A few months ago I posted a question asking how to deal with my attraction to my daughter's boyfriend. I have tried so hard to fight my feelings but last night it happened. My daughter asked me to give him a ride home because they had both been drinking so I did. He lives about an hour away and somewhere during the ride the conversation turned to talking about things we shouldn't have been talking about. Well I wound up getting a hotel room and we were there for a couple of hours. When I got home Kari was asleep and she didn't say anything this morning. I am almost panic stricken and don't know what to do. Should I own up to it with her? Should I tell my husband and beg his forgiveness? I am so damn stupid. He wants to continue seeing me but I did at least tell him no on that. Please give me some kind of advice on what to do here. I am really paranoid.
2006-06-17 09:49:39 · 24 answers · asked by Sherry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
LOL!! That is the best laugh I have had all day!
Your husband and daughter are SO lucky to have you in their lives. You are a genius, keep it up and everyone will love and respect you! Ha ha haha....
2006-06-17 10:15:15 · answer #1 · answered by itwasme 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well, let's see here - you slept with your daughter's boyfriend which also means you cheated on your husband - talk about killing two birds with one stone. I don't need to tell you that you are stupid, you already know that. You have two obvious options:
Option #1
Tell your daughter and husband and just fess up to the whole thing, in which case they will probably both hate you and want to kill the boyfriend and possibly you. With this option, I don't know about the begging for forgiveness thing because your husband and daughter are both probably going to be pretty pissed off at you. Was the boyfriend worth losing your husband and the trust of your daughter? I doubt it.
Option #2
Keep your mouth closed (among other things) and pray that the boyfriend doesn't say anything. Of course with this option you will have to figure out a way to live with the guilt and the paranoia that you say you are feeling. It may be a small price to pay to keep your marriage and family intact.
Hopefully, you didn't become pregnant from this little escapade. That would certainly throw a monkey wrench into this whole mess. Good luck.
2006-06-17 17:22:00 · answer #2 · answered by BRIAN W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be paranoid - because this guy now owns you. If you don't tell your daughter/your husband he can blackmail you and make your life hell. If he wants to keep seeing you and you don't want that odds are he may threaten to tell your family. You made a stupid mistake and a bad judgement call.
You can either talk to this guy and ask him to never say anything and that you will NEVER sleep with him again. Or you can own up to your family and tell them about what happened and that it was a terrible mistake. You can bet that your daughter is going to be very upset that her mother betrayed her and you can bet your hubby is going to be very upset you betrayed him and you marriage vows. You have a tough decision to make. Think about whether or not you could live with the guilt looking at them every day. Think about how it would be if your daughter dated this guy for years to come or even married him - how would that be?
If you tell the truth now you will feel better and be at east - but you are facing a major bomb going off in your home - and you may lose your husband and the at least the respect of your daughter.
2006-06-17 16:56:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mistakes always happen, but you cannot hide that from your family. I personally think that you need to speak this up and tell your daughter and your husband what you did because you cannot hide it forever and I'm pretty sure you will be paranoid every time you see the boyfriend and your daughter. Try talking to a friend about this as well, but I hope you make the choice in confessing up the truth because things like this will haunt you for quite a long time.
2006-06-17 16:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by MedStudent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea I think you should tell your daughter you slept with her boyfriend! What kind of person does that kind of stuff to her daughter n e ways. When you tell your daughter she is going to be so hurt cause apparently she didnt think you would do something like this to her she asked you to take her boyfriend home. And I think you should tell your husband he has a right to know what you did. I think you are going to break your family up and you cant blame anybody but yourself. If you were attracted
to her boyfriend you should've told her about it or just said ask your dad to take him home or you just should've said no you was tired or something. What you did was not right at all for gods sake it's your daughter and your husband thats going to get hurt. So go ahead and tell them before it `is to late and you end up and do it again. And then it will be more lies that you will have to tell. TELL THE TRUTH NOW!!!!!! Before it is to late!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-17 17:03:56 · answer #5 · answered by Dntjudgeme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen! Under NO circumstances should you reveal what is not known unless they are in some danger. You made a VERY big and stupid mistake. Somehow you must get this young man away from your daughter because he will do this to her again. You also have to really work on yourself and your marriage. For the greater good do not tell anyone ever and repent
2006-06-17 17:11:49 · answer #6 · answered by Soulace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez.. you can't even claim it happened spontaneously. You got a hotel room and everything. I would hope you have more respect for your daughter than to let this go. HER BOYFRIEND? You want her to stay with this guy now? Nah.. bite the bullet and come clean now and maybe.. just maybe you can salvage something of your old life. Or not. Just poison everyone around you with this crap until it blows up in all of THEIR faces. Your choice. Good luck.
2006-06-17 16:56:44 · answer #7 · answered by claymore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...ok you should tell your husband cause if you don't and he finds out from some one else or something then it will just be 10 times worse and tell him that your sorry and you'll never do it again and for your daughter you should...sit her down and tlak to her about it she will prolly be pissed at you for a while but she will edventually come around and she will thank you cause her boyfriend if he did this with you then he will prolly do it with somone else so she will thank you in the end but you should tell them both and make sure the boyfriend knows NO it can't happen again!!! Oh and good luck
2006-06-17 16:56:21 · answer #8 · answered by hotchick_85_18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could you do something like that to your own daughter much less your husband, you are disgusting, yes you should tell your husband and I hope leaves you high and dry. I feel sorry for your daughter. Don't be surprised if she never trusts you again, I can't say that I blame her.
2006-06-17 16:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by Backwoods Barbie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your family-you cant live a lie. but this kind of thing rips families apart, so GET COUNSELING. Theres no shame and it will help all of you to deal with the feelings of guilt, anger, fury and sadness that will come. For your husband and daughter if not for yourself.
2006-06-17 16:54:00 · answer #10 · answered by ChaChaChingThing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats going to happen is what happened to Brooke Logan with her daughter Bridget Forrester on Bold and Beautiful much much worse and i hope you rot in hell or both your daughter and husband leave you for good
2006-06-17 17:02:03 · answer #11 · answered by fairytaleofmylife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋