long story will try to cut it short, basiclly i was homeless for about 4 months then had an oppertuninty come up in another counrty took it now i'm going back to england in a months time and and don't know where to go my best friend has offered me to go back to sleeping on her sofa she lives with her mum and it will be strict or i can go and stay with 2 guys who have offered me the spare bedroom but they are constant partiers and can be a bit of a hand full! i wanna feel settled but not sure where i should stay till i get back on my feet, both r only temporary!
2006-06-17 04:56:18 · 15 answers · asked by blondebirdcrazy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Nothing feels more settled than a strict environment (ha ha). I am going against the grain here and recommending the spare bedroom. Here's the reason. I think strict would drive you crazy sooner than you can get back on your feet and you would end up hating the friend's mother (and maybe the friend). You also said "go back to sleeping on the sofa" so you've had the experience before and don't want to go back. If you can work and prosper in that spare bedroom environment, you'll have a real world feel for the way things are. I think you can handle the two 'guys', because you already know them well enough to know they're a handful.
Kick some ***!
Good Luck
2006-06-17 05:08:26 · answer #1 · answered by Ice 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Im also in the minority and agree with ice! Live the guys. You will have your privacy and still remain freinds with your freind who lives with her mom. The partying all hours, will also give u the motivation to take control of your situation, as u may get sick of it. or they may mellow down for u. Its only temporary, so just make do til u are in a better situation.
Do as the others have recommended go to the council and also get a job. If u have money, u can get your own place or be a co-tenant. First find a cheaper place and then u can if u want move to a better place.
Good luck- hope you can find your ideal accomodation, i know how hard it can be!
2006-06-17 05:37:31 · answer #2 · answered by simplyfun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the offer from your g/f first.....if this is unbearable (and I can't see it being that bad, a bit of strictness/tough love never really hurt anybody), then go with the 2 guys, as long as you'll feel safe and happy there (and only you'll know that).
I know many girls who share apartments with men and they much prefer it to sharing with girls or parents etc..........so it really depends on the type of person you are and the characters of the people who are offering you help.
Good Luck!
2006-06-17 22:46:49 · answer #3 · answered by Zane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look up the following website, it's got me out of a few tight jams in the past. Even now I move every six months (until I want to get settled) and I always find rooms here.
www.easyroommate.co.uk
dave
2006-06-17 05:05:14 · answer #4 · answered by dave w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know what both opportunities like... Sounds to me like you will not be truly settled in either scenario. Maybe best to pick the one one that you are most comfortable with and go for that. Then do everything that you can to sort out a longer term arrangement...
2006-06-17 05:03:45 · answer #5 · answered by Aidy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the gf's offer,u do not want 2 live with a bunch of party animals. it may be strict but u know u will work harder 2 get ur own place faster that way.
2006-06-17 04:59:54 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id take the g/f option. yes it will be strict but thats better than having 2 guys being partygoers all the time. stayng with ur friend will help u get back on ur feet and her parents may even be able to help u get ur own place. please just DONT go to the 2 guys place .
2006-06-17 05:06:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your friends house at first, then speak to the Council or some other organisation to help you find a place! Good luck
2006-06-17 05:04:09 · answer #8 · answered by Mel.B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where are your parents? Perhaps you should consider marriage- if thats your country. Otherwise go back to your country and made do with good and better life. It aint worth sleeping out. That's cruel girl.
2006-06-17 05:08:22 · answer #9 · answered by mikail 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would go and stay with your friend, she seems like the best bet, you will get peace and give you time to think about what you are going to do and how you are going to do it,
hope this helps and good luck
2006-06-17 05:03:11 · answer #10 · answered by JPN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋