okay i have been with this dude off and on for 7 years we have a son togther and for 7 years off and on he has cheated on me slept with other women he lies all the time he use to hit me before i started putting him in jail for it . okay get this i never left him he was always the one to leave me cause he would lie or cheat and i was angry and he dident wanna hear the anger that i had so he would leave he even has oral sex with women that are over 350 pounds he goes down town on them he just doesnt care i mean iam not thin but it makes me feel ugly when iam only 169 pound s5'7 and he sleeps with these other women . Iam screaming inside i hate him so much and the last time he left again it took him 2 weeks to move in with some women he new from school that he ran into and 3months of them living together he asked her to marry him she leaves him then he wants me back and now he is here i need a way to have the power with in me to say no and move on with my life he is nastey i want better!
2006-06-17 06:57:54 · 22 answers · asked by lovlisuzy51880 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There are so many better guys out there just move on move on and run to the hills and don't look back. Keep your son too.
2006-06-17 07:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by Neilman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve better. Get supportive people -close friends, family- around you when you say no to him, so you'll have others to reinforce what you say, and keep him from trying to convince you. If he's kept you for this long, hes probably charming enough to make you have second thoughts. Tell your chaperone/helpers/friends to get you out of there as soon as possible. Maybe set up a time to meet in a good well populated place so he can't make a scene. Calmly tell him that you don't want him to be a part of your life and then LEAVE. Make sure your supportive friend person is there to help things along.
and hey, why do you feel ugly cuz he sleeps with other women? Hes obviously a jerk so his opinion is probably not worth much. You obviously deserve way better. He's a LOSER, you said it yourself.
2006-06-17 07:02:40 · answer #2 · answered by ChaChaChingThing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have some serious d*amn issues lady. What do you want? A metal for sticking by someone who treats you like sh*t, hits you and isn't faithful? You are on here screaming that you want better yet screaming at how you are better than the women he's cheating with, yet you remain. What difference does it make what these other women look like? The only thing that should matter in that situation is that there is "another" woman to begin with.
What I am about to say is more than likely going to peeve you off, but so be it. If you don't have the balls to get out for yourself, stop getting online screaming to other people how abusive he is to you and how noble you have been in staying. Why don't you tattoo "fool" on your forehead? Because that's exactly how your question makes you sound. And please do not get huffy and come at me with "you don't understand" because I DO. I packed my stuff and LEFT, went to another state, put in NO forwarding address and walked away from my job and friends in a matter of hours because things got so bad. It can be done.
You have to make up YOUR mind that you are tired of being his personal doormat and punching bag. As long as you ALLOW him to hit you, he will. As long as you ALLOW him to cheat on you, he will. You ALLOW this by staying. Sounds like you have a choice to make. Are you going to grow some balls or sit there and whine?
On an added note: How many times are you going to ask this same question? It's on here 3 or 4 times from TWO weeks ago as well. Stop wasting people's time if you aren't going to listen to anything they have to offer. You don't want help. You want attention. FIFTY-SEVEN replies combined in your last posts about this and an additional TWENTY PLUS on this one.
2006-06-17 07:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by adagia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should seek some help for your low self esteem. I am not trying to be ugly but you should have kicked that trash to the curb a long time ago. You have a kid, if you can't do it for yourself than do it for the child. Move on with your life and quit living in the past. And if he ever touches you again, either call the cops or find something big and defend yourself.
2006-06-17 07:03:47 · answer #4 · answered by twanieskies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know he is no good for you or your child is that really the kind of expample you want to set for you child on how to treat a woman or how to allow a man to treat you. I feel you have some serious self esteem issues and need to seek professional help. Doing this will not only benefit you but, help you better your self so you can be a better mother for your child. "If you keep doing what your doing your gonna keep getting what you got." Good Luck and I hope you find the strength you need to keep you and your child out of an unhealthy situation.
2006-06-17 07:09:42 · answer #5 · answered by onlygroovychick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave. Say "NO, you can't stay here." Move to another town or state.
Stop being a loser and stand up for yourself. If you REALLY want better just start living better. You already know that you deserve better than him so just leave. Move out. Change your number, stop talking to him. It may not be easy, but you ALREADY know you are better than that.
2006-06-17 07:01:47 · answer #6 · answered by MissCan'tBeWrong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a backbone, some self respect, and concern for the safety and well being of your child. Plus you could contract AIDS or another STD from him. Move and leave no forwarding address, don't contact him.
2006-06-17 07:05:16 · answer #7 · answered by MamaBear1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is gone let him stay gone....I stayed with my husband who cheated and I tried to work things out....obviously your guy is like mine and didn't want to work on your relationship.
DO IT FOR YOUR CHILD!!!!!!!! It is critical you show them how a real man is suppiose to behave not like his father. You are your childs only hope. You know he is wrong so it is up to you and only you to save him before he idolizes this dad.
You haven't done it for yourself because you must have low self esteem after putting up with that. I have been there, get it together and let him go don't phone don't call etc. Let him go and grow up. YOu take care of you and yoru child as no one else it.
Stay strong girl it's your future....
2006-06-17 07:08:37 · answer #8 · answered by special K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want better then just tell him no. its hard because you are in a routine, but you can definetly do better...this should have been dealt with a long time ago and now it will just continue the same because that is how he is...you cant teach an old dog new tricks.
2006-06-17 07:02:01 · answer #9 · answered by monkeysgirl04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already have your answer...if you can't do it for yourself, do it for your son. Do you want your beautiful son to end up being a "man" like his father?
For some reason you feel like he validates you...you need to understand that you can validate yourself. You deserve to be treated right...and to have someone that cherishes you and respects you. You may have to find him, but he is there. And Every minute you spend on this loser, is a minute that Mr. Right might be passing right under your nose.
2006-06-17 07:02:38 · answer #10 · answered by Misty E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋