What is your opinions and thoughts on gay marriages? Adoptation of children?

Question

Why do you say it is wrong or ok?

Answer 1

I think its' ok. Look at it like this. If gays are allowed to marry, some will want to adopt and have a family just like everyone else. They dont mind adopting the children that others dont want. If abortion is made illegal, there will be a huge increase in children being given up, right? Who's going to adopt those children? Gays dont 'raise children gay'. There has been many studies on this. They are actually less rigid and judgemental to the children they care for, probably because they were given hell by their own parents. Most children raised by gays turn out straight. This makes sense cause only 3-10% of the population is born gay and gay people dont generally 'recruit'. Banning gay marriage is just like the Jim Crow laws of the last century. It is discrimination and bigotry. The problem is that gays are only a small percentage of the population. Even if every single one of them marched to make their voice heard, it would be dwarved by the Civil Rights marches of past days. Is it ok to bigot against them just because they are too small a minority to force change? Look into the other reasons for gay marriage, like your gay partner being able to make medical decisions for you in emergencies, power of Attorney, inheriting property or estate, funeral decisions. These people are mostly in commited loving relationships that last for many decades, but when a crisis happens they are pushed aside, have no right to decide care for their lover, can be called to testify against their partner, can be shoved aside by the sick ones family.

Answer 2

Well, I hate to say what I've said so many times before but...of course gay people should be able to get married and adopt children. Here's why:

Marriage is not a religous institution. It is a legal one. If it were religous atheists would not be allowed to marry and marriage would always be affiliated with church/bible/God and it's not. Two people can be married by the Justice of the peace and never associate themselves with any religon. Churches should never be forced to perform gay marriages.

With the religous arguement removed, there really isn't very much arguement for the other side. Being normal, or the way it has always been does't hold any water because until the middle of the 20th century, in the US, interracial marriages were not normal and hadn;t been done. But it was right for the Supreme Court to rule in favor of it.

The last arguement that is very common to oppose gay marriage crosses into the adoption question also: children. Thse who say marriage is for procreation etc are sadly mistaken as well, or there would be mandatory fertility tests to get a marriage license. There would also be set guidelines as to how long a couple would take to begin reproducing etc. People who could not, or did not want to, produce children would not be able to marry.

Adoption is meant for two people who will make good parents. There are some straight people and some gay people who do not fall into that category. There have been many studies done that concluded there is no negative impact on children raised in households with homosexual parents, with the exception of getting teased by other children. But interracial children get teased as well and that's not illegal. That comes from children brought up (primarily in straight parent households) So is the problem the kid with 2 moms, or the kid with 2 ignorant parents who raise their child to believe that hazing, bullying, bashing, or insulting anyone else is ok (when that person is "different".
Can anyone name one famous "evil" or "bad" or "mentally ill" person who was raised by gay people. Hitler, Ted Bundy, Charles Manson, Jeffrey Daumer,Son of Sam, Osmama Bin Laden (lol), keep going. Find a person raised by homosexuals that has killed, raped, molested, etc etc. I think you will be hard-pressed to support that theory. So all those things aside, what's wrong with gay people marrying and raising families?

Answer 3

Don't bring Jesus into this. There is separation of Church and State for a very good reason. Gay people are human just like us and should be given the same rights as everyone one of us has. Don't bring the Bible into this either - not all of us go by the Bible - but it doesn't make you Bible thumpers right and us wrong. The world contains hundreds of valid religions. Quit thinking only you Christians are "right". There is no such thing. Let them marry, let them be parents. Can they do any worse than some of the straight parents you hear about? It's time we stop judging people by race, creed, or sexual orientation. The world has too many problems to worry about who is marrying who and if God approves. Leave it up to God if that's what you truly believe. You are not to judge any of us. So...yes I am ok with gay marriage and adoption of children. And in case you are wondering, I am straight and married 31 years with one child.

Answer 4

I don't really have an opinion about gay marriage one way or another, but I think that adoptions should be legal there are so many kids out there in need of a loving home so why not allow gays to adopt or singles for that matter.

Answer 5

Letting gay get married puts absolutely no strain or marring on any heterosexual marriage. The only reason people are so up in arms about it is because the churches are afraid that they will be forced to perform marriage ceremonies.
Well, they can rest assured that the seperation of church and state that supposedly exists in this country will not pressure churches into that.
Homosexual relationships are far more stable than those of hetrosexuals. There have been many studies of this. People whine and piss about the sanctity of marrieage, yet the divorce rate is almost 50%, and celebrities are getting married left and right to random people and then dropping it almost immediately like a bad habit. But we don't see these fanatics running out and crucifying those people do we?
The government has no right to say who loves who and who can marry who. Just because someone is not of like mind to you does not make them any less of a person.

As far as adoption goes, I have friends who have homosexual adoptive parents, and they are just fine... in fact, they are some of the nicest people I have ever known. I never knew that one had to moms, or the other had two dads until lateer in our friendship, and ya knwo what... I would never have guessed. and Guess what... those friends are happily married in heterosexual marriages. Gee... they were raised open-minded... It is not fair to foprce children to suffer in orphanages when there are many loving couples out there willing to give them a chance at a good life, and to let them grow to their potential and try to make this crap-filled world a better place to live for all.

Answer 6

The gay marriage battle is a fascinating one -- and the battle itself frightens me, though not for any reason you might expect.

The gay marriage fight is really a battle between two groups of religious denominations - Christian and other in both cases. That battle is being missed by the media, and I believe that the battle threatens democracy in America.

One of the reasons for the Revolution, in which ancestors of mine fought -- was to establish freedom of religion in the new nation. Now, we are throwing that away, because contrary to what those on the Right would like you to think, this is not a battle between "people of faith" and "atheists" or some such -- this is a battle between two groups of people of faith, using the government to establish one sides views -- the EXACT THING that the anti-establishmentarian clause of the Constitution is there to prevent.

Of course no one should "make" those whose faiths oppose gay marriage perform such marriages, and no one ever would. So ministers from the Southern Baptists and Assemblies of God and Ultra-Orthodox Jews and Fundamentalist Muslims should never be asked to perform gay marriages, and certainly not forced to.

On the other hand, why should faith groups that support gay marriage -- such as the United Church of Christ, the Unitarian/Universalist Society, the North American Spiritualist Church, Reform Judaism, and the Correllian Tradition of Wicca -- all recognized Churches and 501c3s be barred from practicing their religious faith, which says it is ok to marry same sex couples?

The first group of faith groups is realistically using the government to prevent the second group of faith groups from practicing what they believe. The founders tried to prevent this, for the stability of the country. It doesn't matter that everyone "thinks" they are right and others are wrong -- it matters that we are plural as a society and the government should recognize everyone's ceremonies the same -- which means that gay marriages committed by churches and faith groups that believe in gay marriages, should be honored by the government regardless of what groups that don't like it say.

Everyone's beliefs can be honored, thus preserving the values that my 12 times removed Great Grandfather died for -- but not if we allow one side to legislate away the rights of the other side.

And that's what I think.

Regards,

Reynolds Jones
http://www.rebuff.org
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Answer 7

i'm all the way for gay adoptions!
1. when a pair of gay partners decide to adopt, its a conscious choice to bring up a child together. there is not risk of "opps honey i'm pregnant" and that pair of parents might be abusive to the child. this will never happen to a pair of gay parents because it doesnt make sense why they'd want to go through so much trouble to abuse an adopted child.
2. stemming from above point, since its a conscious choice, both parents will give the best to the child, as best as they can afford so we can be assured that the child is cared for properly
3. due to society keep telling us gay people that we can never raise proper children, we try our best to prove them wrong so in that area, we'll provide wonderful emotional support to our child. to teach them its ok to be different and how to tolerate and accept these differences. so our children may grow up to be better human beings as compared to children from a "normal" family.
4. we are normal human being too with all normal human emotions, and part of those emotions will dictate that we (especially lesbians) have maternal instincts. since we will not get pregnant via a guy's appendage shoved up us so the other most logical way is to adopt!
5. there are plenty of unloved and neglected children (mind you were neglected by people who were deemed ok by God - since they are straight) so its only logical to spread the love to them, they like us, did nothing wrong. the only thing wrong was that we (gay parents and neglected children) were born into a loveless world that will not tolerate us.

and for all the bible thumpers out here in the gay,lesbian,bisexual and trangendered space, please LEAVE THIS PLACE! NO ONE WANTS YOU HERE. GO ELSEWHERE TO PREACH!!! WE ARE NOT A WILLING AUDIENCE!!!!!!!!!
LEAVE US ALONE PLEASEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!

there, i hope i've addressed to everyone's questions...... i hope this help :)

Answer 8

The Christian church seems to have come out in force against gay marriage. And yet, they sat quietly by while the laws were passed giving gay couples the right to adopt and raise children. So, it's OK for them to have kids, but not file a tax return together. Shows where their hearts are, doesn't it?

Having said that, I ought to mention that I am a Christian. Homosexuality is a sin in the eyes of God. So is murder (abortion is murder).

Jesus came to forgive sin. All sin.

With God's grace, your sin can be forgiven. With His love, you can overcome it, whatever it is.

:)

Answer 9

F*CK all of these idiots! Quit judging ppl you morons! Just cuz you are gay don't mean you will molest "YOUR OWN KIDS." Ppl on here are so dumb saying "Being gay is a choice, blah blah blah!!" It's f*cking proven that it is NOT A CHOICE! Read about it stupid asses! So I most DEFINITELY think that gay ppl should marry and be able to start lives together! This is an "EQUAL" country without "equal" rights........yeah that makes alot of sense.....President Bush needs to be impeached and we need a damn Democrat up in here running this place! Then maybe the equality will be brought back to this country and this idiot President we have now can go back to Yeehaw town and discriminate some more

Answer 10

I hate to repeat the same thing you probably have heard, but since you asked:
Marriage is a holy right intended only for a man and a woman, there are other things that gays can do besides getting married, and they need to find one.

Adoption of Children?:
Straight: Only if one partner is not fertile
Gay: never, do you have any idea how badly that would screw up a kid's life?