My friend has lost his dad, and he is very sad lately. Today he was telling me about some of the memories they had together and I started crying. I felt so bad because I made it worse for him.
How can I make him feel better?
2006-06-17 05:50:57 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Time, One will never forget, but over time, it will easier to deal with. I have burried a brother, and my father, I have never forgot them, but life does go on. It is not easy to understand this "at the time"
2006-06-17 05:52:49 · answer #1 · answered by G. M. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how proud of him you are for loving his Dad so much.
That his father must have done a good job because he turned into such a great guy.
make him go for a walk with you or you take him somewhere. keep doing stuff that is basic and simple, a long walk in the park or at the beach will keep you busy and that is easy to do. get lots of fresh air and keep moving....walking is almost the best remedy for anything.....do it everyday if you can, make it a ritual, tell him you're trying to get in shape or need his company if he won't go.
drag him if you have to. then when he starts to see the light at the end of the tunnel see a good Romantic Comedy or something light, no heavy melodrama. just having you near will help....you are a very dear friend. everyone should be as lucky! way to be, you are terrific:)))
2006-06-17 13:02:14 · answer #2 · answered by rooster2381 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your doing the best thing you can do...listening to him. People go through many different stages of grief. People handle things differently, too. Just be there for him when he wants to talk about his dad, and dont force him to "cheer up" . He will accept the death on his own time and theres not a lot that will speed the process up. Just be a friend and tell him you are there for him if he needs you. Good luck.
2006-06-17 13:07:03 · answer #3 · answered by AstonishingAries<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for him. Try and watch and listen to what he says and pay attention without forcing your ideas in his direction. Ask if you can help in any way. Remember the good things about their relationship. His soul is with God now and God knows best. The Dad may have left his body but his spirit lives on, as the Holy Bible says, we are created in God's image .
2006-06-17 13:01:48 · answer #4 · answered by traveler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the lose of someone that you care about is really hard to take i know how that feels the only thing i can advise you is to make sure he knows that he has you and that you will always be there if he needs someone to talk with other then that theres nothing that can be done for him just be there for him support him in his time of grief. remember one thing people go through stages of grief and they need all the support that you can give them durning that time i hope this helps you good luck nad
2006-06-17 12:56:11 · answer #5 · answered by Ann C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just being there for them is the best you can do for anyone I believe, and just listen to them .....I don't think you made it worse..if anything it let them get their feelings out and talking...that always helps, just recently my daughter-in-law lost her 26 yr old sister and three kids in a automobile accident this last monday june 12th.....and all we can do for her is to be there for her and talk with her . We see how she is doing everyday. So Just be there for him and of course let him know you care .
2006-06-17 13:09:25 · answer #6 · answered by qckdrw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make it better by being there to listen and allowing him to talk about his memories of his Dad. Sometimes people don't know who to talk to about someone they lost, if your friend is comfortable enought to talk about these memories with you I am sure you did not make it worse for him.
2006-06-17 12:59:15 · answer #7 · answered by Mic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just being there for him is alot any lising to him talk about him and its hard not to cry but if it happens it happens you cant hold those feelings in i know when my friends lost his dad he got mad at me and told me that i don't care cause i want crying. so right now its best to let all your feeling out and I'm sorry to here about your friends dad
2006-06-17 12:57:02 · answer #8 · answered by angel_blue_tattoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for them and that should do it and make them feel loved and comforted thats all you can do no gift or word can bring back some one that was so important to them like their dad and being fathers day tomorrow its going to be really hard to move on from the sudden death
2006-06-17 12:54:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just continue to offer support day or night and make sure he knows that you really mean you will be there for him. Call daily and drop by often.
2006-06-17 12:52:55 · answer #10 · answered by adkfoaiefnafedw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋