Have woman raised their sons to believe that men are un-important lowering their babies self-esteem?

Question

Ok, I've noticed that men today are about as helpless as us women ... can't paint ... fix stuff ... and men expect everything to be handed to them. It also appears that men who've been raised only by their mothers are really helpless ... So, has feminism destroyed the raising of the young men???

Answer 1

I agree with you. I believe single mothers sometimes struggle when trying to raise a young man, although not in their own eyes. The same as single fathers raising daughters. Neither sex has experienced living as the complimenting sex. Thus, neither sex can truly understand or appreciate the physiology or mentality of the complimenting sex.

When raising young men, single mothers often try approach the task from a feminine approach. They may teach him laundry, mowing, cleaning, and even certain do-it-yourself duties. However, women cannot understand the natural aggression, energy, and sexual drive surging through these young men due to testosterone. This is the reason most video games, action movies, and aggressive sports are played by males. Not to say females do not participate, but females join and leave depending on their mood while males constantly seek these thrills.

A father, however, who has experienced maturing as a male, has the knowledge a young man needs. A father knows how to harness the great advantages of testosterone. The aggression, sexual drive, boldness, and fearlessness. While controlling it. He has the knowledge to raise a masculine man who still has the love and compassion a father needs.

Raising a young man takes perfect balance of discipline and tolerance. If the man is not disciplined he will become to aggressive and never gain control over his natural sex drive. Yet, if the masculinity in the young man is suppressed he will grow effeminate. Incapable of the many tasks a man ought to do by nature.

Answer 2

As a single mother my son watched me mow the grass, trim the hedges, fix the plumbing and anything that a true man of the house would help with. His father never lifted a finger unless it was wrapped around a golf club or a beer bottle or another woman,hence my divorce. My son at 17 can now mow the grass, trim the hedges and fix the plumbing, he can also wash his clothes, cook his own meals and be a good husband to some really lucky girl someday.

Answer 3

Helpless as us women?? WOW!
Women can do practically anything so we aren't helpless at all. When living alone I was surprised just how many things I could do. I promise you don't need a man to fix things for you.

I do notice a number of men with no class, but this is a seperate issue perhaps.

Answer 4

i do think that having a father figure in the life of a child is important. not all young boys have that though. it's not by the child's choice, or usually the mother's choice that the father of the child has walked out of the picture forever. some men make the choice to go on with their lives and leave the past behind them. so to answer your question, i DON'T feel feminism has destroyed our young men. i think their daddies walking away lowers their self worth... imagine how it would feel to think one of your parents didn't think you were important enough to bother with. and us mother's are left to pick up the pieces and we do the best job we can raising the child with wounded pride. i know i do my best to raise my boys to be SUPER little men. and i will pat MYSELF on the back for doing such a good job for all 4 of them.

Answer 5

No, Dearheart, feminism hasn't, Society in itself has. We've moved from agrarian to urban as a culture and the last few generations have not had to work as hard as their ancestors have. There are people who paint for them, people to fix their cars, mow their lawns etc etc....in the last twenty years, children have been given everything they have asked for (on a whole not in general) and have not been taught to "do". Haven't you noticed that young men in general seem to be overly stimulated yet lacking in both social and household skills? It's very unfortunate. I can fix things better than most twenty-something males.

Answer 6

Hey that's so out of order!! Obviously the guys you've met have issues like they are LAZY!!!!!

My son is 14 and I've brought him up on my own... he can paint, mow the lawn etc etc... He is not helpless, has a mind of his own and I'm goddamn proud of him!

He will make a wonderful husband/partner to someone and he is not a molly coddled nerd like the guys you know!

Don't judge others from your own experiences.

And thank you for letting me rant and get 2 points.

So there!

Answer 7

I am a woman and I paint houses, fix electrical problems, can put in a ceiling fan, and have it work! I have even fixed my own car more than 1 time.
I have 2 boys and a daughter and they will learn how to do everything I can.

Answer 8

No. Atleast not in my son's case. He is being raised with love and respect, but also taught to protect his sister and I, to open door, to learn to fix things etc.

Answer 9

no it all depends on the person people raise there kids different, nobody has the same values and morals, everyone is not the same, also how you were raised effects on how you are gonna raise your child,

Answer 10

YES, many mothers have turned their male children into a bunch of sissy, whining, wimps