Is it when you are completely unable to have a moment of fun together? Is this just personal growth or growth apart? Im 35 hes 46...could it be the stage of life we are in is completely different?
2006-06-17 09:05:54 · 23 answers · asked by lost 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It could be the age difference also. When you have to wonder if it is over then usually it is or either on it's way to being over. You two need to find out what is pulling you apart and why no more happiness in the marriage. Talk, talk and talk more that is the key to getting to the problem. .
2006-06-17 09:08:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
I would think that one would consider a marriage over when the two people simply cannot stand being in the same room at the same time. If you think of your spouse, all you can think of negative things to say about him and vice versa.
You lack any sort of communication except for grunts and your happiest times are when you and your spouse are apart.
If you are feeling these things, then most likely the marriage is completely over.
I believe personal growth is when a couple grows together and not apart. Granted that people grow and change as time goes on, it is only natural, but in some instances, people can grow apart, too.
Have you tried to sit him down to find out where his head is? or is communication that bad now that it is impossible?
If communication has become that impossible, it would seem to me that the best thing you could do is to divorce - so you can both move onto happier and more fulfilling relationships.
God bless you and good Luck!
2006-06-17 16:10:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking the question, you really know the answer.
Marriage is a partnership (relationship) that is driven by emotions (love, need, etc). You need to be honest with your husband that your marriage isn't what it use to be. Talking is the first step.
You may not like the answer, but it will be the answer. Given that information, you can make a decision. The marriage is over when one partner says so.
2006-06-17 16:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by J. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a relationship you don't always need to have fun. There are always fights and misunderstanding but just because your not having fun it doesn't mean it's over. A good relationship depends on the communication. If there is no communication then things are not going to work out
2006-06-17 16:18:52 · answer #4 · answered by Eunyce 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age difference is getting to him, he is turning 50 in a few years. Half of his life is over with he has probably got a good 20 years to live and there are things he has yet to do. He is got to look at it and decide what to do with the rest of his life including being married to you.
2006-06-17 16:12:58 · answer #5 · answered by rjsr40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your husband's been gone for two and a half years and your kids aren't there because you never had any. I almost forgot, you turn into a big raddish and you have the sudden urge to watch 20/20 all the time. Happy Kwannza!
2006-06-24 13:00:35 · answer #6 · answered by Joe K. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU, and only you, can tell that. If all the feelings are gone between the two of you, and you no longer care to keep eachother happy, it's probably time to let it go. If both of you decide you want to keep it together, seek marriage counselling. It's not full-proof, but it can help. Best of luck to ya!
2006-06-17 16:10:26 · answer #7 · answered by trueblond195 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is supposed to be for life. You should've thought about this before getting married. i hate how people take marriage so lightly these days. Go to counseling, get through it. It's just a phase you're going through. It'll pass. If not, I don't know what to tell you.
2006-06-17 16:08:33 · answer #8 · answered by mommysboys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is over when both of the people stop trying. As you know marriage takes work - when you both stop putting effort in and stop communicating thats when you know you have serious problems. As long as there is still love and you both still care - there is hope, both of you just have tobe willing to really work at your relationship.
2006-06-17 16:07:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is over when one party decides they are no longer willing to commit to serving the other, and instead commits to leaving the relationship. It's a volitional decision, not a "feeling" or emotion. So what do you CHOOSE?
2006-06-17 16:09:07 · answer #10 · answered by Timothy W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋