can u help me people r picking on me?

Question

people at my high school r really mean to me just because i am a little bit fat i come home crying 4 like 2 hours please help me what should i do :(

Answer 1

High school sucks that way. I am so sorry you have to deal with this.
While I know it is not cool, talking to a teacher or principal may help-say you NEED the conversation to be kept confidential. While what you are going through is extremly hard, people need to speak up about it to stop it.
I would also research it on the net. I know Dr. Phil is really involved in stopping bullying.
Also, I've discovered from personal expericence, talking back makes it worse. Fuels the fire. It's what they want, and get off on you showing your pain.

Answer 2

Get a decent boyfriend.

Most boys won't care what you look like. Really. My first 4 girlfriends, 2 were "fat", 2 were very thin. So what? One weighed more than I, one weighed about 1/2 of my weight. So what?

The truth is that if you are willing to kiss a boy and make him feel good about himself (and I DON'T mean sex), you will find it easy to get a decent boyfriend.

You'll soon realise weight doesn't matter at all and the bullies will realise that you are happy and having more fun than they are.

Alternative: go and punch the loudest bully in the face as hard as you can, preferably in the dinner hall or some place you will be rescued by staff, so they have no time to get their own back. you'll take some punishment but nobody will ever mess with you again. Bullies pick on the weakest link. If you stand up for yourself they'll soon find someone easier to have a go at.

Answer 3

I was bullied for seven solid years (from age seven), lived like a hermit for the next seven, and spent the fourteen after that recovering. Bullying was nothing to do with weight in my case. Bullying happens because the bullies want to bully - they will find an excuse and a victim somehow.

Losing weight will probably not stop the bullying. Losing weight in order to stop bullying is a bad reason to do it. If you decide to lose weight, do it for yourself, not for them.

But it's not just about weight. If you get good exercise (any kind you like, try stuff out), get outside enough and eat good food you will feel good inside.

Back to the bullying. This is a serious problem and you are well within your rights to take action here. Plan your moves carefully, and start writing - keep a diary of each day - you may need it. Let the school principal know the problem and how serious it is and tell him/her that you are keeping a diary. That should result in some action. Later on, you can give the principal photocopies of the diary if you want to (but keep the original safe!)

Back to you. This phase in your life is likely to be the hardest you will go through, and you are likely to come out of it with wounds. You will need healing, and the healing will take time. Help is likely to be required, and professional help is worth it.

But here's a secret that only survivors of bullying know. The experience you are going through will give you access to an understanding of people, of their strengths and weaknesses, and of their needs, that will make you strong. The self-motivation and dedication that people like us end up with makes us unstoppable. The war may be long and hard, but you come out of this victorious.

Different situation, but surprisingly similar. In northern ireland, where catholic and protestant communities fight constantly, a catholic girl going to school was hospitalised because a protestant boy threw a stone at her and hit her head. In tears, she asked her mother why. The mother said, I don't know, but ten years from now you will have got an education, will have travelled and seen the world, and will have a career and a life that you are proud of. Ten years from now that boy will still be standing on that street corner throwing stones.

Whose shoes do you want to be in - the girl's or the boy's? I'm now happy being me. Be proud to be you.

Answer 4

its alright i know it feels like the end of the world but when you cry you let them win. I am plump and when people are talking about weight and other stuff i am the first to make fun of my weight. If you feel that strongly then you need to take time and get your self esteem up. when school is over they are going to get fat and ugly they will not always look the same as you get older you start to change more in the looks department. There is life after school don't let them get you down. live your life to the fullest and when they make fun of you just laugh and say something to add on show them it doesn't hurt you and they will get bored. good luck.

Answer 5

eggnore what they say to you if they call you a big fat ugly minger then you say **** you and walk off and if they are hitting you then you need to tell a teacher get your parents involved get the headmaster involved and if they mark or bruse you that is common assult wich they can be arrested for and locked up in a cell by the police even if they r as young as 10 ....im 22 years old now but i was bullyed at school when i was a kid and beleve me when i say those sort of people dont get anywhere in life i now have my own house a car that only works when it wants to and 2 lovley kids of my own but im happy and all the people that used to bully me at school are cueing up out side the job centre bums nothings and lowlifes there the three words what most people think when they see them what im trying to say is people like that go no where in life but you must keep up with your schooling dont let them put you off going to school. keep up your schooling and in 10 years time you will think your stupid for letting SCUM put you down. ALL THE BEST HOPE THINGS GO WELL FOR YOU. ONE MORE THING IF YOUR HAPPY WITH YOUR WEIGHT DONT CHANGE IT YOU HAVE TO LOOSE WEIGHT FOR YOUR SELF NOT OTHERS

Answer 6

Just keep in mind the story 'The Ugly Duckling' trust me you Will be the envy of all.

Girls from my old school who were blue eyed, blond haired and considered 'fit' thinking they were 'special' are all down right ugly now lol.

I had weight issues at school and never had a boyfriend at school but I'm told that some wished they were now. So what you have some extra weight just tell them...... I MAY BE FAT BUT YOU ARE UGLY CHANGE THAT!

You will bloom at the right time, enjoy your youth and grow up in your own time and enjoy your life. Remember: beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Don't wish your life away.

God bless X

Answer 7

When i was in junior high and high school i had a bulling problem too. I tried avoidance works a little. Until one day i got so mad i pushed the hell out of this kid and man was he scared shitless. Bullies are weak inside that's why they pick on people so they can feel strong. The best way is too learn how to fight or become a trash talker. I recommand karate or KungFu. Remind them that people who get picked on come to school for revenge. One kid in junior high wrote a book about hurting or killing his classmates who made fun of him. He was placed in a mental hospital.

Answer 8

You need to let the school know that they are not doing enough to stop bullying. They mustn't tolerate it. They must also get you the support you need.
You must also find someone for emotional support so you don't feel you are alone.
And the best way to deal with it is to think of those girls as spoilt stuck up brats, and let their comments be water off a ducks back. Try to get to the point where you just don't care what they think; you don't live your life to please them. Be the better person.
Just be yourself, when other people see these girls they won't think they are clever or cute; they are making *rses of themselves and behaving like 8 year olds!

Answer 9

Most people pick on others to take the attention away from thier own insecurities. These people are picking on you so that others wont notice thier bad points. They are horrid little buggars who wont get very far in Life. My boyfriend just said he was picked on at school. He said tell your mom or your teacher and they will be able to stop it. I know you might think that if you tell someone the bulying will get worse but it wont and explain your worries to her. Dont listen to those horrid people, they are sad. Do all the things that make you happy and leave them to be miserable sods who will end up lonely. I think your lovely!

Answer 10

The truth is, people who pick on others are usually terribly insecure, and will probably regret their behavior when they become adults. With any luck, they'll grow up, have kids who are overweight and will come home from school and cry. That'll teach'em! Don't listen to them, and if it continues, I say tell a counselor. Hang in there!!