Ok.
Im 13, and a girl
I have a boyfriend. Ill call him Bill. Well I am white and Bill is black. My family is sorta raceist. Im not oviusly cuz i have a black boyfriend.
I dont kno if im "alowed to have a boyfriend" expecaily a black one.
I dont kno if im allowed to and if i should tell my parents or what ever?
So i dont kno what to do.
I dunno if i should tell them or jus not let them kno until im like 16?
Ugh. Confusion.
2006-06-17 12:46:28 · 15 answers · asked by scared by myselfXxXx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have black belt but my family didn't even say a word!
It is not for being black or white, it is your age honey!
in your age a lot of people try to take what ever they need by, the name of love and you do not even have the experience to discover that, when you discover that it is going to be so late.
Tell your parents and let them know him.
This is the best for you.
take good care of your self
2006-06-17 12:59:05 · answer #1 · answered by dragowolfthelegend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell them now instead of them finding out later. And you really don't want someone telling them besides you cause they would probably go off the deep end and think that they couldn't trust you. 13 is very young for someone to be dating. You do have the rest of your life and should do the things that really matter in a young girls life, I'm not saying that love don't matter but with a relationship there is a lot of responsibility. I started dating when I was 14 and I'm 20 now. I really do wish that I could reverse time and experience a child hood instead of an adult hood. You can never grow younger just older. But the decision is all yours.
2006-06-17 12:56:34 · answer #2 · answered by blondiebabygurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're too young for a boyfriend anyhow. Trust me, relationships at that age don't mean much. That's besides the point. You should never lie to your parents. It only makes it worse when they find out. Trust me, I've been through those kinds of things before. If you really want to date the guy you should tell your parents. If they don't like it you can either disobey or not date him. If you disobey you need to think about the guy's feelings on the matter. What does he think about all this? Does he even know about your parents? It seems like you've got yourself into a situation before you thought about it. Don't worry! We've all been there. Good luck with your decision.
2006-06-17 12:57:15 · answer #3 · answered by lofty_and1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I made the decision at your age. It;s a hard life to live, but I know that I wouldn't be happy any other way. My family doidn't talk openly. I eased them into it. Beleive me they fought it all the way. I'mm 33 and they have finally given up. It was not easy and it really is your life. Just make sure you know what you want before you take it or you'll regret it later. I think mixed children are beautiful. They have natural tans. I would do anything to not have to sit in the heat all day just o get this pasty skin to darken and not burn red. Your parents will be furious and will forbid it. Wait until your old enough to make your own decisions.
2006-06-17 12:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, there is nothing wrong with you being "white" and him being "black" as there are no boundaries to love, especially skin colour. We are all the same, and there is only one Race, and that is the Human Race. Good for you to have progressed outside of the ignorant thinking of your upbringing, my only caution is the fact that you are 13 and maybe a little young at this time. What's the hurry anyway, you have your whole life in front of you, so no need to complicate your life with more than a friendship relationship.
2006-06-17 12:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by Crowfeather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you shouldnt have a boyfriend yet, for one, your too young (im 13 too, and i know that my first bf just came into my life too early), maybe you should tell Bill that your parents wont agree on you having a boyfriend cuz your too young and maybe he should wait until your older.
about the racist problem . . my reaction: that's evil >:( - if you love him, then there's nothing your parents can do . .next thing you know youll have a wonderful life with beautiful, fair-skinned children. your parents just dont want 'a mix' that's why they dont want you to have a black boyfriend. they know what's right im sure . . but theyre not always right about certain things we teens are experiencing today, maybe you should tell them about your relationship with Bill when theyre super happy like its the best day of their life . . so that when the bomb drops . . it wont make too huge an explotion.
2006-06-17 12:58:41 · answer #6 · answered by mia_n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let your heart decide. If you really like Bill, then you would be in a relationship wit him. I think that you should ask your parents what they think on the matter, and then go from there. If they think it's ok, then tell them, if not, I reconmend that you don't tell them. If your parents are racist, then that is wrong, for everyone is equal. I'm 13 too!
2006-06-17 13:48:18 · answer #7 · answered by Read n' Write 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOSH THAT IS CRAZY...I CAN SEE WHY U R CONFUSED. RACIST PARENTS THATS NOT GOOD..FOR HIS SAKE AND YOURS U TWO SHOULD JUST STAY FRIENDS. NOT BECAUSE HE IS BLACK AND U R WHITE.. ITS BECAUSE YOUR PARENTS ARE RACIST AND THERE IS NO TELLING WHAT THEY WOULD SAY OR DO TO U OR HIM. JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE RACIST DOESNT MEAN U R JUST REMEMBER THAT. AND U SHOULD TELL UR BF U 2 SHOULD JUST BE FRIENDS AND EXPLAIN TO HIM WHY. THIS KIND OF SCARES ME A LITTLE BECAUSE U R 13 AND UR PARENTS ARE PROBABLY NOT IN THEIR 40'S YET AND THEY ARE RACIST. SINCE U ARE ONLINE U SHOULD PROBABLY DO A LITTLE RESEARCH ON RACISM TOO BECAUSE IT FAR MORE THAN WHAT THEY TELL U AT SCHOOL. IF BOTH OF U R WILLING TO ACCEPT THE CONSEQUENCES LATER ON OF WHAT WILL EVENTUALLY HAPPEN THEN ITS UP TO U 2. BUT U R JUST 13 U HAVE SO MANY YEARS LEFT TO SEE WHAT SOMEONE HAS TO OFFER. JUST TO YOUR SUPRISE IF ITS MEANT TO BE THEN UR BF WILL BE BACK IT MIGHT BE YEARS LATER BUT HE WILL.
2006-06-17 13:01:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're parents are ignorant if they are racist. Nonetheless, they are your parents. Trust me, sneaking behind their backs isn't a solution--even if you don't get caught. Just talk to them. Tell how you feel. And at the very least they should let you two be friends.
Aria
*The illnovelist*
2006-06-17 12:50:11 · answer #9 · answered by illnovelist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are to young to have any bf, so you needs to chill on the whole dating situation. And when you get older and you are attracted to any other black guys, you tell your parents that they already lived their lives and now it is your turn.
2006-06-17 12:52:58 · answer #10 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋