She had a message and i listened to it am I wrong, she was highly upset and it wasn't anything important. I on the other hand have no problem letting her answer my cell and get my messages because I have nothing to hide. Should I become concerned or just leave it alone. Several months ago a male friend left a message telling her to page him.
2006-06-17 09:47:58 · 36 answers · asked by rjsr40 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is the same male friend that asked her if I was treating her right and she said I wasn't. I asked her about it and she said he never said anything like that to her before. When asked why she said I wasn't treating her right, she said she was caught off guard. So every now and then I check her messages.
2006-06-17 10:06:46 · update #1
ask her about it first and if you aren't satisfied with her answer
page him yourself or call if he's on her caller I.D. just tell him you found his message on your wife's phone and don't apprciate him calling her
Then tell your wife you called him. watch to see her reaction...
2006-06-17 10:05:22 · answer #1 · answered by bamababe010 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't see any reason she should be upset. If you have nothing to hide then it doesn't matter who answers the cell phone because no one who shouldn't be calling will be on the other line.
I don't know your wife - maybe she is one of those people who values privacy and her space and maybe thats why she was upset. But, it would make me think why she got upset over a simple thing like that - especially when you let her answer your cell and the fact you've been married quite a few years.
2006-06-17 09:51:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with her and have a very mature conversation about the issue. She could possibly be hiding something from you. I have been married almost 30 yrs. so please believe me, I smell a dead rat. Neither one of you should have anything to hide anyway. I say dump the cell phone. Did you know that everytime you use these cell phones it is like sticking your head in the microwave and turning it on? Maybe that is whats wrong with her, she had too many microwaves in that so called brain of hers.
I say get rid of the cell phones and if that don't work tell her to hit the street.
Dude, Good Luck with her and you may have to keep a close eye on her. I still think she is up to no good.
2006-06-25 08:07:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bigger issue is do you trust her? Your actions say you don't and that's most likely what upset her. If you do trust her, leave it alone and let her have her cell phone privacy. You're not joined at the hip, you know. On the other hand, if you feel you can't trust her then you need some serious marriage counseling or there will be bigger problems down the road.
2006-06-17 09:53:02 · answer #4 · answered by rosecitylady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone. This is the kind of thing that starts out as nothing, but the more you make of it, it turns into something and could destroy a marriage. She just wants her privacy. Allow her that and keep trusting her. You have no evidence to be worried about. If you push this topic with your wife, it will only create problems for you. Possibly big ones.
2006-06-17 09:50:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has she started acting differently? Do you sometimes forget to give her messages? I know that I get upset at my husband answering my phone simply because he will listen to messages, erase them and then forget to tell me I even had a call till 3 days afterwards.
You havent said that there is a strain in your relationship at all so I dont know if you are looking for something that might not be there. Go with your gut... talk it out.
2006-06-17 09:52:38 · answer #6 · answered by Rebecca - 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to be concerned. She wouldn't be so upset if she had nothing to hide. Be patient and pay more attention to her behavior. It won't do you much good to freak out and start demanding answers if you don't even know what's going on.
That doesn't sound good. Why would she say that to him if it wasn't a hint that she is open to more than friendship? If she is willing I think you two should talk about your relationship and why she is dissatisfied before it's too late.
2006-06-17 09:52:57 · answer #7 · answered by DJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I think if it was me I might be a lil upset like the privacy thing but at the same time I'd get over I have nothing to hide.
2006-06-17 09:51:22 · answer #8 · answered by laura w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry, although she has a right to be upset as you basically invaded her privacy and told her you didn't trust her. I would be beyond pist if my hubby did that to me. So what if a male friend paged her. Could be completely innocent. Should she be worried if a female friend did the same to you? Trust works both ways.
2006-06-17 09:59:20 · answer #9 · answered by Nickie H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! If you had no ill intent . she obviously has something to hide if she flew off the handle like that I used to be able to look at my wife's phone no problem all of a sudden she never let it off her side. now we are divorced because there was another man. hopefully it is not the same for you. but careful do not accuse her of anything if she isn't doing any thing.
2006-06-17 10:16:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well coming from the singles world, when you get upset for your mate to answer the phone, well more and likely she is doing something she don't have any business doing. Just ask her why is she so upset if there is nothing going on.
2006-06-17 09:50:28 · answer #11 · answered by Davenport 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋