the reason why i ask this is because i cheated on him while we were still dating after he moved away. As a result i know have a beautiful daughter that i don't know who her father is. the only reason why i dont know is because we decided to leave alone until she gets curious about it, because he is claiming her and raisng her as his own. but the real thing is he admitted to almost cheating on me with somebody that i know about 3 weeks after i had my daughter. and the thing that baffles me is that am i still right for having a little trust in him becuse he didnt go all the way because he said he stopped cause he was thinking about me and my daughter. i still love him and trust him a little, am i right for staying with him if i still get angry when i think about. the only reson why hes said he did it because he was still angry and hurt over what i had done.
2006-06-17 10:22:49 · 14 answers · asked by cutearmygirl04 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You both did a lot to mess up your relationship. You need to talk about these things and you both need to forgive eachother and work on your relationship. When you truly forgive you will be able to trust and you won't have the anger/resentment you have now.
You could probably really benefit from couple's counseling - it would help build your relationship up and get it on the right track.
2006-06-17 10:27:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both have reason to be upset with each other because of things in your past. You could both put them behind you and concentrate on raising your daughter. But eventually you will probably find out who the real father is because your daughter ill need her medical history etc. So your behavior will be in the limelight. Maybe you should deal with all this now - get the truth out on both of your affairs, and resolve how you are going to handle it. If it turns out he is not the father, will be leave? Stop being daddy to your daughter?
2006-06-17 10:29:42 · answer #2 · answered by Dakota 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U luv'em?
U still have feelings for'em?
U promise to not cheat on'em again
He Promises to do the same
Then Stay togather.
U both dont want ur daughther to grow up with a father or a mom that will really suck.
2006-06-17 10:31:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like guilt transference. He hasn't done anything that you know of. I don't know why you just won't get the DNA test and stop using your daughter's welfare as a crutch. At least then you all would know for sure.In any case family/couples counseling can only help. Peace.
2006-06-17 10:38:04 · answer #4 · answered by wildrover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard the phrase :What Goes Arounds,Comes Arounds.You should be lucky.Most men would have left,if they didnt know the child was theirs.Why dont you let it go.You was the one to mess up in the first place.He is there taking care of a child that may not be his.Thats should be enough to say.
2006-06-17 10:30:01 · answer #5 · answered by ~Devilz~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's easy to forgive.... but not easy to forget -
so does that mean you or he has not forgiven eachother?
i say the only way to get past the issues, is to tackle
each one - head on. if you don't want to find out the
biological father - that's fine - but as far as the cheating
goes -if you both really love eachother and sincerely want
to make it work (not just for the baby) - you'll definitely
HAVE to work through eachothers feelings and
forgive & forget - or else you'll be going through these issues for years to come! ~good luck~
2006-06-17 10:33:48 · answer #6 · answered by momma2anthony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the trust is still a little shaky but it is still there... and because of the fact that he could have but didn't shows alot... That he couldn't go all the way with someone else.
2006-06-17 10:27:24 · answer #7 · answered by Big John 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"almost" only counts in handgrenades.
My guess is - you don't trust him because, as a woman, you keep waiting for payback.
Live a trustworthy life and expect the same from him...
everyone changes with time...like it or not...we all grow up.
2006-06-17 10:53:53 · answer #8 · answered by Warrior 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it already. If anyone should be upset it should be your husband. He obviously had more feelings for you to not go through with it than you did for him
2006-06-17 10:55:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't trust him or you wouldn't be asking this question. Don't be like me and live with misstrust. It is not easy. I hurt so bad myself. If you believe him then truely believe him, if not then don't. Ask the girl.....she might not lie.......
2006-06-17 10:28:57 · answer #10 · answered by wayladuley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋