My daughter's father has been scheduled to a deposition, by my lawyer. He is trying to get 50% custody and has lied about many things, including actually supporting her in any way! he is a 2 time felon, and is currently getting supervised visits. he showed no interest in her prior to our break up. We broke up because he did not pay attention to my daughter and he was emotinally abusive. I have tried to expose all his lies. It's hard because everyone who really knows him, knows the truth! i'm scared that the judge will be manipulated into believing his lies. will he be exposed by his own words?
2006-06-17 12:07:03 · 5 answers · asked by lady 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
yes, it was lengthy time wise. judge's have heard and seen it all, they usually can see through people. don't worry too much about that.
but the judge will be concerned that if you had a child with this guy, you might be susceptible to another man like this and expose the child again to danger. it's about the child, not you guys!
start getting help for you and your daughter, from a professional right now before trial, it will go a long way with the judge!
be calm and don't interrupt at the trial! whoever acts most grown up will reap the benefits.
if your ex is a jerk, he will show himself under pressure, you don't need to help. just sit back & let it happen. & most of all keep a straight face!
judges know, the main mistake single mom's make is concentrating on finding another man.
but if you pay 100% positive attention to the child, good men just seem show up! it's like they watch from a distance and see if we are good or something.
bad men are the ones who take your time away from your child. just remember your child's needs come before yours.
all these attitudes will help you in court. if the judge sees this it will help your case immensely!
2006-06-17 14:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by 53&luvnit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A deposition is little different than testimony given in court other than the person is not cross examined. He is sworn and required to answer questions under penalty of perjury for lying.
I'm not certain what your comments have to do with suitability as a parent, but based on what you wrote, there is nothing that will be discovered that is not already known.
Unless you are alleging he is assaulting the child, his past record and current associates (friends) are generally irrelevant as relates to child custody or possession.
"Emotionally abusive" is a highly subjective term and is unlikely to affect the outcome, one way or another.
2006-06-17 14:46:26 · answer #2 · answered by Left the building 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband can lie, but once it is on paper, and he is cross-examined in court about statements he made in the deposition, he may well wind up in jail for perjury. I have known it to happen. Good luck.
2006-06-17 12:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by SpongebobRoundpants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he is going to be caught in lies and confess all his sins at a deposition you better be prepared to be disappointed
2006-06-17 13:02:53 · answer #4 · answered by Dillweed4life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. They ask lots of questions. The question is: how competent is your lawyer? It is fact finding which can be used in court. If your in NJ your sunk.
2006-06-17 12:25:17 · answer #5 · answered by Ned 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋