do couples watch porn together?

Question

my boyf wants too but im not too keen and he says that everyone does it to get them in the mood once in a while where as i prefer to use my own imagination, am i abnormal?!

Answer 1

No i feel the same way...my bf wants me to watch it with him too..and im just like i like my own mental pictures..

Answer 2

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Answer 3

No, you are not abnormal and no, not "everyone" does so. It's not your cup of tea, he should respect that. On the other hand, what's the harm in trying something that your partner likes? Why not try it once under the stipulation that if you aren't into it or do not enjoy it that he will let it rest? But to answer your "do couples watch porn together?" Yes, SOME do.

Answer 4

Definitely not abnormal. People do use it once in awhile, I've been with the same person for 9 years!!! So sometimes it's fun to try something new. The important thing is that both of you are comfortable and respect each others wishes. There's also no harm in trying it once......get one of the classy ones where everyone is airbrushed and the scenes aren't so graphic.....just a thought. Anyway, good luck and don't dwell on it. : )

Answer 5

Yes, couples often do watch porn together, but...

No, they shouldn't, and people shouldn't watch it alone either.

OK, lot's of people are going to say it's normal or harmless, and perhaps sometimes it is, or in some perfect world it could be. Gonna call me a prude? Ha! You're wrong for sure.

In the real world, porn-swillers are supporting a sleazy industry that takes advantage of abuse victims and women with drug habits, etc. There is plenty of and mounting evidence that watching porn normalizes abnormal behaviors, dulls the appetite for good old fashioned romance, etc. If you don't believe me, go to a shrink and ask them. Ask your mother. Ask your minister. What, you don't want to ask them? Huh, could it be because that makes you face the truth, that it's deviant? If you are hiding this stuff, then you have to ask yourself "why".

And people will tell you it's free speech or something: what's important about free speech is that ideas matter, that ideas are important. Well, if ideas matter, who is in favor of these bad ideas?

And in terms of respect, If the woman in the relationship is against it, then the man in the relationship should respect her opinion and wishes. If he refuses a simple request like this, you have to ask yourself how reliable he's going to be on more important issues.

This is not a huge nutball crusade, it's just that we shouldn't be afraid to talk about it, and talk about it openly, including with your mothers. I'm not afraid, so what are the porn-swillers afraid of?

Answer 6

well, no, you're NOT abnormal, if you don't wan't to watch porno with him, tell him, i'm sure if he loves you enough he won't forse you and he will totaly understand, but if he dosn't understand, then, I'm sorry, maybe he dosn't care about you enough....you have to considder your parteners feelings and maybe he isn't, so a good ol' chin wagg should sort out the problem.....and tell him that there are other ways and other things to do together that get you into the mood, try spending some more time on foreplay......that might work or have a romantic dinner, sare a bath, see all these things could work, and still leaving the porno in the underwear draw......

well good luck!

Answer 7

Have you noticed that every time we are induced into doing something wrong one phrase comes to mind" everybody is doing it". To refer to your question, may I say that not everybody is doing it. Watching porn may be a turn off for you while others get their kicks out of it. You are not abnormal because your behavior is based on your upbringing and other factors intimate to you. The respect of your emotions, your likes/dislikes will create a better understanding and longer lasting relationship. You do not have to submit yourself to porn to be normal, it is only a cultural trend and you can take it or leave it.

Answer 8

There is a whole genre of porn called "couples movies". Some are kind of 'instructional' in tone. They give couples ideas for things they might like to try and make it easier to talk about what you like and don't like. Others are kind of like chick flicks (plot, romance, believable female characters) but with love scenes that are more explicit.

Good Vibrations has a large selections of couples movies. Good Vibrations was founded in San Francisco BY WOMEN. They have print catalogues and are on-line. You must be an adult to shop there. Have fun.

Answer 9

I know a couple in their 60's that do this

they say it get's them going HaHa

You will find it's mostly blokes that want to watch porn beforehand

Maybe they fantasise that they are with the person they just saw on screen?

My wife is very happy with my performance, we do not need ideas from others, we use our imaginations and have fun.

Answer 10

nothing abnormal about you, I for one perfer your particular approach to foreplay and events that lead to steaming up the bedroom windows but that might not be for everyone. The imagination is so much better than any porn I have ever watched.

Answer 11

We get home from work. Sometimes he brings flowers, sometimes I have picked up something he especially likes to eat. We kiss and hug hello. We pour a glass of wine and chat whilst cooking, then we sit over the Dinner table discussing our day. We watch the news and read the newspaper, then we head upstairs and make love with the person whom our heart, mind and body desires. That's normal!