lot of very good answers you have received here and then there are the others. The first thing I had to do was to listen to myself of why I was feeling this way. Sometimes we can't hear ourselves because we are so loud giving ourselves giving the pity party. When you pray, God changes things and he can open new ideas and doors for you. After receiving and be hurt by poor and awful relationships with supposed to be friends and men, God provided me that first I have to love myself because I can't expect anyone to love me unless I love me because I have to know how I wanted someone to love me. When you can determine that, the rest can be easy. If you need to talk just let me know. I will be happy to email and talk back and forth with you. I made it and I know you can. Take care.
2006-06-17 15:00:39 · answer #2 · answered by mrsharris_hardy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also a divorced mother of 2 and try not to look at this time as a bad thing. Look it as a time for you to get to know urself, take the time given to you and devote it to urself. I know with two kids, u spend so much time devoting time to them. This is YOUR time to regain ur independence after a long relationship. I get lonely too sometimes but I know my wait is going to result in something wonderful, you just have to be patient!
2006-06-17 14:24:42 · answer #3 · answered by ooolala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loneliness is something everyone has to deal with, married or single. If you really admit it you were probably lonely even when you were married. Having someone physically there mask the fear of being alone, but it doesn't completely take it away. What you should do is confront your fears of being alone. You have to embrace the loneliness on some level so you learn not to be so afriad of it and to finally deal with it, so finally, when you start dating again and looking for someone else to share your life with you won't do it out of fear of loneliness but out of strenght and a desire to share your life with someone.
2006-06-17 19:04:23 · answer #4 · answered by tolula 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible to involve yourself in any volunteer groups or clubs? I know it's hard to find extra time when you have kids, but if you're feeling lonely I'm guessing you do have the time.
Maybe join a book club that meets once every week or every other week. Investigate things you enjoy doing or are interested in learning more about.
Good luck!
2006-06-17 13:34:03 · answer #5 · answered by mamabunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are several good answers, but the best one would be praying and asking God for what you want in your life in a companion. He knows all, but still wants us to ask to receive. Honestly, I've been there too, and I'm dealing with being by myself too. So, I can sincerely say that things can be resolved for your happiness when the time is right. Don't give up on God!
2006-06-17 16:44:59 · answer #6 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been divorced from my husband for alot of years and those first 2 or 3 years, were really bad for me. Like you, I had good aquaintances, but still felt lost and alone.
The best thing I did, was talk to my doctor, he sent me to a psycologist to talk and I took a mild anti-depressant.
The psycologist helped me understand that it was okay to feel the way I did, but that it really had gone on to long, and she helped me sort out anger, sadness, and guilt. Sometimes your loneliness is due to anger, because you dont feel like you have resolved, finished what you would really like to say to your ex.
Go talk to your doctor, he will send you to someone who is impartial, that has nothing to gain, but to help you through a tough time. GOOD LUCK!!!!
2006-06-17 14:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by Granny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay as active as possible. When you are doing something, it's hard to remember that you are lonely. Friends are great and can help ease the feeling of being lonely. Rely on them more. I'm sure they are more than willing to help you out.
Best of luck! Feel better. Life is definately worth living!
2006-06-17 13:35:30 · answer #8 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that a point in time comes when you have to pull yourself out of the trenches. Half the time I felt lonely is because I let myself feel that way. I feel that you can choose to be happy if you really want to be.
Oh, and alcohol is a depressent you facking idiots. I don't recommend it when you already feel depressed.
2006-06-17 13:42:47 · answer #9 · answered by lofty_and1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of the house more, and meet people. You need to meet a man that thinks you hung the moon, and that the sun comes up on you. You need to be wined and dined. You need romance in your life. I loved my kids too when they were home, but I, the human man, needed attention too. Go out with friends and have some fun. You need to! It will help with the loneliness, believe me. Good Luck!!
2006-06-17 13:33:48 · answer #10 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand how you feel. would you like to look for some one to go on a date or try a new relationship? i think that will help because you told me that you have a lot of friends and you're still feeling lonely.
i wish you the best.
2006-06-17 13:46:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋