How long would you wait, and what would you do about it? Especially if divorce is not currently an option.
2006-06-17 12:20:51 · 20 answers · asked by DJ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not a physical problem. Arguing over birth control issues put the fires out some time ago. We have two kids and don't get along. I won't chance getting pregnant again, and safe sex is too troublesome for him. Since I don't trust him to take care of me he won't touch me.
2006-06-17 12:31:05 · update #1
Tell him if he won't have sex with you, you will go out and find someone who will.
2006-06-17 13:32:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
When you start thinking about going outside the marriage for sex.....that's when you know enough is enough. Is there a good reason you're not having sex? Does he have a impotency problem? If you can't think of a reason and impotency is not a problem, your spouse may be having an affair. As for what to do about a sexless marriage, you must discuss this with your spouse because every marriage is unique. Work on a solution that pleases you both.....even if that means an "open" marriage, moving on, addressing an impotency problem, getting over a depression, or beginning the healing process of an affair.
2006-06-17 12:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by carpediem3000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if there is a set time that is too long. If it's bothering you then it's probably too long.
But on the otherhand, don't use that as an excuse for divorce. Find out what's wrong with your partner. Is s/he working a lot and superstressed out? Does s/he have a medical problem like ED or menopause? It might be a psychological problem, as well. If s/he can't tell you what's wrong, ask if s/he will go to marriage counseling or something so you guys can figure it out.
Good luck. I hope you work out your relationship!
2006-06-17 12:27:58 · answer #3 · answered by tertiahibernica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he got a vasectomy, would you have sex with him again?
Maybe that's the solution to the birth-control aspect of this challenge. Sounds to me like there are deeper problems in the marriage, though - and that's what you need to go to work on. Your marriage might survive a while without sex (eventually, he'll go get it elsewhere, trust me) but as you can see, there are deeper and deeper problems both causing it and caused by it.
You might consider seeking some counseling. If you want to keep the marriage (I wonder if you do, if as you say you "don't get along") then you're probably going to need some help.
2006-06-17 12:47:25 · answer #4 · answered by jackmack65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There can be many answers to this question. Has something happened that has cause his lack of interest? An affair, loss of job or death in the family? Is there a medical problem? Certain medicines can decrease interest in sex. If you really love him, stick it out. Marriages that last go through ups and downs. Don't give up too quickly.
2006-06-17 12:35:23 · answer #5 · answered by mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every couple is different - but I'd imagine at least once a week or at least bi-weekly. If you weren't getting any at all, then you should talk to your spouse about it and come to an understanding of why there is no sex in the marriage.
2006-06-17 12:23:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say 7 days. If it was past that I would initiate the sex.
If things are not going well in the marriage then no sex for him. I would just do with out.
2006-06-17 12:28:48 · answer #7 · answered by Dee Dee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on age. if it is a young couple then you should be getting your freak on about 3-4 times a week. if it is a much older couple, like 40-50s i guess like once a week to once every two weeks. but if you know you are hotblooded and you and your man usually get it going on in the sheets up until last mnth you need to do some investigating. chances are he is eating outside. srry.
2006-06-17 12:26:48 · answer #8 · answered by baby_blaque 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go more than a week without sex throw urself at him. U need to show that u really love him and that he can turn to u men look at sex for that make sure that u give him what he wants in the bedroom b/c what happens in the bedroom really does matter
2006-06-17 12:25:36 · answer #9 · answered by Tina d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever period of time it takes to make one of the partners uncomfortable.
Obviously, sometimes one partner will have to wait longer than they like, but if it happens consistently, counseling is in order.
BTW, badgering an unwilling partner, guilt trips, fear of losing you, manipulation . . . that stuff is guaranteed to make the problem worse. Seek out a professional.
2006-06-17 12:26:01 · answer #10 · answered by LazlaHollyfeld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would find out what the problem is .
Is your partner ill or old .He may be having sexual problems caused by medicine .Try TALKING to Your MATE rather than a bunch of strangers on Yahoo .
2006-06-17 12:25:20 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋