ok the thing is that not only the parents doesn't agree but also the religion itself otherwise you're kicked out and not allowed to have any contacts with your family.although i love my parents and same to him,but we do love each other so much. what is the solution if my mother loves him as himself but not to marry her daughter and somehow she is afraid from losing her relatives otherwise she have no problem.????sollution please how can i get him and still have my family?
2006-06-17 05:53:16 · 12 answers · asked by nina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nina, I don't suppose that with the problems you are having with your parents you really want to hear from ANOTHER PARENT, but here it goes. I am assuming that you are of age? Now at the age you are, everything seems a little more difficult than it should be. Your parents want whats best for you and when they tell you something it is not necessarily a good thing or a bad thing. Are your parents over baring? Or are you able to talk with them? A lot of fear, parents experience, stems from a fear that YOU may make the same mistakes they made. (what ever they may be) You and your guy need to sit down and talk to them like adults. Don't give them ultimatums it will only make them angry and you unhappy. Tell them what you want! Tell them that you still need them but that NOW you have someone new that you need as well. Give them the benifit of the doubt! Explain that you aren't tossing them away, your just adding another person in your life and in theirs to love. When I marriad my guy I was Catholic and he was Assembly. We never thought in a million years that it would work out the way that it has. We have been together for 20 years. Don't get mad, just be yourself and allow them to see your no longer a child. Don't be afraid to show how you feel and what you want. But, remember, your parents love you let them into the relationship you have with your guy. Include them in dinners and outings. Let them see just how great he is and how great you are together. Most people think that when you turn 18 you should grow -up, move out, and move on with out your parents. Why? We are people too! Parents and children need to work together, no matter what their age. Be strong and allow them to see the wonderful adult they created. That is the most important thing! Good Luck! P.S Sorry about the spelling! My spell Check is down! lol Yuck!
2006-06-17 06:27:12 · answer #1 · answered by wonderingmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SEE THIS IS THE PROBLEM OF LOVE NOT WITH THE CONSENT OF PARENTS.OF COURSE LOVE IS BLIND.YOU WANT TO KEEP THE CAKE AS WELL AS EAT IT ALSO. 5THAT IS LITTLE PROBLEMATIC.FIRST OF ALL TAKE YOUR PARENTS IN TO CONFIDENCE.IF YOU RUNAWAY AND DO THE MARRIAGE THERE WILL NOT BE A SOCIAL SUPPORT AS WELL AS THERE WILL NOT BE ANY RELATIVES FOR YOU. YOU WANT A LIFE LIKE THAT .PLEASE FORGET THE FELLOW IF YOUR PARENTS DO NOT ALLOW.NO HEAVEN WILL FALL DOWN.HAVE YOU EVER THOUGHT THAT HOW MUCH LOVE AND SACRIFICES YOUR PARENTS DID FOR YOUR WELFARE AND GOODWILL? YOU WILL NEVER KNOW THIS UNLESS AND UNTIL YOU HAVE A CHILD OF YOUR OWN.PLEASE NEVER DISCARD YOUR PARENTS.IF THEY ARE AGAINST PLEASE FORGET AND BE A GOOD GIRL FOR YOUR PARENTS AND MARRY A GUY AS PER THEIR WISH AS WELL AS THEIR BLESSINGS.
THEN AFTER ALL IF AT ALL YOU DISCARD THEM AND MARRY THIS GUY SO CALLED LOVER OF SOME OTHER CASTE IT WILL SO DIFFICULT TO GET ADJUSTED IN LIFE.AFTER THE CHILD IS BORN FOR YOU , THEN ONLY YOU WILL COME TO KNOW THE VALUE OF YOUR PARENTS HOWEVER PLEASE DO NOT TAKE ANY HASTY DECISION.
GOOD LUCK.
2006-06-17 06:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by gkakkasseri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let your parents or religion dictate who you marry that is an archaic practice which is ridiculous; we are in the year 2006 not 1806, be an adult and step up dont let anyone or anything dictate who you marry
2006-06-17 05:56:47 · answer #3 · answered by Alicia F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me say about residing with out one yet another is amazingly lame, definite i stated lame. First you instructed me what your relations thinks about you courting yet you probably did not say what GOD stated about in case you both replaced into into GOD or faith? there is is a huge difference. study a million Corinthians 13 financial ruin a million-13 verse. distinctive the time mothers and fathers in proper , and what little ones prefer to do is rush into issues. you spot GOD is like you mothers and fathers he see all and knows all.. you would look chuffed proper this second yet your mothers and fathers were put in charge of you for a reason, and that's what i do not realize about youthful little ones proper this second. because you grown you imagine you understand better than the mothers and fathers now?? once you replaced right into a toddler your moms and dads knew what replaced into proper for you, Why Now they are stupid??? it really is how i think you youthful little ones imagine about mothers and fathers!! i imagine you may search for GOD in prayer , definite you and your boyfriend could be going to church each Sunday and in search of GOD commonly used as well going to him in prayer , in time GOD grant you with the right answer on your lives. properly you stated you may't stay with out one yet another? The question is are you able to stay with out GOD? And in case you do what you elect , your no longer self-discipline and if residing for GOD is first in existence, then each thing else is 2d.peace continuously
2016-10-14 06:13:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your decision should be made on one basis. What is more important to you. Him or your family. Take your time when making this decision because it is a life changing one.
2006-06-17 05:58:38 · answer #5 · answered by septima 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and Ur bf should try to talk to Ur respective parents and make them feel that u have chosen the finest partner u could wish for and he supports and will support u all Ur life
2006-06-18 20:24:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG THTA IS HARSH BUT I GUESS IF YOU LOVE HIM THEN RELIGION SHOULDNT MATTER MATTER IF IT CAMES DOWN IF LIKE YOU LOVE EACH OTHER THAN BE WITH HIM IF YOUR FAMILY DECIEDS TO DISOWN YOU THEN I GUESS THAT THEY WILL JUST NOT HAVE A FAMILY MEMBER BUT I WOULD JUST TALK TO THEM ABOUT IT AND TELL THEM THAT YOU ARE GOING TO BE WITH HIM ADN THEY SHOULD STILL TREAT YOU THE SAME WERE EVERY YOU ARE WITH
2006-06-17 06:01:57 · answer #7 · answered by tropical_sweety2587 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just prepare ur all family members for this reality and if they all accept him, there will be no problem
as well as
also prepare ur husband,
to believe in ur religion spontaneously,
and if he do
u have love of all ,,
family & husband
and u too, believe in his religion
all the best,
Pinki (India)
2006-06-17 06:18:18 · answer #8 · answered by Pinki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They might not understand how serious you are about him. You parents should let you decide who you spend the rest of your life with.
2006-06-17 05:58:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur tellin me....i face the same problems as you.... when u figure it out let me know!
2006-06-17 05:57:17 · answer #10 · answered by bilahboo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋