I left my "now" ex-boyfriend last week. We've split up before but for a totally different reason. This time it had to do with my oldest son(10). My ex did'nt realy get along with him just because he does'nt like his dad. On the morning of June 7, i woke up with my son sleeping next to me while my (then) boyfriend was asleep in the living room with our baby. My son woke up but he seemed very sad. I asked him what was wrong and he hesitated to tell me what was bothering him. He finally said, "When you were asleep last night, Dave was looking at me mean. Then he threw me the middle finger i think three times." I felt so baddly for my son. My son is 10 years old but he has a mind of a 7 year old. He's like this because he was born with a cyst in his brain. I felt bad because i know it hurt his feelings.
Anyway, My ex and i also have a baby boy together, and i'm dealing with stress on how i'm going to provide for my baby until i get child support.
I'm running out of room so ill type more..
2006-06-17 11:09:51 · 10 answers · asked by It's just me!!! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I hate the memories of our two years because we had some good times.
But i need to be away from him. It seems like he has changed into a different person. I saw him today to ask for some money for our son, and it looked and smelled like he was drinking. He denies it and tries to convince me otherwise "like i'm that stupid". And he has the nerve to tell me he wants to work things out "like always" and start over "AGAIN". I'm so confused.
If i don't make since then i guess i'm totally confused, and sorry for confusing you.... :o)
2006-06-17 11:17:05 · update #1
Another thing what would you do to keep a posative face, for the sake of the kids? To also keep my mind busy?
2006-06-17 11:19:59 · update #2
"My life has made me who i am today. Now the future will take me to who i'll become!"
I took this from your 360 blog - In life we all have some regretes we can only grow strong with each blow life gives us. You a beautiful woman and you have a strong spirit. I know your hurt and sad but being in a toxic relationship is something no one needs a mother and her children come first and no man should treat a child like you have stated. You did good at getting out and no you should not go back because now you know what it was like and know it was not what you and your kids needed.
Keep up a strong chin and become tough regrete yes forget never. let your past build your future. nothing in life comes easy and you will rise above it all. date get to know someone take things slow call human services in your area to help aid your children for money issues. They will help a lot and loosen the burden of doing it all yourself tell them your situation and they will tell you what all they can do for you.
I hope all works out for you and you find the happiness your deserve
2006-06-17 11:53:51 · answer #1 · answered by Savage 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie, im so sorry. I was in a similiar situation. Im due to have my ex's baby in 2 weeks. I have a 3 yr old from a previous relationship... the father of this baby would never pay my son any attention, and always look at him angry. Its like my son was a burden to him. YOU NEED TO LEAVE HIM. I know what you mean about the financial part. Stay with him until you are about to get support. NEVER leave your son with him, go to sleep AFTER your son does. Pay close attention to things. Tell your son to not be scared to tell you anything. Good luck babe. Leave him though... it wont get any better... it will just get worse!!
2006-06-17 11:18:30 · answer #2 · answered by ncbutterfly_20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
. I know that u have memories but in time it wont hurt as bad to think about them and in time you will not even want to think about them. I think you leaving him over this is a really good thing.I mean after all your kids come 1st right. AS far as the money thing AM sorry i don't know what to tell you there.
2006-06-17 11:23:48 · answer #3 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definately seek therapy hun. A grown man should NEVER act like that to your child. If he loved you he wouldn't. Always remember that you are looking for a father for your children not just a husband. Shame on that guy for KNOWING your son is slow and treating him like crap when you are not around.
2006-06-17 11:15:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say see a therapist and if your ex is not going to provide child support, talk to a lawyer.
I'm sorry about your ex, some men arent ready or able to be partners and fathers.
2006-06-17 11:16:33 · answer #5 · answered by di12381 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did right by leaving him anyone who insults or hurt your kids need the boot! as far as i,m concern kids come first! And for getting help for your baby theres financial aide out their for women and child check out your welfare dept. they will help.I wish you the best of luck!
2006-06-17 11:16:41 · answer #6 · answered by lizardlover42000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u kno get a new guy that will appreciate u and ur family and everything i mean that guy was a jerk! i think that ur son would want wats best 4 u
2006-06-17 11:14:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he didn't like ur son you shouldv'e dumped his ***!!!U did the right thing
2006-06-17 11:14:49 · answer #8 · answered by shelby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a theripist
2006-06-17 11:12:41 · answer #9 · answered by angelmauricioflores@yahoo.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on, there's plenty of fish in the sea !!!!!!!
2006-06-17 11:22:07 · answer #10 · answered by Pete Allison 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋