2006-06-17 11:39:29 · 10 answers · asked by jason d 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You make a decision to forgive. Forgiveness is not a warm fuzzy feeling - it is a decision. When you forgive, you're not going to forget, you are just going to make a decision to treat the person as if it had not happened. You have to consider what the offense was - if it was something physical you would definitely not make yourself vulnerable to that threat again and would have to remove yourself. The emotions of forgiveness will eventually follow, but that will take time. The thing to remember is that forgiveness doesn't get them off the hook - God will deal with them. It get's you off the hook and let's you move on. When the anger returns, and it will, you remind yourself that you're not going to waste any more of your time on it or the people who hurt you. Whatever they took away from you or whatever they cost you, accept it is gone and look forward to what it can be replaced with. There are good people that can be trusted.
2006-06-17 16:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It starts with self. You need to reinforce your own values and ethics and adhere to them strictly. Always be honest and trustworthy.....kind and courteous. This way you will know that there is at least one person who can be trusted 100%.
It's wise with our relationships to trust but be aware that people change as they go through life. Depend upon yourself for happiness & if a relationship fails, you will still be able to continue on and enjoy your life.
The ones who deceived and hurt you will have to face that sometime in their future. I've found as I go along in life that we all get the opportunity to experience both sides of such a situation. You've already experienced that hurt so you can go forward............
Remind yourself that all people are not the same and some people wouldn't lie and hurt you for anything in this world.
That's the truth.
We all feel pain so pick yourself up, brush yourself off and START ALL OVER AGAIN.
Best wishes to you.
2006-06-17 18:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by purplewings123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all u have to forgive in oder to forget.if u can forgive someone for all the bad things they done u can learn to trust again just dont trust so fast .not all ppl r bad u just cant let all ur gaurd down but u can trust.also pray about it and i promise god will help u out.trust me ive been their but ive prayed about it and god helped me thru the pain .i know its hard but u have to try if u dont u will not be a very happy person and u wont have a happy future and what kind of life would that be.
2006-06-18 16:18:48 · answer #3 · answered by sweetlady38237 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the first step is true fogivness of yourself as well as the offender. Then you really have to pull yourself up by the boot-straps and decide to fight against your innerself.
2006-06-17 19:36:05 · answer #4 · answered by Destined2beGreat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start with yourself. you have to forgive yourself for letting that happen, learn to love yourself again or for the first time. Don't trust people who don't deserve it.
2006-06-17 18:43:19 · answer #5 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go thru life very carefully until you find someone who can slowly rebuild your faith and earn your trust. They're out there--I hope you find them soon!
2006-06-17 18:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of deep sole searching..Not settling for second best...Thinking of what I want not what my friends want for me..
2006-06-17 18:58:30 · answer #7 · answered by Rain32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish i knew
2006-06-17 18:44:59 · answer #8 · answered by gerri11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just gotta grab your cohones and try...ive done it a few times
2006-06-17 19:55:36 · answer #9 · answered by drezgurly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just do.
Once you decide to do so.
2006-06-18 01:41:01 · answer #10 · answered by Aritmentor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋