I love my boyfriend very much. He's my best friend and we are so good for each other! It's just that.. I've never been IN LOVE with him. Should I hold out and wait for someone else that I have those feelings with or should I stick it out with him because we seem really good for each other?
2006-06-17 07:55:51 · 14 answers · asked by Niki 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're not really good for each other if you're not in love. Compatibility can only take you so far. By staying in a relationship with someone you don't love, you're missing out on meeting a guy who you could have those feelings for. You're young and there is no reason for you to "settle." I think you know what the right answer is....just follow your instincts. Always.
It *is* possible to find someone that you are compatible with and can fall in love with.
2006-06-17 08:01:23 · answer #1 · answered by Miss D 7 · 7⤊ 2⤋
You look quite young in your picture, perhaps too young to be settling down with anybody before experiencing more dating situations, including a more passionate love. One word of warning about passion, though: Everything has a price. I had an extremely passionate relationship with my husband but it was very destructive. There are many people who believe that having a best friend for a partner is the best you can hope for and that passion dies anyway... Only you can decide exactly what love is; what it should be; and what you want in a partner. Just know that you can not have everything.
Why don't you tell your guy that considering your ages you think you should see other people so that you can be sure of what direction to take your relationship. Understand that he will be able to see others too and you risk losing him.
2006-06-17 08:08:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have never been in love with your boyfriend you guys are better off just friends sounds like you are just stringing him along cause he may think you two have a future and you are going to end up breaking his heart let him go and you need to move on and find someone who you can fall in love with!!!
2006-06-17 08:30:43 · answer #3 · answered by roonie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my advice to you is if you dont love him then dont lead him on because he may have serious feelings for you even though he may not show it, you may be good together even as friends you may just want to be friends and wait for the right one you will know when your in love belive me.
2006-06-17 08:09:07 · answer #4 · answered by Kala H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should stick it out. sit him down and tell him how you fell and if he fells the same way then he will say that he loves you to. if he dose not fell the same way then you should go your ways but dont stop going out right away. because love take time what you might fell for some one rightaway, someone else could fell the same thing a month later.
2006-06-17 08:07:11 · answer #5 · answered by babyface 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a real good relationship which could be great friends if you were both girls....maybe you should go away for a week, like on a family vacation to see your grandparents or something and see if you miss him.
if you really don't love him and you care for him he deserves better. you should respect him enough to tell him that and also how much your relationship means to you. you need to find yourself and sometimes that takes a lot of time. don't put so much pressure on yourself, these thing usually work themselves out....but you should be fair to yourself and him if it isn't TRUE LOVE.
2006-06-17 08:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by rooster2381 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Settling is the worst possible thing you can do. I learned that early on, and it just ends up building resentment and frustration on both sides. You have to decide for yourself whether or not that is what you are doing in your situation.
2006-06-17 07:59:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not in love with him now, you may not be in love with him in the future. Maybe you should just be friends
2006-06-17 07:57:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick it out you dont fall in love immediately, you will know when he is the one, you have to grow into it
2006-06-17 07:59:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my exp. LOVE HURTS but is worth fighting for, if he loves you he will be obessive and stalk you and most likely go through your emails...move on and dont tell him where you live
2006-06-17 07:57:33 · answer #10 · answered by dave g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋