Is that mature enough for a husbandto run by his parent when we get in a fight??? Whatever maybe the situation..i never tell my parents about it?? But my hub always call or threaten to go by his parent...i'm fed up with that kind of attitude..lots of times..i told him that this can't go on anymore...cause he is amking me looking bad infront of his family and stupid as well..everything need to be done in his own way..or have to accompany him for things that is one no interest for me..i'm mature enough..if i don't..he'll get mad and won;'t talk to me..for it seems kind of a blackmailing..for how long will i take that and please him..he ask me to grown up..when will he?? What i can do or say to stop him from making me look like a stupid!!!!! Sometimes i want to go far away from everything..i'm fed up and feel like i wish i was never born or married or even dead..things are so complicated..i want to havvew my way too..my words need to be important and valued..pleasde advice..Thanx
2006-06-17 10:13:36 · 14 answers · asked by Cutelara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get out of that relationship
2006-06-17 10:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hubby sounds kinda immature. You need to talk to him about how you feel. He shouldn't be running to his parents every time you fight and he certainly shouldn't be blackmailing you with anything. You need to communicate with him and let him know that you are both old enough to work your problems out at home and that you would appreciate him not bringing his family into this.
You should get into marriage counseling - because it sounds like your hubby has a few issues that he hasn't dealt with. He might have a hard time changing - but sometimes when you hear something from a counselor it makes more sense than if you hear your spouse say it.
2006-06-17 10:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hubby should always stand by you. Even if he has to appease his parents. He just have to put on a show and at the end of the day just have to explain why he did that but deep down in his heart he should always be on your side. He must get his parents to accept you not detest you. He is going to spend his life with you, he is not sharing your joy and pain now when he should. Go away for a while, give him time to realise his mistakes. If he still stand by his parents then tell him to marry them instead. Why are you suffering when he should provide you with a good life and happiness...
2006-06-17 10:23:18 · answer #3 · answered by kenny k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
Im married and in the beginning with my husband we had some argues too and coz he is more mature than me :p when he was seeing me angry or even when I was telling him to leave me alone This was the moment when he was most urgent to stay with me , not to leave me alone with my anger or bad feelings, nomatter what was costing him this. And this was what made us closer to each other,,, if he was leaving me in the angry moments to stay alone and think i would be more distanced and solve the problem only by myself or sepparatedly from him. And this is the point of the marriage , when ur partner do sthg wrong that makes you angry or feel missunderstood U MUST stay next to him more than in any other moment. To tell him in calm way u love him and u dont want quarelling and to explain him that u want the family problems not to go out of the house. My Advice: DONT LEAVE HIM TO THINK ALONE AND U TO TAKE A BREAK... its a very big mistake. Stay with him coz u love him, stay with him coz when he is angry he needs u most :)
I wish U luck
2006-06-17 10:49:03 · answer #4 · answered by Reema_AlShammeri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bringing family into a marital argument is always a bad idea, because you two make up but the family never forgets. Marriage can be simplified by keeping it private. He is hurting everyone involved by running to Mommy. He needs to be a man ond deal.
2006-06-17 10:59:20 · answer #5 · answered by Ben O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my.. you do need some time to your self, he runs to his parents? Next time he does tell him he can stay there, better yet, pack him off for good. And you need to start doing things that make you happy. And don't wait for anyone else on this, do something that pleases you! A movie, a day at the spa for a massage, whatever it is do it!!!1
2006-06-17 10:18:42 · answer #6 · answered by neelyohara2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband is still a boy i can tell you still love him but you need to sit him down and tell how you feel tell you want to be respected by him and cut out childish way are you are going to leave i think you give him too much power over you i dont know you but i feel your cry get some prayer and god will show you the way ok
2006-06-17 10:26:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not mature ! Friend in something similiar ...trust me it won't change you need to go far away ! and start a new life !!! Its hard to make the step but I once you do ....you'll be glad
2006-06-17 10:19:14 · answer #8 · answered by HAPA CHIC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The lord makes everything less complicated you can escape in his word also you need to personaly get to know
your inlaws let them know your personality
2006-06-17 10:25:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You married wrong. Cut your losses and run. The mamma's boy can only get worse.
2006-06-17 10:18:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are married to a cry baby as soem people would say i think you should go away for a while and just tell him why and stuff
2006-06-17 10:17:17 · answer #11 · answered by hotchick_85_18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋