He is 15 yrs younger than I and we have been living together a year. We truly enjoy each other's company and love one another. My practical side though tells me he isnt the best choice for the long term. How can I decide to stay with him or not?
2006-06-17 04:49:27 · 11 answers · asked by cowgirl_up11 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He is 15 yrs younger than I and we have been living together a year. We truly enjoy each other's company and love one another. My practical side though tells me he isnt the best choice for the long term.
He is a hard worker and does a lot for me around the place (not lazy). He is a great friend, likes to be with me and engage in activities I like. I truly think his heart is in the right place as far as doing the best he can.
How can I decide to stay with him or not?
2006-06-17 05:29:44 · update #1
Perhaps it's not the right time for your relationship. Maybe he needs to acquire a bit more financial understanding, planning, and security. OR jump in, and have strong regret down the road.
You're already aware of the pitfalls. Either work them out together.........or choose your Independence.
2006-06-17 04:54:46 · answer #1 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if there is some consternation on your part because of the age difference. You ask regarding financial instability, but the first thing you write is the age difference. If you are supporting him, and he hasn't made any real effort to work, or earn money in more than 3 months (even washing dishes pays something, and don't be fooled by a "this job is beneath me" excuse), then I think you two need to talk, with a deadline set for him to work out his "financial instability". If it is truly about age, that becomes your hang up, and only you can work through that. Remember that when you're 50 and he's 35, that women his own age might be more attractive to him. Yes that makes him a jerk, but you can't control that.
Good Luck
2006-06-17 11:58:50 · answer #2 · answered by Ice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to try and help him with his financial stability. Make sure that before he sets out to purchase an item, he has set a budget that he can afford. If he doesn't have a bank account, have him open one and put away a percentage of his paycheck. That will help him save money and support his stability as well as his future.
2006-06-17 11:56:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, as well as I know, that long term , you want a man that has financial stability, or you will NEVER have the things you want and need. Better to get out now, than to end up homeless, and hungry! Good Luck!
2006-06-17 11:58:33 · answer #4 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you worry about the financial instability that much, maybe you should talk to him about maybe pooling your finances, and you taking charge of them. Ask him up front about what he sees for himself in the long run. Where he wants to be and how he sees himself getting there. He needs to be thinking about these things.
2006-06-17 11:51:56 · answer #5 · answered by aloha_lea413 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, do you want a boytoy to take care of? Or a manfriend to be a companion with. Still, boytoys eliminate the need for a dog.
2006-06-17 11:51:51 · answer #6 · answered by shehawke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady, get out while the going is good. Caring and loving don't pay the rent or the bills.
2006-06-17 11:52:25 · answer #7 · answered by Scabius Fretful 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 years is a lot younger. On top of that he is financially unstable......good enough reasons to leave him.
2006-06-17 11:52:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a choice... "the head is put above the heart to rule over it, not to be pulled down..." that's just my opinion...
love conquers all, so as to speak...
helping one another will get you off
2006-06-17 11:58:31 · answer #9 · answered by Squall_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heads-yes, tails-no.
2006-06-17 11:51:41 · answer #10 · answered by Mic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋