hi everyone! i have this friend (which i don't really know if she's even a friend) and me her and this other girl used to be best friends during jr high and then we all kinda drifted away from each other in high school. well me and one of the girls stayed friends and we both lost contact with the other girl and she doesnt even try to stay in touch or anything...the most i hear from her is maybe once a year and that's it. but now that my friend is pregnant and shes back in town shes trying to get us to all hang out like we used to but its so frustrating because she never tried to keep in touch when my friend wasnt pregnant and now shes saying things like you girls are my best friends still and things like that! so what am i supposed to think about all this? should i consider her as even a friend?
2006-06-17 11:08:33 · 11 answers · asked by Cat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well you know what,this is life and life has its suprises,its bumps and its crazy times.Sometimes friends drift apart for a while,as things in life take over.It doesnt mean she didnt care about you,perhaps she had other priorities,while its sad she lost contact with you,and she could have made a little bit of effort,for her own reasons she did not.People go through things in life,they get mature,or sometimes even realize there mistakes,if she is trying to make friendship with you,my advice is to be open to forgiving her and moving on.Any way you look at it friendship is a beautiful thing.Maybe she has matured and realizes just how much you mean to her and is trying to make a connection.Just take things one day at a time.Get to know her for what she is now,not the mistakes she made in her past,you may realize she has grown up or changed her mentality in many ways.Good luck to you!
2006-06-17 11:10:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would let her hang with you guys. You will no later on down the road if she is really a friend. It is hard when someone moves away and of course they well make new friends. But remember it is not like she didn't stay in touch at all. So give her a chance or just come out and ask her why she didn't write more, if you want to know. Friends are suppose to be able to talk with there friends.
2006-06-17 18:16:32 · answer #2 · answered by letitbeyou1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, this is a pretty confusing story but here's my guess:
If the girl wants to hang out, maybe you should let her. Sure, she hasn't tried in the past but maybe she is turning over a new leaf. If you really don't consider her a friend ask yourself why. If she's done anything bad to you or something then just ignore her and eventually she will get the idea that you don't find her as a friend anymore.
2006-06-17 18:14:25 · answer #3 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People drift off and go their separate ways, it doesn't mean they have forgotten what they had before..it just means they have decided to take a different path that you have...it's all the growing up process. I say just take it slow with her, maybe she is realizing what she left behind and how special you girls are to her, maybe as time goes by you would get to know alot more about her life from since yall stop talking and vis versa...and surprisingly you might even like it! So see what happens, see if this is a one time occasion for her, or if she is really going to stick around this time!
Good Luck
2006-06-17 18:15:13 · answer #4 · answered by micheypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybthinke she feels bad about not keeping in touch and is trying to make amends for it. Give her another chance. Everyone deserves a second chance, dont you think? I surely would give one of my old friends another chance un less she did something really crappy like try to steal your boyfriends away. That would be a different story. I would have to tell her to go to you know where. But give her another chance just for a little while.If it's drama and jealousy free go with it. You can never have too many best friends.
2006-06-17 18:16:17 · answer #5 · answered by Honey Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awe, cut her some slack, peoples lives get busy...and they make mistakes. you can feel it out in person when you are all together.
it's an exciting time with a baby coming and you can all learn from the whole experience.
ask her what's been going on because no one ever hears from her and see what she says...you may be surprised to find out.
or she could just be really self centered and if that is the case then just avoid her unless she's at one of one of your other friends.
I'd give her one more chance....
2006-06-17 18:16:19 · answer #6 · answered by rooster2381 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shye could be doing this because if you are her friend you can give her money to support her child. Make up a test about things she should know from you're old relationship and if she knows them shes a friend if not say you know its really rude of you to be like this tell her what you mean See if she even knows or wants to apoligize.
2006-06-17 18:14:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hhmmm i would say if she hurt you in the past see if she changed and if so let her be your friend but if she didnt do anything rather than keep in touch then well let her hang out with you and maybe she'll start talking to you more again
2006-06-17 18:23:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would not worry about that .peoples grow up all the time and move on with their live .some stay friends some don't .
2006-06-17 18:12:41 · answer #9 · answered by idontkno 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why r u given her a hard time if shes such a bestfriend b4.If ur a good friend u would let the past in the past ......its not like she kissed a boy u liked.
2006-06-17 18:14:52 · answer #10 · answered by Lily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋