why does it hurt when we hear people GOSSIPING about us?

Answer 1

I believe it must be because we either care for those people and/or their opinions about us. As I've gotten older, these things don't bother me as much as they used to. I just overheard a guy at work saying something about me, and he didn't realize I was in the same room. I let it go, because for one, he b****es all the time, and for another, I don't think he meant anything really bad about it towards me. People just run their mouths without thinking sometimes.

Answer 2

Because unfortunately words have meaning. Anyone who has feelings will hurt from gossip directed towards themselves personally. Reality doesn't play that "sticks and stones" theory. It's difficult for people to have "trouble talk" without training, and usually this is the result. There is training though it may sound lame, it helps both sides-even if only one reads it.
There's never a good reason to gossip.

Answer 3

Gossip hurts, because, even if it is not true, people believe that it is true, and you may get a bad rep. Gossip is a hard thing to ignore, i know you shouldnt care what people think, but thats almost impossible.

Answer 4

It doesn't always, because sometimes I start the gossip to see how it will end up, especially with some of the more active busy bodies at work.

Answer 5

most gossip is usually not good ,it hurts because they are focusing on you when they are probably guiltier of far worse ,they gossip about you to keep attention off of themselves,If they tok a good look at themselves it would hurt too much so they decide to focus on you,just rise above them and be strong ,then they will be ashamed it works

Answer 6

I know I wouldn't want anyone talking about me in anytype of way. It is just a natural thing in the body, feelings. They sometimes hurt and they sometimes feel good! here is some info

Feelings are most generally information that biological beings are capable of sensing in the situations they are in, exposed to or depending on. For example fear is information that there is risk, threat or direct danger to the own being or related concerns. Empathy is information about another's feelings.

This information is not necessarily resulting in the same reaction among receivers, see emotions, but varies depending on competence to handle the situation, depending on how it relates to past experiences and other factors. see http://www.feelingdictionary.com

Harvard professor Abraham Maslow pointed out that we humans are all born with an innate sense of positive and negative being-values. We are attracted to positive being values such as justice, honesty, truth, beauty, humour, liveliness, power (but not abusive power), order (but not nit-picking), intelligence (but not snobbery). Likewise we are repulsed by injustice, deadness, uglyness, weakness, falseness, deceit, chaos etc. Maslow also asserts that positive being values are only definable in terms of all other positive being values - in other words we cannot maximize any virtue and let it contain some negative being values without repulsion.

For example beauty that is associated with deceit becomes repulsive. Justice associated with cruelty is repulsive. These innate capabilities to feel attraction or repulsion is the foundation for morality - in other words, feelings well understood form the inner capability we are born with to arrive at what we think to be good/bad and right/wrong.

This view contrasts sharply to extreme religious and extreme political teachings that always want to lay claim to what is moral - that humans are born in a moral vacuum and that it is only authority that can tell human beings what is right and wrong. Extremist exploitation of feeling increases in the measure that feelings are not merely distinguished but even separated from critical thought. Analysis and further resources about such harmful separation are available in Ch. 6, Critical Thought and Feeling, Roderick Hindery, Indoctrination and Self-deception or Free and Critical Thought? Mellen Press, 2006; and Propaganda vs. Critical Thought, www.public.asu.edu/~sheilrod/.

Answer 7

Because you let it. Seriously. My father helped me out long ago when he told me not to give a $#!% when people gossip or talk trash. What are they jealous of you? Is their life so f*^$ing boring that they must always be in your business? Really.

"keep on mother-truckin"
-huli

Answer 8

Because of our need/desire to be accepted. We tend to think thall all gossip about us is negative. Even if it is, we cannot please everyone, nor we should try to. Let gossipers be! Usually, they fill their time talking about others because they have empty lives. Worry if they don't gossip. Be happy!

Answer 9

Because gossiping is saying something that you like about somebody that you don't like.

Answer 10

you shouldn't even worry about what other people think of you. the sooner you realize that the better off you'll be. people that gossip have small minds anyway.