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2006-06-17 07:37:52 · 18 answers · asked by shyboy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
First, tell yourself every morning that you are an OK guy - as good as anyone.
Next, practice smiling and looking straight into people's eyes.
Practice your handshake. You need an 'initiative' hand shake. Put out your hand just before the other guy and say to yourself "I am truly happy with myself" as you shake hands. If you are introducing each other (or being introduced) repeat his/her name as if to memorise it and make it feel like really a good name to you (smile while you say it).
Smile when talking on the phone (you can grin if you like). The difference is truly amazing - you will get what you want much more often!
I read the other answers so far and, without a single exception, the ladies' advice is pretty good, the males advice is poor (and in two cases, would be disastrous - DON'T use alcohol!).
Martial arts or something like that is good training but is actually another defense against the world, like shyness. You have to go and meet the world on equal terms (and you can - you are as good as anyone).
It does take a little effort and pushing yourself just beyond where you feel comfortable socially. That is one good thing about joining a gym or a sports club of some kind. The trouble is that you will tend to meet people who are developing a defense system, as I pointed out. You don't want to meet that kind of people - you need to meet people who are interested in you as a person and find your company good.
2006-06-17 07:47:57 · answer #1 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a list of goals and start accomplishing them. Some of these goal should be social in nature to build not only your confidence in yourself but also to become more comfortable with how you are with others. (Like taking on a social activity you know you would enjoy but fear-out of a sense of unease interacting with others.) Confidence is really just being very comfortable with who you are in any situation. The key is to be comfortable with yourself by focusing on your positives and improving on your negatives. You can't improve on a negative like being too short, you must then accept that there is no negative thing as being too short and move on. If you know you talk over others in conversation out of nervousness or tend to be negative, these are the sorts of things to work on changing. Be the best person you can possible be and soon you'll find that you really like who you are and others will respond in kind
2006-06-17 07:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by jasonlajoie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath and force yourself to do something that scares you, like talking in public or doing something that might get you noticed, however small. even complaining in a shop is a big step if you wouldnt usually do so. Remember no-one is judging you and if they do then what position are they in to do so? Be yourself only a bigger version. Good luck!
2006-06-17 07:43:40 · answer #3 · answered by felicity_pink 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confidence takes not thinking about yourself, but thinking about others. I am not saying pleasing other people, but thinking about them. People who are shy tend to be very wrapped up in themselves.
One thing that helps is the group Toastmaster's. It's a public speaking club that is worldwide. The people are friendly, and you learn to get over your shyness by speaking on your feet. They probably have a local chapter in the area you live in.
2006-06-17 07:44:33 · answer #4 · answered by lynda_is 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few beers always works for me, but if you're too young for that, you can practice by talking to people who you probably won't see again. That way, even if you embarass yourself, no one you know will have to find out. Once you get better at it, you'll be able to talk to anyone. Just remember to stay calm and that you don't have to go from not talking at all to dominating the conversation.
2006-06-17 07:44:55 · answer #5 · answered by zquax 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm, well alot of people look to increase the activities in there lives. some people rely on there extroverted friends to bust them out of their shell. Try karate classes, try things you never have done before once u learn what you can and cant do, then you might have a better understanding of yourself.
When you discover yourself you discover greatness.
2006-06-17 07:41:54 · answer #6 · answered by futurehero5200 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confidence as in what?If you could explain that perhaps we can help.Anyway all you need is awareness about yourself to gain good confidence.Positive thinking cannot help you.Optimism can.Optimism is the key decrease your shyness.
Good luck
2006-06-17 07:42:12 · answer #7 · answered by Eternity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come to the realization that noone is better than you. You are just as great and fabulous as they are.
Oprah said she became less intimidated by imagining others while on the toilet.
:) Good luck, T
2006-06-17 09:34:17 · answer #8 · answered by tula_p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get off the computer and talk to peaple.
I only do it while i wait to go away again and am bored in my own house
2006-06-17 07:42:05 · answer #9 · answered by brokeneyebounce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
soz i dont kno but i'm realli shy nd got no confidence 2 but ma m8s do try nd get me out ov it xx
2006-06-22 22:16:23 · answer #10 · answered by chanz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋